MsVeDub

This is my biggest fear! Not that I will die on the table, or that I will have hanging skin - all of that is fine...but losing my HAIR! Hang in there.

The fat on your body is just a layer of cells like your skin. How the layer of fat got thick is irrelevant. It does not define you any more than your skin color, and your skin color certainly does not define you, Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. taught us that.
The essential you is not fat or skin layers, it is your character, your mind, your spirit. It sounds like you have a great husband who sees that.
You can change the fat layer with your essential you. Be your own friend, give yourself the same breaks that you would anyone else that you love. I believe God loves you, too. And He knows you better than you do.

My husband called me back and that's what he said too. Well he said I'm very insecure. He said I'm beautiful and nobody thinks all the things I think they think. You're right WLS won't fix my head. So how so I deal with with feeling so awful about myself?
I'm supposed to have surgery early December.

I started to lose my hair at 2.5 months out in fists full. I started to take a supplement (chewable) from GNC called b-beautiful and it helped but not with Hair loss but with regrowth. It is kind of pricey but it goes on sale and I stock up
The best part is that it stops and all my hair is back just as it was before. Short time side effect and well worth the healthy life!

Just curious if anybody else has lost there weight as rapid as i have? I've lost 165lbs in 8 months.I started at 381lbs and my goal weight is 200lbs.I'm 5ft 8 and my Bmi was 59.9 and now its a 33.8.

We all have days like this. When I feel like that, I actually get out of the house. Go see a funny movie - get a pedi done. If that's not an option then pick a project in the house that you can do that will make you feel better when it's over. Tomorrow will be better - just focus on getting through today. **hugs**

That makes me feel better, thanks.
I don't have a full blown dr phobia but I would say maybe an aversion....but a lot of fluffy people do.

Congrats! that means less time to stress over it. liquid diet is not that bad. I get sleeve in 2 days!

Surgeon's office just called to see if I can change date from Oct 25 to Oct 22. AAAAAHHH!!!!
So I'm being sleeved 3 days earlier but that means I have to start liquids tomorrow!!! Excited but kinda freakin' out now!

OMG!!! I just skipped to the pics - you are a totally different person. Way to go. Now back to reading your post.

OMG pumpkin Cheesecake sounds AMAZING!!!!!! Thank you so much!

Exactly! Bc lane Bryant was the only place I could get clothes at and it felt amazing! I started crying. I haven't shopped in regular store since high school and that was 15 years ago! I've stalled some and I did not buy a lot bc I know I WILL lose more. Next goal is Victoria Secrets:)

Ok so to give u an idea before surgery I was in a 22 top and a 22/24 bottom. I was never able to fit into regular women's size xxl. Well today I went shopping bc the clothes I am currently wearing r getting to big. I went to kohls and shopped in the regular woman department and bough an XL sweater and it fits! I also went to old navy and bought a couple of tops that were also XL! I am now down to a size 18 jean:). It just feels so good to be able to shop in a regular department store!

Well I am excited to announce that I had my annual fasting labs done this morning and my total cholesterol went up! My LDL (bad cholesterol) went up! and my fasting glucose went up (only 101 but still listed as high) WootWoot! I cant believe Im excited to have failed a test. Not to mention that with the increased exercise and supervised diet plan that my blood pressure has went up as well. Hopefully the insurance company will approve me before I croak.

After 6 month of waiting I finally got my date. I'm very exited and nervous at the same time I feel I have so much to do in so little time. to all the ones still doing the six month diet program keep going even though it feels far away it really is RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER

WOW~ I love your way of thinking! I'm actually going to steal that from you. Thinking about this a "rebirth" is truly a great way of putting this journey. Good luck to you!

Hello all. I have only been a part of this forum for a week or so. I am SO happy that I found a place where I can read real experiences and find a place where people understand my struggles. It shows I am not alone.
But I have a question – and this is no means to start an argument – it seems some people love to make a battle, and I don’t intend this to be one.
This is what I want to know. Why are we embarrassed to tell others (outside of our family – sometimes within) about the journey we are on or have done? Why do we allow others to make us feel that we should be ashamed or feel bad that we have chosen WLS? Most of us already feel bad that we are overweight – yet we allow the fact that we are doing something about it make us feel ashamed? I just don’t get it. (Of course if you are just a private person, this doesn’t apply – this is only intended for those who are feel ashamed or have a low self-esteem regarding the WLS)
I’m not saying tell everyone you know, but why “hide” it? Of course we are going to hear negative comments, opinions and even the horror stories. But guess what? It’s your decision – your body – your life. Just let those comments go from one ear and out the other. Then remember not to talk to those people about it again. You will find that you will get so many people supporting you. More people will support your decision and your journey then you think. Then guess what – it keeps you accountable. Others will keep you going with all of the positive comments. “Girl, you are looking GOOD”, “Man, you are smokin’”. You will start feeling SO good with all of the comments you will receive. Of course you will get these comments even if they don’t know – but my point is….you will have the biggest support system you could even dream of. Then all of those that were negative, prove wrong. Allow them to eat crow. Don’t be ashamed of what you are doing. EVER.
I use this as an example. I am in an interracial marriage. I dare someone to say something negative about my husband or child. I also dare them to do the same about me. YOU control how people treat you. Be proud of yourself no matter what.

That happens to me now...not looking forward to later. I just ignore him. LOL!

weigh yourself in the tomorrow AM after your morning "deed". Im sure the scale will go down. Stay motivated ~ you will get there.

I tell everyone as well...I don't know...I'm too excited...I don't care what they think....I'm shouting it to the rooftops...I HAD WEIGHTLOSS SURGERY!!!

I have been pleasantly surprised at the support and encouragement that I have received from the people whom I have told. I didnt make a big Facebook post about it and tell the world but I have told the majority of people I work with, run around in social circles with and of course all of my family. I have not gotten not even one single negative comment about it.
It does seem like when I go to outings or see friends, I am the topic of conversation, with them asking how I am, how much I have lost, what I can eat now etc.
It has been helpful for me to have told those people because when we get invited to their house, I dont have to worry about them being offended if I dont eat or if I bring my own food.
I am not advertising it to the world, but I am definitely not ashamed should anyone ask.

Hello all. I have only been a part of this forum for a week or so. I am SO happy that I found a place where I can read real experiences and find a place where people understand my struggles. It shows I am not alone.
But I have a question – and this is no means to start an argument – it seems some people love to make a battle, and I don’t intend this to be one.
This is what I want to know. Why are we embarrassed to tell others (outside of our family – sometimes within) about the journey we are on or have done? Why do we allow others to make us feel that we should be ashamed or feel bad that we have chosen WLS? Most of us already feel bad that we are overweight – yet we allow the fact that we are doing something about it make us feel ashamed? I just don’t get it. (Of course if you are just a private person, this doesn’t apply – this is only intended for those who are feel ashamed or have a low self-esteem regarding the WLS)
I’m not saying tell everyone you know, but why “hide” it? Of course we are going to hear negative comments, opinions and even the horror stories. But guess what? It’s your decision – your body – your life. Just let those comments go from one ear and out the other. Then remember not to talk to those people about it again. You will find that you will get so many people supporting you. More people will support your decision and your journey then you think. Then guess what – it keeps you accountable. Others will keep you going with all of the positive comments. “Girl, you are looking GOOD”, “Man, you are smokin’”. You will start feeling SO good with all of the comments you will receive. Of course you will get these comments even if they don’t know – but my point is….you will have the biggest support system you could even dream of. Then all of those that were negative, prove wrong. Allow them to eat crow. Don’t be ashamed of what you are doing. EVER.
I use this as an example. I am in an interracial marriage. I dare someone to say something negative about my husband or child. I also dare them to do the same about me. YOU control how people treat you. Be proud of yourself no matter what.

Actually, it is us that are embarrassed about this. Others can not make you feel anyway, only if you give them the power too.

WOW~ I love your way of thinking! I'm actually going to steal that from you. Thinking about this a "rebirth" is truly a great way of putting this journey. Good luck to you!