NCsleever63

Karen
I have had al the same feelings and questions too. I found it very hard to like myself in my own skin. My husband of course would say he loved me the way I am, but as you said I didnt love me. I had the sleeve done 5 days ago, I feel it's been a life changing event. The thing that I felt most important is that this was for me no one else.
The pain was really not too bad, the first two days were the worst. You will find all kins of info on this site and make some good friends it has helped me tremendously.
Welcome to VST. Dawn

Im in Waxhaw. Seems like its so far away, eveyone says it will go by fast. I hope so!. I am so ready to have a new life and I am sure you are too.

Thank you! That is why I come here and ask, because I know I will get honest answers.. You are all right, I have the tool and just need to get back to using it better!. Thank you~

Thank you! That is why I come here and ask, because I know I will get honest answers.. You are all right, I have the tool and just need to get back to using it better!. Thank you~

I had surgery on August 15th and I am down 37 pounds, which I really feel good about. I have not eaten a single piece of candy or surger since June and then....it's HALLOWEEN of course I bought way to much candy, and now it is sitting there calling my name. When I left for work this morning I brought a huge bag in for the office and I told my husband, do something with the rest of it, I do not want to see it. I totally have will power, I mean I have sat a huge Italian dinners and eaten only what I am supoose to, but between Wednesday night and this morning I have had 4 mini butterfingers, 2 packs (3 in a pack) of sweet tarts and if I am not careful I will have a partridge in a pear tree!!...I am hitting the treadmill double time tonight!!
Anyone have any good ideas as to what to do to stop the Halloween, upcoming holiday rush of food? I am all ears.

I had surgery on August 15th and I am down 37 pounds, which I really feel good about. I have not eaten a single piece of candy or surger since June and then....it's HALLOWEEN of course I bought way to much candy, and now it is sitting there calling my name. When I left for work this morning I brought a huge bag in for the office and I told my husband, do something with the rest of it, I do not want to see it. I totally have will power, I mean I have sat a huge Italian dinners and eaten only what I am supoose to, but between Wednesday night and this morning I have had 4 mini butterfingers, 2 packs (3 in a pack) of sweet tarts and if I am not careful I will have a partridge in a pear tree!!...I am hitting the treadmill double time tonight!!
Anyone have any good ideas as to what to do to stop the Halloween, upcoming holiday rush of food? I am all ears.

I think it has more to do with the confidence someone has after the surgery vs before. Being overweight, I know that I didnt feel comfortable in my own skin, so I bascially cut myself off from the outside world. I quit going everywhere I was invited. Now that I am down 30, I feel so much better about me and it shows. So maybe that is what your sister has experienced and so will you. Good luck with your surgery, I wish you all the best.

I think it has more to do with the confidence someone has after the surgery vs before. Being overweight, I know that I didnt feel comfortable in my own skin, so I bascially cut myself off from the outside world. I quit going everywhere I was invited. Now that I am down 30, I feel so much better about me and it shows. So maybe that is what your sister has experienced and so will you. Good luck with your surgery, I wish you all the best.

I totally agree NCsleever63! But I do think that people do treat over weight individuals differently.
I can't think of a single thing in my life that hasn't changed, at least a little bit, since I had WLS. I've changed and therefore I am changing the things around me. Nothing drastic so far, other than I have the energy for a puppy now so our family has a new member (since I can no longer have babies, probably a good thing). I'm still with my husband of 21 years but he eats much healthier, as do my kids. Family members come to our house for the YUMMY healthy treats that I make (that no one thought were healthy the first time they tried them). I am much more out going. Funny enough though, now that I don't drink and I am ALWAYS the DD for my friends I get invited out a lot more. I've noticed though that I got hit on (yes even though I've always been married and wore a ring) a lot more when I was heavy than I do now. Ah well, I'm comfortable now...except when I'm naked but I wasn't comfortable naked when I was heavy so I guess that hasn't changed. There, that is one thing that hasn't changed.
Ok, done rambling now...

My confidence for sure! And then my mood... I'm happier more often now than before and I think that those two things together has attrached people to me. Folks in my office who never smiled and told me hi now stop me in the hall to chat, and I've been at the same office for over 5 years.
I think I must come off as more approach able because I seem so happy and open, instead of frowny and dodgey.

I think it has more to do with the confidence someone has after the surgery vs before. Being overweight, I know that I didnt feel comfortable in my own skin, so I bascially cut myself off from the outside world. I quit going everywhere I was invited. Now that I am down 30, I feel so much better about me and it shows. So maybe that is what your sister has experienced and so will you. Good luck with your surgery, I wish you all the best.

I think it has more to do with the confidence someone has after the surgery vs before. Being overweight, I know that I didnt feel comfortable in my own skin, so I bascially cut myself off from the outside world. I quit going everywhere I was invited. Now that I am down 30, I feel so much better about me and it shows. So maybe that is what your sister has experienced and so will you. Good luck with your surgery, I wish you all the best.

These are the right steps in the right direction. I am a firm believer in doing research and getting all the info I can. I joked with my Surgeon that I thought I could do the surgery myself with all the research I had done. Ill make one more book suggestion its called "Okay... I've Gone Through Weight Loss Surgery, Now What Do I Do?!". I just ordered it myself, but it came highly recommended. Keep us posted, let us know how your doing.

Thank you to everyone who has responded. I may pick up that book NCsleever63 suggested and/or seek out some therapy. When you undergo a WLS in the city I live they require pre-op counseling, however, since I went to Mexico none of this part of the journey was ever discussed. Takes time to form new habits which I'm ok with. Think I was so focused on researching and getting the surgery itself, I failed to think about what happens once the procedure is done. Thanks again for all your feedback! Glad I joined this site.

I agree with Lissa, I see the therapist that did my initial evulation. I have seen her weekly since that first time. I am one month out today and I have lost 22 pounds, but the scale has not moved in several days and I have been exercising everyday. A good book is breaking free from emotional eating, I really identified with the author and have put to use some of her coping suggestions. Its hard, no one said it would be easy, but I hope with time it gets easier.

I agree with Lissa, I see the therapist that did my initial evulation. I have seen her weekly since that first time. I am one month out today and I have lost 22 pounds, but the scale has not moved in several days and I have been exercising everyday. A good book is breaking free from emotional eating, I really identified with the author and have put to use some of her coping suggestions. Its hard, no one said it would be easy, but I hope with time it gets easier.

I felt all those same feelings. I am 4 weeks post op tomorrow and NO REGRETS. Its normal to feel sad, anxious nervous all at the same time but it really is a new beginning. The OR nurse told me I was the calmest patient she had ever seen, I told her because today is a do over day, you dont get many of those in life and this is mine. Yes, you will have some pain, its bearable. Get up and walk, its the best thing and after a couple of days you will feel so much better. good luck tomorrow JUSTINE13 and sending prayers your way.

I'm open to help, assist, butt kick, pat you on the back... all that.
I absolutely believe in this tool with all my heart! It has done for me what I couldn't do for myself nor even the lap band was able to do for me either. It was the best find and I can't say enough how it's given me my life back!!!
I won't say I know everything, because I DON'T! But in my career I always say, if I don't know the answer - someone else does. I'd like to open the discussion for anyone who needs someone to listen or to answer those millions of questions that come with this life altering surgery.
Blessings to all!!! Your dreams are at your doorstep now with the VSG.

I had my surgery on the 15th too. How are you doing?

I wont miss wearing a sweater over my top to work on the hottest days of the year because I'm fat and it hides my stomach.
I wont miss having to buy x-large and wearing a tankini.
I wont miss all those oversized tops in my closet .
I look forward too a whole new wardrobe. I look forward to going for a regular massage and not being the fat girl. I look forward to being sexy again for my husband and leaving the lights on. I look forward to a whole new life
Thanks UT Gal for starting this link!

Yes, often it is too late when you realize you've had too much and, it isn't much at all! I'm sure everyone has had a few throwing up episodes. Eat 1/8-1/4 cup of anything at one time. You will learn. You will also be able to each a half cup to a cup eventually. It's crazy and something you have to get used to. It's also a fabulous thing. Love my sleeve!!!!
Good luck.

You are both, but it is so worth it that your excitement will take over very quickly. Good luck and prayers your way, keep us posted!.

Hi Newbie,
All really good questions and thoughts, I have them myself. But, what if you did not lose weight and get healthy, what if your pre-surgery weight makes you sick to a point where you could not do any of it anyway? What if you get hit by a bus tomorrow? (metaphorically of course) You can still do all those things, just in a healthier way. Its just time to only focus on you. Do whats right for you and not what if's. Go to those resturants, share a meal. Go on vaction, choose wisely (do you ever really eat and drink enough vs the cost, I would bet not) Just know that its about you, your health and well being. He loves you, and will be there for you, yes relationships change even without WLS. Be strong.

Every time you eat something that isn't puréed or mushy this early, you greatly increase your risk of a leak, until weeks 6-8. It's not worth it. Take the food they are eating and purée it. Even that would help prevent a leak. Be careful! Leaks will land you in the hospital for quite some time. I watched someone go through this and it's nothing to mess with.

Karen
I have had al the same feelings and questions too. I found it very hard to like myself in my own skin. My husband of course would say he loved me the way I am, but as you said I didnt love me. I had the sleeve done 5 days ago, I feel it's been a life changing event. The thing that I felt most important is that this was for me no one else.
The pain was really not too bad, the first two days were the worst. You will find all kins of info on this site and make some good friends it has helped me tremendously.
Welcome to VST. Dawn