Marriage is tough. Especially when you love someone who is not the person you want them to be. Being married for 20+ years is a rarity now days. I hope your confidence increases as your weight decreases. When you are happy (and none of us are that happy being overweight), I think and hope it will bring happiness into other areas of your life like your relationships. I've been married 10 yrs and my struggle with weight has affected my marriage because I didn't feel that great about myself. He is a great guy but has not always been perfect. I wish you success with your weightloss and whatever happens with your husband I wish you much happiness in your future.