We have struggled for many years. But he's still my best friend. I know. I am at fault with why he hates me. I have financial debt. And he literally passionately hates me for this. But the reason is because he is so stingie with money, it was the only way over the last several years to deal with raising two sons. He is totally unreasonable when it comes to money. I wasn't always overweight, just the past few years. Yes, our sex life has suffered due to my weight, his attitude, and I believe he has low testosterone (he is 48). Part of me just realized today that he is probably worried (though he would never admit it). I know this, because the last few weeks, he's 'consuderate' in fattening me up?!?! Like, he goes to get his drinks for work and brings me a large bag of chips (and pick them up, they're yours I'm told). Or we are eating out and he wants to order me more food or share his if I'm still hungry (which I'm not). So I think he IS insecure. I want things to get better with him, not worse. I think his family is a negative on our relationship too. Like my parents never voice their opinion, to me or him. His mom has to be involved in everything AND throw in her 2 cents. With our relationship and our kids. They treat me like the 5th wheel, and he never acknowledges their behavior or how I feel. So the money and his family is our main problem. If those two things weren't a factor, things are fine.