MrsSweny

"poisonous hissing queens" LMAO!!!

My weight loss is way beyond noticeable now (50 pounds in 6 weeks) And, ironically, most of the people in my office who have commented on my weight loss (in a good way) are the straight guys! Everyone knows I'm gay, so imagine my surprise. The women just gnash their teeth and look at me somewhat suspiciously. The other gay guys in the office are mostly of the "poisonous hissing queens" species, so I knew I'd get nothing from them except bitchy gossip behind my back. Go figure!

A lot of people do not compliment because they are afraid they will offend you. It funny but I have seen it here on these boards. I personally LOVE the compliments, but some people really do take offense and think things like, "Oh, you mean I didn't look good when I was fat? I wore designer clothes then and nobody said I looked good. Why are you only saying it now! Why are you only noticing me now??!!" etc., etc.
On the flip side, that is what they think you will be thinking.
I eat the compliments up because, well ... I looked like hell when I was 246 pounds. I looked worse than hell. I look much better and feel much better now thank you VERY much .
Don't worry. They see it.

I just came home from a bad surgery experience and have gained 18lbs in 4 days. My mom helped me up the stairs and told me I was beautiful and she was proud of how strong I am. I think she's gonna need to adopt you honey .

Congratulations on your weight loss! That's incredible!
A friend told me she complimented someone on her weight loss and she found out later the woman had cancer. She said that's the last time she'll do that before knowing for sure the story. That's doesn't explain EVERYONE in your life.
Unless some jealous person passed on that you don't want to call attention.... (now that would be terrible). Haha, I think I'm watching too much competition "reality t.v." with that line of thinking.
Anyway, keep on shrinking...and hold your head up high!

You have gone an excellent job, keep up the great work!!
We put so much focus on our sleeve and nutrition and exercise, etc that it really becomes a big part of who we are. Because of this, I think we over analyse every aspect of it at times. You are beautiful, I guarantee people notice and just assume its not a topic you wish to discuss. Take a look around and you will find other people are upset because others are asking about their weight loss.
Keep up the great work.
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I had someone tell me that they didn't want to say anything about my weight loss because they thought I might be sick or something. Lol
Keep on rockin' sweetie!

You should be VERY proud of yourself! I lost 43 pounds before surgery, but it wasn't until a couple of weeks ago, when it really started to show in my face, that people started really noticing. I also waited waaay too long to downsize my clothing, because don't want to buy a lot of stuff (even second-hand) that I will wear for only a short while. You too, possibly?
Hang in there! I'm sure everyone will say something sooner or later!

Maybe it's just the way I view things but..... I wouldn't take it in a negative way. It's like when you see a woman gain some weight and she looks what you may think is "pregnant". I was told never to assume or congratulate when you don't know for sure. It's the same thing here. Weightloss can be cause by many things. Things like stress or a sickness. Maybe these people don't know if you are sick or intentionally losing the weight. I think that it's a big possibility. But either way, keep doing your thing. Try not to feel the way you are feeling and keep attaining those victories! Congrats on your Weightloss.

Girl that's crazy, pray for her and keep it moving. Pray that she never have to experience what you and some of us have had to go thru. But you reap what you sow so just try to be there for her when the times yet rough because they will get rough.

I get the impression that's not the only problem you have with your mom, or the only problem your mom has. That's why I haven't talked to my father for years: if I don't get any positive net gain out of the relationship, why bother?
You don't choose your parents anyway, it's not like you're obligated to stay connected to people who suck just because they had sex and you happened to be a result.

Girl, your family is like mine.... Just keep losing.... When you are as thin as them, you get to say things like "oh my gosh, you look as fat as I used to in that" haha those are amazingly fun things

I want to slap your mother. Sorry, but that was just such a horrid thing to say to you. I am sorry you don't have the support from your family. I hope you can find support here and, more importantly, I hope you can look in that mirror everyday and tell yourself how freaking fabulous you look and how wonderful you are doing.

Your mom must be super-model thin for her to think she can pass judgment on you like that. That's shameful. Is she a borderline personality or something? And I thought MY mother was narcissistic and shallow.

Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you.

73 lbs is a LOT of weight and I am sorry you are not getting the positive feedback you desire. You will get it from us here! I am sorry your family isn't being more supportive. Keep your head up because you are losing VERY WELL

That was kinda rude of your mom. No matter what anyone says, you are kicking butt!! 73 pounds is awesome. I'm sure you look much different. I would guess that at least some of the people haven't commented because they aren't sure what to say - I'd imagine don't wanna comment because they aren't sure yet, maybe they've noticed some changes but don't wanna point it out if you haven't actually lost? Either way, you are doing amazing, keep your head up, and the compliments will come eventually. The heavier we start the longer it takes to see a big change.

Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you.

Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you.

That doesn't seem possible!!! Are you around lots of jealous types??? Maybe they don't want to be too personal? ( or are you talking about family?)

So sorry you're not getting the accolades you deserve from those close to you. But you should be very proud of yourself!!! What an amazing accomplishment!

I totally agree! You have made awesome progress, if no one has commented on it they are either blind or jealous. LOL

Define "not one person". Does that include your family and close friends? Did they know you were having surgery? Sometimes people shun the idea of WLS because they think it's the wrong choice, the "easy way out", etc. So maybe they're just bitter that you did it and it's working for you. Remember, at least you found a way out!

Good job with your progress, everyone is different in how they show it. I lost 40 before surgery and no one said anything.
Then I went back to work three weeks after having surgery. I had only lost another 20ish at the time, and suddenly everyone was commenting on it.
I think you'll hit that point when the weight loss, for whatever reason, starts to show up much more visually. Plus, since women are shorter it can take a little longer to notice.
Keep up the good work, it'll happen.