Valentina

Unless the hospital is sending hair to a third world country for weaving, I can't think of a single reason why one would have to shave for WLS. I didn't have to shave for childbirth, spinal surgery or a hysterectomy.
You simple HAVE to ask and then PLEASE report the reasoning back to us.
We will be right here, keeping your place warm on "The Losers' Bench".
Bless,
Valentina

There are many on this site who can give you better advice on your post than I.
I just want you to know that I read your post. I am listening. Sometimes, I hope it helps to know that there's someone "out there" who is willing to just listening.
I know you will find a way over this "bump in the road" on you WLS journey. I realize that it's a huge bump, but with enough support and determination I am confident that you will succeed.
Best wishes and prayers going up for you, my friend.

Dub,Dub, Dub, ---my dear friend. Finally I can hopefully give YOU some sage advice.
REPLACE THE SUCKERS!!!!!
I did the Celebrex thing. I did the Aleve thing, the Naproxen thing, the Tramadol thing. I also had the Cortisone injections as well as the injections made out of cocks' combs--Synvisc. I went to PT for months and months and months. I even ate oxies four times a day for almost a year. Chiropractors? Nope---not my thing.
I was told that I was too young to have a knee replacement---I would have to have another one after ten years or so.
I will tell you, now, my friend---I would have ten knee replacements if I have to rather than live with that kind of unacceptable pain.
Why should a person have to wait until they are in the seventies to have a knee replacement? --when our bodies do not heal as quickly or as well as when we are younger?
I would (and did) rather have my knee replaced when I'm younger and enjoy my middle years pain free. AND I have been free of any knee pain---completely and totally.
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Is knee replacement a tough surgery? You bet.
Is it historically the most painful surgery to recover from? Yep
Is it sooooo worth it? You bet your sweet bum it is!!!
So, Grasshopper, that is my sage advice. I hope you will accept it knowing that it was given with compassion, empathy and endearing friendship.
Now, Go forth and prosper!

Unless the hospital is sending hair to a third world country for weaving, I can't think of a single reason why one would have to shave for WLS. I didn't have to shave for childbirth, spinal surgery or a hysterectomy.
You simple HAVE to ask and then PLEASE report the reasoning back to us.
We will be right here, keeping your place warm on "The Losers' Bench".
Bless,
Valentina

I think you need to go to the ER--today--preferably the one that you bariatric team works with.
Something is wrong somewhere if you are this ill.
Be assertive--not aggressive and get some answers, my friend.
Go. Feel better.
I'm concerned for you. Don't panic. Take a deep breath, then go find your answers.

Unless the hospital is sending hair to a third world country for weaving, I can't think of a single reason why one would have to shave for WLS. I didn't have to shave for childbirth, spinal surgery or a hysterectomy.
You simple HAVE to ask and then PLEASE report the reasoning back to us.
We will be right here, keeping your place warm on "The Losers' Bench".
Bless,
Valentina

Congrats on your weight loss.
A very old and wise woman (wait! she was me! ) told me once, "Make the most of what you have and the least of what you haven't".
Be joyful with your WL journey. It may be more leisurely than what you thought, but the scenic route is the more joyful.
You're going a great job. Believe it.

Congrats on your weight loss.
A very old and wise woman (wait! she was me! ) told me once, "Make the most of what you have and the least of what you haven't".
Be joyful with your WL journey. It may be more leisurely than what you thought, but the scenic route is the more joyful.
You're going a great job. Believe it.

Smart move----getting checked out just as soon as you did.
It's amazing how painful anxiety and/or nerve upset can be. I'm sorry you had to experience such a "bump in the road".
Take a deep breath. Rest for a wee moment to contemplate, and THEN get your arse up and get movin' down the path to your new and joyful journey.
Please, don't hesitate to ask any and I do mean ANY questions you may have along the way. That's what BP is all about---supporting one another--helping when we can, and referring to others when we can't.
Stand strong. You aren't the first, nor are you the last member to make a mistake. We ALL have--to one degree or another. --and continue to.
Keep posting . I look forward to sharing with you the success of your WLS journey.

Hello,
I had my surgery in June 2011. I have been in mourning and in therapy since my S.O. committed suicide the day I had my surgery.
Long story, but here I am mentally ready to restart my weight loss journey--at 62yrs old.
Am I too old to start all over?
Is there anyone out there that would be willing to give my badly needed support? I live in RURAL upstate NY and am literally alone.
I made an appointment to see a nutritionist this Tues.. I thought that would be a good place to start, since I have forgotten almost everything that I learned pre-op, and I have a SEVERE allergy to soy and a lesser allergy to all other legumes.
I guess what I really am looking for is a friend or two. I need a friend right now.
Valentina

I just passed my 5th year anniversary of my sleeve surgery.
"Way back then", sleeves were not the "gold standard". Bypass was.
Anyway If I can be of any help, just shout out.

Good or bad?
I was pulled over for a routine five point check and the State Trooper did NOT recognize me by my license photo.
He just laughed and laughed and laughed. Then I realized that he was a school mate of my eldest daughter.
He strongly suggested I get a new license photo.
Damn Brat!

Interesting expression. I literally used to ask God, "How can the sun shine? How can everyone just carry on with their lives. Don't they see that I'm dying?. Am I completely invisible?"
I don't know if you are old enough to remember the song with the lyrics, "why do the birds go on singing? -----------------can't they see it's the end of the world?" That is exactly how I felt.
BUT, now here I am--a wee bit slow getting out of the gate, but watch my stride!!!!
Thank you for your words. They actually had me smiling and humming. Thank you ever so much.

Hello,
I had my surgery in June 2011. I have been in mourning and in therapy since my S.O. committed suicide the day I had my surgery.
Long story, but here I am mentally ready to restart my weight loss journey--at 62yrs old.
Am I too old to start all over?
Is there anyone out there that would be willing to give my badly needed support? I live in RURAL upstate NY and am literally alone.
I made an appointment to see a nutritionist this Tues.. I thought that would be a good place to start, since I have forgotten almost everything that I learned pre-op, and I have a SEVERE allergy to soy and a lesser allergy to all other legumes.
I guess what I really am looking for is a friend or two. I need a friend right now.
Valentina

I know two women that had WLS in Albany, NY, but I think both of them went to Albany MED.
How are you doing since your surgery? Do you live in the Albany area. I live in Stamford, NY and looking for a WLS friend close to home.
Hope you are healthy and happy,
Valentina

We already have a Vets forum.
I don't see the need to segregate the site further. PM if the need be.
I think we just need to be more supportive of one another--no matter how long or short our journey has been.

We already have a Vets forum.
I don't see the need to segregate the site further. PM if the need be.
I think we just need to be more supportive of one another--no matter how long or short our journey has been.

You are not alone. No matter what you're feeling---no matter how silly, ridiculous, wrong, isolating, self flogging you are feeling just know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
If ever you needed someone to share what you are experiencing with----the time is NOW.
Please make an appointment with your therapist --one who specializes with bariatric issues.
He/she will be able to help you sort your feelings out and how to move forward.
WLS is a roller coaster. Mourning for food is normal for most. Not seeing the "new body" in the mirror is echoed by most of us. Not "knowing" the new body and feeling uncomfortable with it is real. ( I wonder if your body is just not comfortable at your lowest weight---just a thought)
BUT, it ALL of those feelings can be isolated and dealt with , with the help of a professional therapist. I'm five years out and I'm still seeing my therapist regularly. No shame in the telling--in the sharing.
Above all,I guess what I want to get into your head is: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Along with some therapy, keep posting here. There are members here who will care and emphalize. I certainly do.
Hang on and keep talking.

Unless the hospital is sending hair to a third world country for weaving, I can't think of a single reason why one would have to shave for WLS. I didn't have to shave for childbirth, spinal surgery or a hysterectomy.
You simple HAVE to ask and then PLEASE report the reasoning back to us.
We will be right here, keeping your place warm on "The Losers' Bench".
Bless,
Valentina

Aaaahhh go on... like you weren't handsome and charming at 500lbs??? Now you're trimmer, handsome and charming.
You're looking happy. That's what counts. Keep on truck'n!

Glad to see a group of core vets stick around. I feel like we certainly are available for specific questions.
I've been here for years and chose not to participate in sniping....or sexual innuendo... just not me.
Happy to come here to read supportive posts... I count on it!
It is a major help to me almost daily.
I hope others feel that way. And use this site selectively for their information.

Well I don't know what you're reading but I personally went to the other site it's confusing as hell and if you don't agree with the mediators they simply just delete your comments without a reason.
What comic relief are you talking about I don't see anything funny on this site right now that would deserve being called comic relief. This is the site for people who want to come here and ask questions and hopefully get answers without being ridiculed. I guess I'm just one of the people who didn't drink the Kool-Aid and follow the so-called leaders I'm glad that I can think for myself and make my own choices
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Also nothing wrong with being active on more than one board. There is no decision making for one board or another required.

Remember ladies, that anything you "crock pot" and then put into the blender you can have on a pureed diet.
That opens up allllll kinds of weird but wonderful ideas.
Crock pot some ribs with a light Bar-b-q sauce and then blender it. The taste is there, if not the appearance. It resembles a pulled pork. --and is delicious!
You can do the same thing with a chicken and diet root beer. I know. It sounds "strange", but try it. You'll be pleasantly surprised.
Be creative and think outside of the box. The pureed level can be one of the most "fun" levels. You just "gotta wanna".
Good luck playing mad scientist!

Sometimes I believe that one can feel more engaged to advice given by a member who has NOT had such a determined, straight to the finish success journey. Knowing that there are members who stumbled but who were able to overcome and get back on track can be extremely normalizing, and reassuring.
Of course we all want to and need to hear about the success stories, but isn't it also important to see the members who got through to their goals after suffering set backs, battle scars, and still are living a healthier, life?
Today's "newbies" have sooo much to offer. There are new procedures, new methods, new nutritional studies and guidelines. Like most medical procedures and techniques, WLS has changed--for the better in the last few years. In fact is has flipped almost 100% on some topics.
We all can benefit from listening to the newbies. -----really listening---not just reading along---but consider what they have to offer and learning from them.
I'm 5yrs + out and I can still look forward to learning from the well intending members who are actually here to pay it forward and not just trying to exercise "one upmanship" with humor (?) that is off the mark, base and hurtful. At 5yrs out, I don't find myself "supported or advised" by that mentation.
Tough love is still supposed to be "love". There is supposed to be a compassion behind "tough love"----not just mock the poster and "let them fail". If there is no "love" behind "tough love", the advice is moot---the point is lost because being the target of the "jest" becomes "personal".
I feel blessed to have come this far on my WLS journey. Do I wish my personal journey on anyone? No--no one ever!
Do I think I have come through a personal tragedy at the beginning of my WLS journey and maybe --just maybe be able to help one person from having to experience the same? --or God willing, help them to get through it? I hope so.
I've been a member on BP since 2011. Has the sight changed? oh, yeah. It has "circled". More than once. History truly does repeat itself. Veterans stay. Veterans go. Veterans come back. Some---a few never leave. Newbies ask the same questions? sure. They're newbies--are they supposed to ask "old" questions? Those are the same questions the Vets asked when they were newbies. Many Newbies don't stay. Many will leave and come back. Many will become tomorrow's Vets.
There's nothing new or revolutionary about any of it...
The circle goes round and round.