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I hope so, cause I'm the same way. Look at skinny folks, there veins pop out. I think the fat covers my veins up.

I am the same as you losing 85 twice over the last 10 years, never making it to goal, however faithfully following a diet until I ended up straying. Over and over again since I was 12 years old. A couple of years ago I decided I didn't have the heart to do it again, to make the effort and get bigger when I gained it back. Bottom line is less than 1% (think this is what my paperwork from the endocrinologist said) ever lose the weight, make it to goal and keep it off. I've felt for years that I have dieted myself fat, and I would get the control and do it again saying this time is different... no going back. It is totally self-defeating. I had one girl at work trying to sell the body wraps, and another selling Vitamins. The one selling the wraps works really close to where I do, that we can talk and she even started being pesty... at some point she said "Don't you want to be thin, and lose the weight"? I remember responding that "I don't care anymore, that my whole life has been about focusing on my weight and what I put in my mouth, but those dang body wraps ain't going to do a thing for me."
My NUT called me a professional dieter... yep, that's me! I know (or think I do) about diet and excercise! I have tried everything (except those dang wraps). I have flipped my opinions through the years, and part of me always believed that Dr. Atkins was the way to go. That reformed diabetics who swore off sugar, had the best success rates. I am talking about in my world and people I have known through the years that lost weight and kept it off. Those fanatical about avoiding sugar were the most successful, of course I am stating in my opinion and observations.
You are right, so many people do not get it and they never will.

Bless you! Loved the comment, rather have someone work on my stomach instead of my heart. That is what I'll say to anyone who has a negative comment about this surgery!

I can make grade limeades and lemonages... get crushed ice and fill a glass with it, squeeze lemons or limes (about 1/2 a lemon or a lime) and add 2 splenda and stir! Awesome!

I can make grade limeades and lemonages... get crushed ice and fill a glass with it, squeeze lemons or limes (about 1/2 a lemon or a lime) and add 2 splenda and stir! Awesome!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

At work a bunch of the overweight women are starting a "weigh in" once a week, and everyone pays to weigh and whoever loses the most gets the pot. I was approached on Thursday about joining, and it was someone I felt comfortable telling... and basically said you know it wouldn't be fair for me to be part of the weigh ins, plus I'm fixing to be out. I also just turned in my leave and was worried about getting questioned from management or problems... so, I have "FMLA" papers in process. I am taking a full 5 weeks, I have the sick time and also I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work. I am a mail carrier, and we lift a lot! I came back in from my route on Friday afternoon and was confronted by the Postmaster. She asked me if I was going to participate in the weigh ins. I said NO, and was going to leave it at that. Then she looked at me and said, "You chicken"? I said, "NO... I wouldn't feel right about kicking all your tales and taking all of your money". She was... "WHAT?"" I then spilled it, "I'm having weight loss surgery". She grabbed my arm and told me "she was so proud of me and for me, that she had thought about it for years but didn't have the courage to do it." She wanted specifics, and had a million questions. I decided then and there that maybe I can help others... The hardest person to tell was my mother, but I've dealt with it. Wouldn't feel right leaving her out. My husbands family has been mean to me about my weight, and I told him he better not tell any of them... I don't care if they think I'm on crack, or if I have cancer.... don't tell them anything. They have never supported me and aren't on my support team. I also work with a guy that just had the RNY in June and everyone is supporting him. Hope it is the same for me!

I am also October 16th and close to the same weight. I started at 285 and lost some, down to 272 - but the doctors scales today said 275. I'm in Atlanta, GA and started the process at the end of May, I'm with Kaiser... so I had some hoops to jump through.

I lost a lot of hair with a diet 3 years ago... Three years later still really thin on top. I was worried about bald spots, it was getting that thin. Knowing that this surgery is coming up I bought Biotin and have been taking 5000mcg daily and my hair is getting thick! Very thick... I keep reading that it doesn't work, but I disagree I have the proof.

They make unflavored Protein that you can mix with anything, is it the powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury? Someone help me out here. My NUT said mix it in Soup, Water, whatever. I don't plan on buying any because I found a shake I like. The others have already pointed out that the shakes are temporary. Usually 2 weeks before and a few weeks after, until you are getting the Protein from food. My NUT stresses to get rid of the shakes.< /p>
I also work in the heat and drink Water like crazy. My NUT assured me I would be fine. It works itself out. I used to drink 32 oz during a 1 hour workout and know that probably won't happen, so I've been trying to sip and workout without drinking so much - playing around with it. I think sometimes I drank more than I needed.

I hope the op and the person who had surgery recently will return. Some of the comments were unnecessarily harsh for the sake of being rude. Yes, we need to help some by being blunt but not by being mean. Let's give some the same type of support you wanted when you were new or struggling.

Tough love should come from family, maybe the doctor, or the NUT, or maybe the personal trainer. Tough love shouldn't come from a complete stranger on a message board in a "support forum". Everyone on here has had a weight "problem", and everyone on here did something that caused that problem. This surgery may have 100% fixed it for some of you, but for others, they are still struggling like before the surgery... just maybe not as much. How would you have felt eating a hamburger and onion rings in a restaurant if a complete stranger came up and took your food and threw it in the floor and stomped on it and said, "You are fat because you eat XXXX"... STOP! The same points can be made in a NICE way. I personally will never listen and/or absorb comments from someone who is rude. Even if you have lost 100% of your excess fat and doing great right now, who's to say you won't become weak at some point and lose that control and gain every single pound back???? My doctor said that all the surgeries can fail, and if someone wants to bad enough they can eat around them. I also think that some people come on these boards, not just here but other sites causing discord for attention. Maybe they lack it in real life.... or maybe they keep everything stirred up there also. DRAMA. I don't need it. I want this to be a positive life changing event in my life, and when I keep seeing this kick butt attitude, I think well.... I didn't sign up for that. I want to make some friends and get positive support.
Some of my husbands family have really been ugly to me in the past few years. I told my husband DO NOT tell anyone in your family about my surgery. (Just like a lot of people don't want friends or co-workers knowing). He said he told his mother, Cathy is on a diet... and I'm like stop! She is not, they are not my support team. I want the people in my life that LOVE and support me behind me, the rest of them can kiss my tail. I don't need "nasty nice", I don't need "tough love"... I need support. What goes around comes around is about the just of it. I'm personally rethinking this forum. There are a handful of people that are all bad and tough that think they can "whip" people in shape.
This has a name. Another board I belong to has said it will stop, and every person doing it will be removed... it is called "trolling"! This behavior runs off the good people, and attracts more trolls.
Trolling is an Internet slang term used to describe any Internet user behavior that is meant to intentionally anger or frustrate someone else. It is often associated with online discussions where users are subjected to offensive or superfluous posts and messages in order to provoke a response.

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

This topic has made me feel that I cannot post here if I am struggling. I am also seeing other people post topics and beg for no negative feedback... really? I also feel like I've been belittled for stating what most of the posters have said here... be respectful, be nice and be supportive. In my opinion there are a lot of insensitive people here. If anyone on here could "stop eating" then there would not be a sleeve forum.

Poolguard, I wasn't even talking about your post. Six pages of posts have been in response to some really rude replies. I am only stating what 90% of the posters have stated since the original poster was pretty much attacked when asking for support. This forum has rules:
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So, now I am a hypocrite... now I do have a problem with you. Why can't people just be nice. Why can't the original people that posted hateful things come back and say... you know what, maybe that was out of line. I want to support others, not make them feel bad. The administrators need to handle whatever... before all the people really reaching out and needing support - not TOUGH LOVE... leave.
So, you are saying you will say whatever you want whenever you want, and you will be hateful, and threatening and rude. I WANT A SUPPORT GROUP!!!!! Are there any administrators out there that will monitor this post and forum?????

I lost a lot of hair with a diet 3 years ago... Three years later still really thin on top. I was worried about bald spots, it was getting that thin. Knowing that this surgery is coming up I bought Biotin and have been taking 5000mcg daily and my hair is getting thick! Very thick... I keep reading that it doesn't work, but I disagree I have the proof.

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

Thanks for that. I was responding more to the other poster. Cardio is about oxygen and heartrate. Weight training can be done at an aerobic pace. I just feel someone being told that they NEED to hire a personal trainer is not right. I did respond to that saying in my opinion - and the next poster that quoted me said I am wrong and my advise is bad. The original poster stated she is working out.... and was told to hire a trainer. MY response was to reinforce that she's working out.... great! Cardio is good. I have two cousins that are professional bodybuilders, one a male and one a female. The male has had several surgeries this year and is using a cane to walk... he is in bad shape. Like I said he was at a professional level. I think they both trained for hours daily, many many hours. Personally if I really wanted to get back to the bench press and shoulder press and dead lift, I can't do it. I am one step away from having shoulder surgery. I might could do bicep curls, maybe. Yes, people should find what works for them - but I still stand on my position that you shouldn't have to pay another individual so you can excercise, and you do not have to do weight training to lose weight. My NUT advises getting my heartrate to a training level 30 minutes 5 days a week, her description is I should be able to talk but not be able to sing (I call that cardio). The more I'm reading about this surgery and excercise in general, the more recommendations I'm seeing pushing towards 60 - 90 minutes a day of aerobic activity (I also see that as cardio). I met with the surgeon just the other day, and he is saying to expect 60% excess weight loss - if I want more than that it is going to take work and yes he did say cardio, cardio and more cardio.
I loved weight training, I am very goal oriented and loved increasing the weights and I did see definition (I was MUCH smaller) and I may have returned to it if I didn't have the problems I have. I have to dead lift 70 lbs at work and that is where my shoulder problems come in, the lifting. In my OPINION, it is a good addition to cardio. Throughout life the people "I" have seen be the most successful are the walkers and runners. I used to work with a guy that was 400+ lbs and decided to start walking, then he ran - and a year later he's 170 lbs at 6'5" and everyone in town knew him as the guy that ran... he ran to work, home from work and around town. I have a lady in my neighborhood that was heavy and started walking, and now she's thin and speed walks every night... every single night. Met a girl online that got a bodybugg when I did and she now runs Marathons all over the US. I met another girl online through bodybugg that was 400 and something lbs and now is 130 and just did a bodybuilding show and placed 2nd, no skin hanging at all, (wore a bikini on stage) she did have a trainer and she did cardio and weights. I think the skin not hanging has to be the weights, and probably a very good personal trainer, she says she has not had surgery. I believe in weight training. I just don't think people should be told they have to hire a trainer.
Weight training is excercising the muscles and Cardio is excercising the heart. The American Heart Association recommends 150 minutes per week of aerobic excercise per week There website states: Aerobic exercises benefit your heart, such as walking, jogging, swimming or biking. Strength and stretching exercises are best for overall stamina and flexibility.

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

I started dating my husband 3 years ago after loosing a good bit of weight... I was around 200 at the time. We went to Highshool together so he remembers me 120 or so. He knew I had just lost weight and even said he'd love me if I gained it all back and more. He blames himself that I did though, cause he loves to cook and loves to eat out. He is thin as a rail. In highschool he was the boy that was a friend... I wouldn't have thought of dating him - but marrying him at 45 was the best decision of my life.
My ex-husband (divorced 11 years) sabotaged every diet I ever did, he was also heavy... he would start a diet with me and then throw it in my face later... you don't care about your family - you go to the gym too much. You are obsessive about your diet, on and on. The last time I saw 160 lbs, this jerk had an affair with a 400+ lb woman (nothing wrong with 400+ lb women, unless they are screwing your husband). I stayed two more years (STUPID decision on my part), but he kept cheating. I think he had a fat fetish, although he got really mad when I said that... the one he left me for was also large, and the other two wives after that - oh, and he has probably gained 100+ lbs since the split. I was probably 160 when I married him, but every time I lost he nutted up... brought bad food in, insisted we go out to eat, on and on.
My husband now loves me. I think we connect on a deep level because we were kids together, hung around the same group of people and like the same things. I think he sees me as he saw me 30 years ago. We crossed paths 3 1/2 years ago... and I sold him a used car that he came over weekly to make payments, started going to dinner, watching movies... etc. For months I knew this was a fantastic guy and went back through my dating history asking myself why I kept dating Mr. Wrong over and over. I didn't really "see it" at first and thought "friends". Til one night he was here watching a movie and some woman kept texting him, and I was jealous. The next night he called and said that girl was bugging the hell out of him, and he did not want to date her he wanted to date me. I knew then I'd marry him... and I did a year later.
If the marriage is good, both people are truly committed and the love is there the marriage will work out. If the marriage is shaky, one or both people are not totally committed to it and there wasn't really love there - who knows. I know a lot of people that stay in marriages that make them miserable, and I've known people to leave marriages that could have worked when the going gets tough.

I started dating my husband 3 years ago after loosing a good bit of weight... I was around 200 at the time. We went to Highshool together so he remembers me 120 or so. He knew I had just lost weight and even said he'd love me if I gained it all back and more. He blames himself that I did though, cause he loves to cook and loves to eat out. He is thin as a rail. In highschool he was the boy that was a friend... I wouldn't have thought of dating him - but marrying him at 45 was the best decision of my life.
My ex-husband (divorced 11 years) sabotaged every diet I ever did, he was also heavy... he would start a diet with me and then throw it in my face later... you don't care about your family - you go to the gym too much. You are obsessive about your diet, on and on. The last time I saw 160 lbs, this jerk had an affair with a 400+ lb woman (nothing wrong with 400+ lb women, unless they are screwing your husband). I stayed two more years (STUPID decision on my part), but he kept cheating. I think he had a fat fetish, although he got really mad when I said that... the one he left me for was also large, and the other two wives after that - oh, and he has probably gained 100+ lbs since the split. I was probably 160 when I married him, but every time I lost he nutted up... brought bad food in, insisted we go out to eat, on and on.
My husband now loves me. I think we connect on a deep level because we were kids together, hung around the same group of people and like the same things. I think he sees me as he saw me 30 years ago. We crossed paths 3 1/2 years ago... and I sold him a used car that he came over weekly to make payments, started going to dinner, watching movies... etc. For months I knew this was a fantastic guy and went back through my dating history asking myself why I kept dating Mr. Wrong over and over. I didn't really "see it" at first and thought "friends". Til one night he was here watching a movie and some woman kept texting him, and I was jealous. The next night he called and said that girl was bugging the hell out of him, and he did not want to date her he wanted to date me. I knew then I'd marry him... and I did a year later.
If the marriage is good, both people are truly committed and the love is there the marriage will work out. If the marriage is shaky, one or both people are not totally committed to it and there wasn't really love there - who knows. I know a lot of people that stay in marriages that make them miserable, and I've known people to leave marriages that could have worked when the going gets tough.