jessfharris

So I found out my husband was cheating on me 2 days ago and I just had surgery 8/15... We had unprotected sex a week b4 surgery and also like a week ago... Stupid I know but we haven't been able to conceive cus of my weight but the last 3-4 days I been spotting and I been throwing up... Dont know if it's cus surgery or if I'm pregnant... I hope I'm not! I should b starting my period in a week n half ... Any advice? Or ideas what it could be? I also gained 2 lbs.. And I haven't really been eating cus of stress... :-/

In not having kids and obviously I won't be back with him sooo don't worry... I just have a bad problem for not respecting myself and I guess I was settling but no more of that .. Fresh start ... I'll b looking hot soon n I hope he sees what he lost

UPDATE: he was cheating on me that's the real reason he wanted a divorce.. Thank god for phone call records... I knew it just needed proof! So Monday I WILL FILE FOR DIVORCE! he's so scandalous... Good for nothing son of a -----, it's ok he will get his!! God is justice in time he will try to come back , but noooooooo... This girl is DONE... I'm learning to love myself and start fresh - it will b hard but I can do it... Plus there's plenty of fish in the sea:)

Try having surgery n a divorce all in one... Not easy, but I'll get thru it... I'll lose all my weight and maybe find someone who really appreciates me... Keep ur head up. It will get better, promise!!! Just look at this way... U will b healthy and real hot next summer:) !!

8 long years wasted... But ur all right it's just I'm very hurt...

Also I can't divorce him just cause of differences... I grew up religious myself and I believe in saving a marriage... Only way we can divorce is if he cheats or physically hurts me... So all we can do for now is separate, give it time, if he loves me he will come back if not he will find someone commit adultery and I guess that's when divorce take it's course... :'(

It's official he wants a divorce... I tried talking to him about working things out and he doesn't want to. I still love him and he states he still loves me but feels he won't ever be able to give me what I want.. The white picket fence and family and be religious... But why now? Why wait after marriage ? Or after my surgery recovery? Is there someone else? He just made love to me a day ago... How does a man change their heart from one day to another? Is he intimadated that I'll leave him when I lose all my weight? Idk I'm confused... I been crying 2 days straight... Help!

I Hate putn my business out there but I have no friends to vent with and my family love to gossip so this is my cry for help and vent...

I know... I know. Leave him right? I can't I love him too much. He's grown on me.

So I'm with a 6'4" and 175lbs man whom I been with for 8 Years now but married for soon to be 2 years... I'm 5'11" and currently weigh 310... Ive always been big, he likes big girls.. Lol but I meet him weighing 260 but due to a stressful relationship I gained about 70-90 pounds ... He cheated on me 2 times, I had a miscarriage, he used drugs but thru time he did a whole 180 and I ran back to him and we got married. He stoped drugs, well he still smokes weed n cigs, he stoped cheating and has a steady job...he's very loving and he sure took care of me after surgery (8/15/12) only 2 weeks ago... Point is he's told ppl he thinks once I lose my weight I will leave him.... So sad to hear b/c lil does he know - Why would I leave him after everything we been thru and if he loved me fat, why would I leave him skinny? At least I know he loved me for the real me!!!! However, we moved in with my family (really religious) b/c of financial issues and my surgery and now he's questioning our marriage.. Saying I spend too much time w/my family and we are very different... That he feels trapped here and can't be himself ( can't smoke).... SO WE GOT IN A HUGE ARGUMENT TODAY - and he said he doesn't know what to do anymore... As if surgery wasn't stressful enough - now this! Ohhhh and I also rushed surgery to give him children since we had a hard time getn pregnant. HELPPP I NEED ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sitn here crying my heart out...

No it just went away on it's own...no meds, ur body just needs to adjust to surgery n ur food n water intake... My surgeon said it would go away to just b patient or I can buy pepcid for heartburn.

I had the same thing reflux and heartburn - I had surgery 8/15 and now it's all gone... I actually enjoy eating and drinking now...lol for a minute there I started regreting getn sleeved... Good luck to y'all and best advice is don't give up n be patient

Ty all!! I don't remember ever reaching 300 b4 it's crazy how conscious i am now, I'm addicted to weighing my self alot... Good luck to all and here we come 200's lol

Some traditional Mexican carne Asada in a corn tortilla and salsa !! Or vegetarian pizza from mountain mikes - maybe after six months I will but just eat in moderation !

Ty