jessfharris

So I found out my husband was cheating on me 2 days ago and I just had surgery 8/15... We had unprotected sex a week b4 surgery and also like a week ago... Stupid I know but we haven't been able to conceive cus of my weight but the last 3-4 days I been spotting and I been throwing up... Dont know if it's cus surgery or if I'm pregnant... I hope I'm not! I should b starting my period in a week n half ... Any advice? Or ideas what it could be? I also gained 2 lbs.. And I haven't really been eating cus of stress... :-/

In not having kids and obviously I won't be back with him sooo don't worry... I just have a bad problem for not respecting myself and I guess I was settling but no more of that .. Fresh start ... I'll b looking hot soon n I hope he sees what he lost

UPDATE: he was cheating on me that's the real reason he wanted a divorce.. Thank god for phone call records... I knew it just needed proof! So Monday I WILL FILE FOR DIVORCE! he's so scandalous... Good for nothing son of a -----, it's ok he will get his!! God is justice in time he will try to come back , but noooooooo... This girl is DONE... I'm learning to love myself and start fresh - it will b hard but I can do it... Plus there's plenty of fish in the sea:)

Try having surgery n a divorce all in one... Not easy, but I'll get thru it... I'll lose all my weight and maybe find someone who really appreciates me... Keep ur head up. It will get better, promise!!! Just look at this way... U will b healthy and real hot next summer:) !!

8 long years wasted... But ur all right it's just I'm very hurt...

Also I can't divorce him just cause of differences... I grew up religious myself and I believe in saving a marriage... Only way we can divorce is if he cheats or physically hurts me... So all we can do for now is separate, give it time, if he loves me he will come back if not he will find someone commit adultery and I guess that's when divorce take it's course... :'(

It's official he wants a divorce... I tried talking to him about working things out and he doesn't want to. I still love him and he states he still loves me but feels he won't ever be able to give me what I want.. The white picket fence and family and be religious... But why now? Why wait after marriage ? Or after my surgery recovery? Is there someone else? He just made love to me a day ago... How does a man change their heart from one day to another? Is he intimadated that I'll leave him when I lose all my weight? Idk I'm confused... I been crying 2 days straight... Help!

I Hate putn my business out there but I have no friends to vent with and my family love to gossip so this is my cry for help and vent...

I know... I know. Leave him right? I can't I love him too much. He's grown on me.

So I'm with a 6'4" and 175lbs man whom I been with for 8 Years now but married for soon to be 2 years... I'm 5'11" and currently weigh 310... Ive always been big, he likes big girls.. Lol but I meet him weighing 260 but due to a stressful relationship I gained about 70-90 pounds ... He cheated on me 2 times, I had a miscarriage, he used drugs but thru time he did a whole 180 and I ran back to him and we got married. He stoped drugs, well he still smokes weed n cigs, he stoped cheating and has a steady job...he's very loving and he sure took care of me after surgery (8/15/12) only 2 weeks ago... Point is he's told ppl he thinks once I lose my weight I will leave him.... So sad to hear b/c lil does he know - Why would I leave him after everything we been thru and if he loved me fat, why would I leave him skinny? At least I know he loved me for the real me!!!! However, we moved in with my family (really religious) b/c of financial issues and my surgery and now he's questioning our marriage.. Saying I spend too much time w/my family and we are very different... That he feels trapped here and can't be himself ( can't smoke).... SO WE GOT IN A HUGE ARGUMENT TODAY - and he said he doesn't know what to do anymore... As if surgery wasn't stressful enough - now this! Ohhhh and I also rushed surgery to give him children since we had a hard time getn pregnant. HELPPP I NEED ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sitn here crying my heart out...

No it just went away on it's own...no meds, ur body just needs to adjust to surgery n ur food n water intake... My surgeon said it would go away to just b patient or I can buy pepcid for heartburn.

I had the same thing reflux and heartburn - I had surgery 8/15 and now it's all gone... I actually enjoy eating and drinking now...lol for a minute there I started regreting getn sleeved... Good luck to y'all and best advice is don't give up n be patient

Ty all!! I don't remember ever reaching 300 b4 it's crazy how conscious i am now, I'm addicted to weighing my self alot... Good luck to all and here we come 200's lol

Some traditional Mexican carne Asada in a corn tortilla and salsa !! Or vegetarian pizza from mountain mikes - maybe after six months I will but just eat in moderation !

Ty

Thanks... Can't really see it but I do feel it ... Nice to get encouraging feedback

Im so excited... I had to share !! Almost feel a lil normal.. Lol my surgeon suggested for my height (5'11") and structure to b at 200-210 to look and b healthy. I can't wait... MY goal weight is 180, but we will see. I'm a week n half post op and have lost...35 pounds already including preop diet! I JUST CAN'T WAIT TO BE UNDER 300 pounds... Just the tought of me being 250 overwhelmingly excites me!!!!!!!!

Wow good job! U look great, how much u lose? I'm 2 weeks post op and curious to know about how much is possible to lose at 6 months ...

I been takin biotin and u can also use horse hair shampoo, u can find it at the pet store or 99 cent store, when u shower put some on ur scalp or wher ever ur losing hair and ONLY condition the tips of ur hair, the horse shampoo strengthens ur scalp and there's less hair loss... Just FYI

Highest: 347.8 -8/4/12 preop Preop diet : 333.0 -8/15/12 day of surgery Today: 323.2 - 8/21/12 one week postop Slowly but surely I'll hit my goal !! Good luck to all !!

Thanks guys ! I was just worried cause someone else posted a forum about listening closely to ur body because they found a leak 21/2 months later! So I'm trying to play it safe...other than the pain, I'm doing pretty good, I'm just missing being able to drink normal

I'm starting to feel the pain, as all my hospital meds ware off, I been noticing that my stomache growls alot and moves alot when I eat even just taking my meds, is that normal???

I had my surgery Wednesday too! I'm on full liquids so I can have like gerber food and cream of ---- soups , yogurt and cream of wheat ! I been good just been burping alot and getn chest pains , doc said slow it down when eating, and I tought I was eating SLOWWW LOL guess not! I've lost 6 pounds since Wednesday, I gotta walk more tho, I been walking but not enough, well good luck my fellow sleever and keep us posted!!

Thank u that's good to hear I'm not the only one with chest pains....

I don't think so... Maybe I'm just drinking too fast , I might just call my doctor to play it safe.