@DomLorenVSG

It's empowering to realize you have choices about who you allow into your "inner circle." That's how I think of it: concentric circles for levels of access and trust and influence. There are only a few in my inmost circle. It's good to sort it out. Good for you!!

wonderful!

Oh, hun. All I can say is that we are right there with you. I'm a true believer that if it's meant to be, it will be. I'm a little farther on the spectrum and have had friends point out the obvious- I dated and had relationships with emotional vampires, guys who took advantage of my insecruities with weight and didn't treat me right because of it... I held on to hope that if only I did this better or that better it would work out, because I just didn't want to feel alone. I'm only a few weeks post op, but I can already tell a huge behavior change in myself. I haven't dated in months, and I don't plan too until I"m a at least 50 lbs lighter, to give myself the time and peace to put it all back together, mentally, physically, and emotionally. I have made promises to myself to demand better, and if I don't find the right guy- it's going to be okay. I can wait. I'm no longer clingy or focused or trying to force things. By making my health and weight my number one priority my attitude on so many things has changed- and I too feel peace. You clearly have a kind heart and good soul, and you will find Mr. Right- just wait, it will come... god bless.

Congrats to getting back to something you love.

Ahahahah, funny thing my mother is from Sicily and our world revolves around food too! ahahahaha... I found that hillarious when you said that. What's also funny is that everyone minus my grandmother is severly overweight and my mother is morbidly obese, yet they think they are all experts at health and nutrition. If weight watchers and jenny craig where so freak'n great we'd all be super models and not yo-yo dieters. Sometimes I think misery loves company. I knew going into this they wouldn't approve. But just like they didn't approve my college major (and I"m paying for my degrees) and didn't approve of me getting my PhD (they thought it was over kill and unnecessary, I should be husband shopping) I just decided to keep it on the hush hush.... AND I BET YOU MONEY that when I lose that first 50+ lbs they are going to tell me (and probably you) that your starving yourself, accuse us of being anorexic, and try to tell us we are too skinny. It's a lose/lose situation. Got to make your mind up and run with it... I've had enough practice with my family giving me crappy advice based on ridiculous old world values to help me prepare for my surgery. Just do YOU!

Yes. In fact I refused to tell my family I was having VSG. They are all experts of stupidity. Now I love my family, but as a single mother of a 4 year old I understand your situation. I'm a collegiate athlete and full time grad student, I'm in great athletic shape but my body packs on weight like no one's business. I've been big all my life, even when I was in the Army. I had a horrifically big appetite and nothing ever satisfied me. VSG is no quick fix. WHen I did have surgery I just told people it was for stomach ulcers and to get my pancreas fixed for making too much insulin- BOTH truths, I just didn't add in the WLS part. It's always easier to say than do. I'm 3 weeks post op and I'm telling you it's the best decision I've ever made. I'm pretty successful in life considering what all I've been throw, but I've always felt like a complete failure when it comes to my weight. And my family- if they are anything like yours uses negative reinforcement to try to motivate me- reminding me I don't need to eat out, or I shouldn't have a piece of birthday cake, etc. I assure you VSG is no quick fix. It takes months if not years to get off all the excess weight- and guess what? You will be able to eat anything you want, just in tiny portions, and you won't be hungry anymore. You, and you alone will be able to sleep easier at night knowing you love yourself and you're living life for your kids and you. I'm not self concious anymore, I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I'm not stressing like I once did. It's not the elephant in the room anymore. No more money wasted on weight watchers or diet pills or magical cures- those are quick fixes. No gym membership was going to keep me from my favorite fast food- but my VSG MAKES me an honest woman and I can't fool or cheat it. And now the weight is coming off, and I'm more worried about getting enough in! GOod luck. It's your life. Your happiness.
Do you think you deserve to be happy? Yes.

Ahahahah, funny thing my mother is from Sicily and our world revolves around food too! ahahahaha... I found that hillarious when you said that. What's also funny is that everyone minus my grandmother is severly overweight and my mother is morbidly obese, yet they think they are all experts at health and nutrition. If weight watchers and jenny craig where so freak'n great we'd all be super models and not yo-yo dieters. Sometimes I think misery loves company. I knew going into this they wouldn't approve. But just like they didn't approve my college major (and I"m paying for my degrees) and didn't approve of me getting my PhD (they thought it was over kill and unnecessary, I should be husband shopping) I just decided to keep it on the hush hush.... AND I BET YOU MONEY that when I lose that first 50+ lbs they are going to tell me (and probably you) that your starving yourself, accuse us of being anorexic, and try to tell us we are too skinny. It's a lose/lose situation. Got to make your mind up and run with it... I've had enough practice with my family giving me crappy advice based on ridiculous old world values to help me prepare for my surgery. Just do YOU!

Yes. In fact I refused to tell my family I was having VSG. They are all experts of stupidity. Now I love my family, but as a single mother of a 4 year old I understand your situation. I'm a collegiate athlete and full time grad student, I'm in great athletic shape but my body packs on weight like no one's business. I've been big all my life, even when I was in the Army. I had a horrifically big appetite and nothing ever satisfied me. VSG is no quick fix. WHen I did have surgery I just told people it was for stomach ulcers and to get my pancreas fixed for making too much insulin- BOTH truths, I just didn't add in the WLS part. It's always easier to say than do. I'm 3 weeks post op and I'm telling you it's the best decision I've ever made. I'm pretty successful in life considering what all I've been throw, but I've always felt like a complete failure when it comes to my weight. And my family- if they are anything like yours uses negative reinforcement to try to motivate me- reminding me I don't need to eat out, or I shouldn't have a piece of birthday cake, etc. I assure you VSG is no quick fix. It takes months if not years to get off all the excess weight- and guess what? You will be able to eat anything you want, just in tiny portions, and you won't be hungry anymore. You, and you alone will be able to sleep easier at night knowing you love yourself and you're living life for your kids and you. I'm not self concious anymore, I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I'm not stressing like I once did. It's not the elephant in the room anymore. No more money wasted on weight watchers or diet pills or magical cures- those are quick fixes. No gym membership was going to keep me from my favorite fast food- but my VSG MAKES me an honest woman and I can't fool or cheat it. And now the weight is coming off, and I'm more worried about getting enough in! GOod luck. It's your life. Your happiness.
Do you think you deserve to be happy? Yes.

Ahahahah, funny thing my mother is from Sicily and our world revolves around food too! ahahahaha... I found that hillarious when you said that. What's also funny is that everyone minus my grandmother is severly overweight and my mother is morbidly obese, yet they think they are all experts at health and nutrition. If weight watchers and jenny craig where so freak'n great we'd all be super models and not yo-yo dieters. Sometimes I think misery loves company. I knew going into this they wouldn't approve. But just like they didn't approve my college major (and I"m paying for my degrees) and didn't approve of me getting my PhD (they thought it was over kill and unnecessary, I should be husband shopping) I just decided to keep it on the hush hush.... AND I BET YOU MONEY that when I lose that first 50+ lbs they are going to tell me (and probably you) that your starving yourself, accuse us of being anorexic, and try to tell us we are too skinny. It's a lose/lose situation. Got to make your mind up and run with it... I've had enough practice with my family giving me crappy advice based on ridiculous old world values to help me prepare for my surgery. Just do YOU!

Yes. In fact I refused to tell my family I was having VSG. They are all experts of stupidity. Now I love my family, but as a single mother of a 4 year old I understand your situation. I'm a collegiate athlete and full time grad student, I'm in great athletic shape but my body packs on weight like no one's business. I've been big all my life, even when I was in the Army. I had a horrifically big appetite and nothing ever satisfied me. VSG is no quick fix. WHen I did have surgery I just told people it was for stomach ulcers and to get my pancreas fixed for making too much insulin- BOTH truths, I just didn't add in the WLS part. It's always easier to say than do. I'm 3 weeks post op and I'm telling you it's the best decision I've ever made. I'm pretty successful in life considering what all I've been throw, but I've always felt like a complete failure when it comes to my weight. And my family- if they are anything like yours uses negative reinforcement to try to motivate me- reminding me I don't need to eat out, or I shouldn't have a piece of birthday cake, etc. I assure you VSG is no quick fix. It takes months if not years to get off all the excess weight- and guess what? You will be able to eat anything you want, just in tiny portions, and you won't be hungry anymore. You, and you alone will be able to sleep easier at night knowing you love yourself and you're living life for your kids and you. I'm not self concious anymore, I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I'm not stressing like I once did. It's not the elephant in the room anymore. No more money wasted on weight watchers or diet pills or magical cures- those are quick fixes. No gym membership was going to keep me from my favorite fast food- but my VSG MAKES me an honest woman and I can't fool or cheat it. And now the weight is coming off, and I'm more worried about getting enough in! GOod luck. It's your life. Your happiness.
Do you think you deserve to be happy? Yes.

Yes. In fact I refused to tell my family I was having VSG. They are all experts of stupidity. Now I love my family, but as a single mother of a 4 year old I understand your situation. I'm a collegiate athlete and full time grad student, I'm in great athletic shape but my body packs on weight like no one's business. I've been big all my life, even when I was in the Army. I had a horrifically big appetite and nothing ever satisfied me. VSG is no quick fix. WHen I did have surgery I just told people it was for stomach ulcers and to get my pancreas fixed for making too much insulin- BOTH truths, I just didn't add in the WLS part. It's always easier to say than do. I'm 3 weeks post op and I'm telling you it's the best decision I've ever made. I'm pretty successful in life considering what all I've been throw, but I've always felt like a complete failure when it comes to my weight. And my family- if they are anything like yours uses negative reinforcement to try to motivate me- reminding me I don't need to eat out, or I shouldn't have a piece of birthday cake, etc. I assure you VSG is no quick fix. It takes months if not years to get off all the excess weight- and guess what? You will be able to eat anything you want, just in tiny portions, and you won't be hungry anymore. You, and you alone will be able to sleep easier at night knowing you love yourself and you're living life for your kids and you. I'm not self concious anymore, I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I'm not stressing like I once did. It's not the elephant in the room anymore. No more money wasted on weight watchers or diet pills or magical cures- those are quick fixes. No gym membership was going to keep me from my favorite fast food- but my VSG MAKES me an honest woman and I can't fool or cheat it. And now the weight is coming off, and I'm more worried about getting enough in! GOod luck. It's your life. Your happiness.
Do you think you deserve to be happy? Yes.

Ahahahah, funny thing my mother is from Sicily and our world revolves around food too! ahahahaha... I found that hillarious when you said that. What's also funny is that everyone minus my grandmother is severly overweight and my mother is morbidly obese, yet they think they are all experts at health and nutrition. If weight watchers and jenny craig where so freak'n great we'd all be super models and not yo-yo dieters. Sometimes I think misery loves company. I knew going into this they wouldn't approve. But just like they didn't approve my college major (and I"m paying for my degrees) and didn't approve of me getting my PhD (they thought it was over kill and unnecessary, I should be husband shopping) I just decided to keep it on the hush hush.... AND I BET YOU MONEY that when I lose that first 50+ lbs they are going to tell me (and probably you) that your starving yourself, accuse us of being anorexic, and try to tell us we are too skinny. It's a lose/lose situation. Got to make your mind up and run with it... I've had enough practice with my family giving me crappy advice based on ridiculous old world values to help me prepare for my surgery. Just do YOU!

Yes. In fact I refused to tell my family I was having VSG. They are all experts of stupidity. Now I love my family, but as a single mother of a 4 year old I understand your situation. I'm a collegiate athlete and full time grad student, I'm in great athletic shape but my body packs on weight like no one's business. I've been big all my life, even when I was in the Army. I had a horrifically big appetite and nothing ever satisfied me. VSG is no quick fix. WHen I did have surgery I just told people it was for stomach ulcers and to get my pancreas fixed for making too much insulin- BOTH truths, I just didn't add in the WLS part. It's always easier to say than do. I'm 3 weeks post op and I'm telling you it's the best decision I've ever made. I'm pretty successful in life considering what all I've been throw, but I've always felt like a complete failure when it comes to my weight. And my family- if they are anything like yours uses negative reinforcement to try to motivate me- reminding me I don't need to eat out, or I shouldn't have a piece of birthday cake, etc. I assure you VSG is no quick fix. It takes months if not years to get off all the excess weight- and guess what? You will be able to eat anything you want, just in tiny portions, and you won't be hungry anymore. You, and you alone will be able to sleep easier at night knowing you love yourself and you're living life for your kids and you. I'm not self concious anymore, I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I'm not stressing like I once did. It's not the elephant in the room anymore. No more money wasted on weight watchers or diet pills or magical cures- those are quick fixes. No gym membership was going to keep me from my favorite fast food- but my VSG MAKES me an honest woman and I can't fool or cheat it. And now the weight is coming off, and I'm more worried about getting enough in! GOod luck. It's your life. Your happiness.
Do you think you deserve to be happy? Yes.

My husband told me not to tell them and I just should have listened but of course I needed to open my mouth. I just cant take the comments and the advise anymore. You sound like a GREAT, strong woman and your completely correct. I've felt like a failure at almost everything in my life except my children. My family is italian so everything we do revolves around food.
It is my life and I am determined to do this the right way and BE HAPPY. I most definitely deserve it and so does my husband and my children!

Whoo Hoo! Congrats! I can't wait for that feeling! And to see that scale read one hundred and SOMETHING! It's really cool you're feeling so good after a week...

That's awesome. We were sleeved same day. I lost 14 pounds pre-op, but only 2 since surgery. I
Definately feel better too

I was terrified of this journey- as any sane normal person would be... but I was out before I knew what hit me and when I woke up I lift up my hospital gown because I didn't believe them when they said it was done. HOLY smokes! It was easier than getting my wisdom teeth out! THey kept me well drugged and I just chilled in bed and watch'd tv. I was so anxious I had a hard time sleeping but the team was amazing to me. Jessica the nurse and everyone where just fantastic. I've never had a doctor and his team treat me that well for that many days. No regrets... only wish I'd done it sooner!

It may change, you might begin to feel some kind of hunger in a couple months but it is NOTHING..I repeat NOTHING like it was before. It turns from a lion to kitten and it doesnt really feel like hunger, more like...a small empty feeling that can be forgotton if you dont keep a schedule..It is a nice feeling...ENJOY.

Dimeekie,
WOW that has to be a wonderful feeling! I am so looking forward to that feeling... I feel like a bottomless pit...the only time I can remember not being hungry is when I was taking appetite suppressants!!! Just to wake up and not be overcome with hunger would be a miracle to me too! Wishing you the best of success on your journey.
Blannie

Wow! Thats reassuring, im having surgery in Oct,& am very nervous, this helped a lot on:)

Awesome! I'm so happy to read your story! Keep the great news coming! 13 days and counting for my surgery...

Congrats on returning to "normalcy" with work and activities and soon to be swimming as well! I am on day 7 today and i woke up feeling so much better and it gave me such a push! My incisions are still tender but that's it. Looking forward to your updates.

Congrats on your weightloss thus far! Keep us posted....sounds like you are off to a great start

AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep up the good work and positive attitude!

Wow congrats. That's so awesome. Please keep the updates going. I am inspired by success stories. I am due to go in on Monday and am starting to freak out. How was waking up for you ?? I think that is what I am most afraid of. The eating part is fine. I love the shakes.
Good luck !
BTW what the codes for above ?? ( HW,.. OH duh highest weight ?? LOL ) Take care.
Lisa