Nicci

I have been with my husband for 23 years , I was just sleeved on 9/17 , however he was there when I was 120 and was there when I was 230 ... and throught it all he has never changed or made me feel any less , If anything my argument is that he made me feel way too comfortable in my skin that I did not realize the heavier I was getting , Now that I have lost 20 pounds so far ( since my last weigh in ) he is just as supportive , calling me slim ( lol ) sooo I think it depends on how strong are you going in ... Just my opinion

Divorce rate is staggeringly high for weight loss patience. My therapist told me somewhere in the 80% range. However your chances of a successful marriage are higher if the person that had the surgery was thin when marrying their significant other. Makes sense. Seek counseling right from the get go- is my best advice! Good luck.

2 questions lis
1) when will you (the skinney lady) sing... how far out will you feel safe
2) when you have heard of people having these undetected leaks were there any symptoms at all. Maybe in hindsight people could come up with a warning sign. :thumbup1:
thanks
stacey

You need to remember why you are doing this...skinny or not...what is the reason for you going through with this procedure?? Is this procedure for you or for him? You need to be more secure in yourself sweetie....if he decides to leave once you lose weight, that's his business....dont let that affect him....

I have no clue about Iggy, I guess I will have to type in horror stories or something in the search box because everything I have seen has been so positive! I really like what cool breeze said about god wont take you anywhere that his grace wont or cant protect you, that was beautiful and i agree completely! Do what is best for you Ms. Neta and be sure to return to keep us all updated!!!!

What ever will make comfortable is what you must do. Keep this in mind:
GOD WILL NEVER TAKE YOU WHERE THE GRACE OF GOD WON'T PROTECT YOU. You will be in great hands. Let us know how doing and see you after surgery.

I have become obsessed! I am on here multiple times every day. Though I've learned so much about the sleeve surgery, I am starting to freak myself out now. My surgery is scheduled for October 11th! I am confident that I am making the right decision for me. But I must admit this past week has been really stressful. I am such a control freak and the fear of the unknown is driving me crazy. All the positive experiences that people are having are very encouraging. However the horror stories aren't helping my nerves right now. Combine that with all that I have to do at work before I go out and I'm a mess. :-( I've prayed about it over and over and over again. I know I'll be just fine! I will be happy to report back to you guys when I'm on the other side. Thanks for everything sleeve fam!

my local wls support group is doing this on oct. 9! i think it is an awesome idea. after years and years of shopping at the big and tall store (which was very ironic since i am only 5'6") and years of asking the Walmart people "um, what do you mean you only sell up to 46 waist and 3x shirt? have you not seen the people that shop here?" i now have to go to the thrift store every couple of weeks to get new jeans! gotta admit, it's fun to go clothes shopping now. not only can i get normal people sizes, but, at the thrift store, jeans are like $5 and shirts are like a buck. i started out in a 56" waist jeans and a 5-6x shirt. last week, i got a size 42" waist and a 2x shirt. i used to get depressed because nothing fit, now i almost cry for joy because everything does!
ahh, life is good. good luck on your journey

I was sleeved on 8/23 and my first two weeks I was starving. It's head hungry mainly. It will pass be patience. I know your thinking what ever but a lot of us felt the same way. I'm 5 weeks post op and I'm down 42 pounds. It gets better.

hi BrickHouse
its good you were being attentive to your body, realizing there was some "situation" going on, - whether its a lump, ductal abnormalty - you found it, and its being researched
my positive thoughts are being sent your way with fingers & toes crossed too!!!
take care

Well I received the call for my first surgical consultation today, its scheduled for next Thursday. Suddenly s**** just got real for me :-) I'm excited and nervous all at the same time!

lol good luck. and i had to post this vid from bad boys.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUH3JQjcweM

I hear that Nicci. My first surgeon consult is this Friday, eeek! But we can do this. We can freakin' do this!!....Right? Best of luck.

YOU WILL STILL EAT chocolate , CHILI DOGS NOW THATS TOUGH ONE.....

That makes 2 of us lol but we can do it.

so sorry you are having so much trouble, have you called your doctor? Have you been back to the dr.? Sounds like you are in a depression, bad... I would see the dr. be checked out real good, make sure you're getting in your Protein, follow the weight lifting restrictions closely in case you have a problem in there... I'll be thinking about you....

If you're in that much pain 3 weeks after surgery, and it's not getting better, you need to call your doctor. Severe right sided flank pain could be your gall bladder or something else, and if you're in severe pain, it's time to call the doctor.
You're right. You should be feeling better.

I had a lot more anxiety in the months leading up to surgery. As I was completing my insurance requirements, I thought I would drive myself nuts. It all changed after I got a date and started my pre-op diet. Suddenly, I had something to focus on for surgery.

I'm having the same issue - scared about the permanence of it. BREATHE!!!

I'm afraid I haven't had the surgery yet myself, hopefully will be before Xmas!
I am also a sufferer of general anxiety/depression, I would imagine once surgery is completed, weight starts to drop and confidence starts to rocket which hopefully in turn will aid the anxiety/depression!!! Fingers crossed anyway! Lol x

Girl I understand...my ex gf got on the phone n called me obesr...n she is fat too...needless to say I started my band journey the next day...I cant wait til I can rub my new healthy Wt in her face....don't let her get to u...son u will have the last laugh
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Its hard to not let people get to you and its easy to say just ignore them but i went through the same thing. Not with a boyfriend or anything but with co-workers. But we will show them when we start losing weight and getting thiner and thiner!

Wow you guys, you're both so very right. She will be jealous of me (without that even being a thought of mine) because I'm pretty as a thick chick so I can only imagine I would be model beautiful once the weight is gone lol I'm just kidding, but seriously I bet I enjoy looking in a mirror when everything is said and done. Telling someone you will pray for them can really get under their skin lol so thanks for the advice! I do just need to continue to focus on me and becoming the beautiful swan that's hiding in this duckling body. Honestly though it will never be my intention to make someone feel bad about their body once I transform in to my new one. When I say I'm doing this for me I'm not lying, there is no hidden agenda. I so desperately want to play with my children (more than sitting on my butt and talking for a barbie doll) and it would mean a lot to me if my current boyfriend of 6 years (and the father of my three children) could pick me up and carry me over the thresh hold on our wedding day (not that we have a date set or anything but some day I'm confident we will make that transition....assuming he doesn't leave me because I get too skinny for him, lol, thats a whole different topic he and I have often discussed. My ultimate goal is 125lbs since I'm only 5'3" but he claims if I get below 140lbs he'd leave me....which is just hilarious because he himself is lucky to be 140! LOL, wow I just noticed a pattern, I tend to go for chubby chasers, HA!), and I just had my 2nd reconstructive ankle surgery back in April and all this stress on my joints is horrible. If for no other reason than my ankle alone I NEED to get this weight off of me!

You know, I figured the current gf was overweight. There's always an underlying reason people are threatened by our success. Pray for her, move on, and focus on you.