GeauxForIt

I saw a tshirt the other day that said, "I'm silently correcting your grammar." and I thought about everyone here!! LOL

Lately I've noticed an epidemic of sorts...people, even people who 'speak' for a living and should know better, are misusing the word literally.
A girl checking me out at the grocery store said, "I literally died!" during our brief conversation. I wanted to gently correct her, but I didn't. I just inwardly cringed and gathered my things.
I also can't stand the ridiculous overuse of "like" these days.
What are your grammar pet peeves?

Pacifically instead of specifically!!! GAH.

Cool idea! Especially for me bc I forget all the funny things my kids say.

First off, you're NEVER too old for Mommy Issues! LOL
I chose not to tell mine until after surgery bc she always makes everything about HER. She'd focus on how SHE felt about MY surgery instead of offering support or just keeping her mouth shut.
Frankly, I needed all of my emotional energy to focus on myself and my upcoming life change. I didn't have any to spare for her so I just didn't tell her.
Best decision I ever made!

Lately I've noticed an epidemic of sorts...people, even people who 'speak' for a living and should know better, are misusing the word literally.
A girl checking me out at the grocery store said, "I literally died!" during our brief conversation. I wanted to gently correct her, but I didn't. I just inwardly cringed and gathered my things.
I also can't stand the ridiculous overuse of "like" these days.
What are your grammar pet peeves?

I hope you are thick skinned bc you're going to get a serious reality check from some of the posters here...

OP, have you attended your surgeon or hospital's support group? Do you have a counselor/therapist?
Look, this surgery ain't for sissies. It's HARD, and it's REALLY hard for the 1st month! But you were brave enough to choose this and you've got to suck it up, get your head in the game and ROCK THAT SLEEVE, girl!!!
You HAVE to do this for the people who love you and most importantly, for YOU. You CAN do it, so DO it.

I hope you are thick skinned bc you're going to get a serious reality check from some of the posters here...

I hope you are thick skinned bc you're going to get a serious reality check from some of the posters here...

Welcome aboard!!
There are some amazing people here, a few assholes and plenty of crazies!!

Welcome aboard!!
There are some amazing people here, a few assholes and plenty of crazies!!

When I was feeling weak and dying for a fresh-baked Xmas cookie, I came here BEFORE I caved for people who understood me to "talk me down" and remind me how strong I am and why I did this.
It worked. No cookie for me and I got SUPPORT bc I didn't do something stupid to derail my progress so far. Like a virtual AA sponsor!

My Husband! But he's not for sale.

Your post was unnecessary and read as rude.

I find it ironic that there's this thread right here wondering why people do these things, followed by a bunch of "you don't know or understand" and "you're not being supportive!" posts...and just a few threads down on this board are a bunch of people reaming out another person for wanting to start solids before their surgeon allows it.
Look, being a food addict doesn't give you a free pass to do stupid things. And yes, it's not nice or PC to say it, but it's absolutely a stupid thing to trust a surgeon to slice your body open and remove most of an organ, and then to decide on your own to just eat what you want despite the fact that he/she gave you a diet specifically geared to prevent life threatening complications.
YOU CAN DIE FROM A LEAK. Do you know why the complication rate is low with the sleeve? Partly because our surgeons give us post op diets to follow to prevent complications!
I'm sorry, but if you are not in a place where you can mentally withstand three weeks of a liquid diet and would rather risk your life eating Cookies and hamburgers during that phase, you should probably get some counseling prior to surgery. I am not being cruel, I am saying this as nicely as I know how to say it. There is no shame in needing support. However, it would be a real shame for someone to risk their life and undergo serious pain and follow on surgeries because they were not prepared to exercise willpower long enough to heal.
We all have food addictions and bad habits - every one of us. Some people cope better than others, certainly. But nobody here has an easy relationship with food or we'd have skipped the organ removal!
And I don't care what anyone says - being supportive means being HONEST. Sure, there are nice ways to do this and blunt and harsh ways. In my opinion, the OP was not harsh or rude in any way. Certainly she said nothing out of line.
If you come here and ask the advice of total strangers on the internet, do not expect that everyone is going to give you a rainbow sparkles hug when you're doing dumb things. Sometimes we need a wake up call and gently saying, "Gosh, I don't know that eating a cheeseburger is a good idea a week post op" probably isn't as effective as saying, "Do you have a death wish?!"
People with addictions love to blame their addictions for their own choices and weakness but the reality is that every one of us can change. We have to choose to do it. Do not say "I can't stop eating" because YES YOU CAN. It's just harder to stop, that's all.
Good luck, folks. And to anyone I offend now or later on VST, I'm sure I meant it in the nicest way possible.
~Cheri