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I think some of this is the fear of the unknown. We were used to being heavy. We got comfortable with that weight. Maybe some of us is sacred to meet "the new you". Some of us never realized how big we were because we avoided the mirrors or taking pictures because of our weight. Now, this makes us take a look at ourselves. It may take a minute before our head catches up will all the changes.

Thanks for taking the time to post this.

I don't see where anyone was rude but I am with other posters.... If you confess your sins on a public forum you'd better expect all sorts of responses.... This isn't church where they Tell you to confess and you will be absolved.
This is real live people with passionate views, opinions and hard earned racing stripes.... And we HATE to hear when newly banded people fall off the wagon so soon... It could be very serious to the health of your band, not to mention your loss of motivation and not keeping on the straight an narrow worries us. You will find Most people are very caring and helpful on this board.

I can also relate. I have been in a standstill since Sept 2012. I got frustrated and started cheating my band. I also started eating bigger meals. Boy did I do it up New Year's weekend with fried foods and LOTS of libations. I was eating like I didn't have the band. My "break through moment" was around the 3rd week in Jan. I have not been on this site in months and one day I got on it and was reading the success stories. I thought wow , that could of been me. I did not spend all this money , have surgery, and do all this work just a fail. did not visit my surgeon in 4 months because his office is very far from where I live and his office hours conflicts with my work schedule.

Continued.... I finally went to see my surgeon on Feb 18 for a much needed fill. He was not mad at me like I thought he would be because I lost the extra weight during the month I waited for my appt. Since then, I am on FIRE!!!! I will not, can not fail. I am working with my tool and not against it. STOP feeling guilty and stop beating yourself up. That will only keep you defeated. Forgive yourself. Leave your pass in the pass and move forward. It is never to late to start over.

No cholesterol medication, that is truly a blessing. How, wonderful. Watch out blood pressure meds Cruz y'all are next!!!! Keep us posted.

So wonderful that you have a support system. You looking good.

WOW!!!!!!!!!

Keep asking questions and just ignore the rude responses. Eat the meat and throw out the bones. I would not got upset over it. One bad apple would spoil the other helpful people on this forum.

May I offer some advice as a long time forum member who's dealt with my fair share of idiots PM me stupid and rude things?
Just ignore them and move on. They aren't worth your effort or your time.
In the future, don't make like posts like this thread either. I understand you're upset, but by making threads like this you're just throwing gasoline on the fire. It may be negative attention but you're still giving them attention regardless. The better option is no attention whatsoever.
Just my opinion based on my own experience.

I don't think you were rude. Now enough with this!

OMG, Missy. That is EXACTLY the point. How many times in my life have I dieted, lost a significant amount of weight, just to gain it back again. I just don't want to put myself out there for another failure. I must say, though, I'm feeling more confident since finding this forum and all the wonderful people on it.

I think some of this is the fear of the unknown. We were used to being heavy. We got comfortable with that weight. Maybe some of us is sacred to meet "the new you". Some of us never realized how big we were because we avoided the mirrors or taking pictures because of our weight. Now, this makes us take a look at ourselves. It may take a minute before our head catches up will all the changes.

I think some of this is the fear of the unknown. We were used to being heavy. We got comfortable with that weight. Maybe some of us is sacred to meet "the new you". Some of us never realized how big we were because we avoided the mirrors or taking pictures because of our weight. Now, this makes us take a look at ourselves. It may take a minute before our head catches up will all the changes.

Keep asking questions and just ignore the rude responses. Eat the meat and throw out the bones. I would not got upset over it. One bad apple would spoil the other helpful people on this forum.

I would start cutting back now. Therefore, it would be easier when you have the surgery. That will be one least thing to adjust to after being banded.

We ALL here to support each other, to be helpful and tell the truth (sometimes the truth hurt). Please, don't be offended. We all in this thing together.

We ALL here to support each other, to be helpful and tell the truth (sometimes the truth hurt). Please, don't be offended. We all in this thing together.

Believe me people notice. Even if they don't say anything, they notice. You don't need validation from anyone because YOU LOOK FABULOUS!!!!! Keep up the good work.

Whoop Whoop!!!!

We ALL here to support each other, to be helpful and tell the truth (sometimes the truth hurt). Please, don't be offended. We all in this thing together.

Well, kudos for having the balls to come on a forum and confess your indiscretion. And you know you did wrong, just don't do it again. Otherwise we're all gonna have to really kick your butt
BTW-You're going to have to grow a thicker skin if you want truthful responses here on this forum. We all want you to thrive and be successful and each of us will do it in a different way. Don't expect a Polyanna answer to every comment.
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My insurance company required a 6 months waiting period. I have to wait 8 months due to some health issues. While getting prepped for surgery, I remembered thinking boy 8 months really flew by fast. Use this time to get your mind set adjusted to a lifestyle change, ask plenty of questions and get ready for a new you.

Thanks so much to everyone whop responded. I'll admit, a part of me is still dealing with a little shame, the part that's says, "in a year of having the band, you should have been able to lose X amount of weight and keep it off, you failure." Bit I'm doing my best to ignore that part and remember that the band is a tool, and that no tool will do a job by itself, nor will it work if it's not correctly tuned up and used. So there.