Ok so I'm going through some issues with my hubby ever since I had the surgery I did go through a rough path h as everyone else does you the usual being in pain for the first 2 1/2 weeks well my husband would call me lil linda who is my sisters well she's an addict and it bothers me that he would say that like I lieing or something I let it go ur I find myself just keeping all my thoughts to myself so I don't have to hear his mouth before having sex was uncomfortable for him to be on top cause I couldn't breath and he says just going through all that before turned him off of me I found this out last night during a heated argument I always come on to him I feel like the (guy) in this he hard a rough child hood growing up as I did I make sure I don't treat him like other people do I respect him I don't call him names or put him down I'm just not that way I worked so hard in this relationship just to make sure he knows I'll never abandon him like his mom did and everyone else did brothers father and so on but I am coming to my breaking point because I wanna feel like I'm wanted for once he is always so up tight he suffers from bi-polor and pts indont know what else to do last night we had a Huge fight and I don't know what the next step is (devorce) maybe but we have 3yr old I'm not a quitter but I'm going through alot of life changing events in my life and indont have a support system here just online I would call someone but theirs no one I can call so I came here I'm 6weeks out and today I steped the scale I lost a total of 40 lbs I am very happy about that