Ok so I'm going through some issues with my hubby ever since I had the surgery I did go through a rough path h as everyone else does you the usual being in pain for the first 2 1/2 weeks well my husband would call me lil linda who is my sisters well she's an addict and it bothers me that he would say that like I lieing or something I let it go ur I find myself just keeping all my thoughts to myself so I don't have to hear his mouth before having sex was uncomfortable for him to be on top cause I couldn't breath and he says just going through all that before turned him off of me I found this out last night during a heated argument I always come on to him I feel like the (guy) in this he hard a rough child hood growing up as I did I make sure I don't treat him like other people do I respect him I don't call him names or put him down I'm just not that way I worked so hard in this relationship just to make sure he knows I'll never abandon him like his mom did and everyone else did brothers father and so on but I am coming to my breaking point because I wanna feel like I'm wanted for once he is always so up tight he suffers from bi-polor and pts indont know what else to do last night we had a Huge fight and I don't know what the next step is (devorce) maybe but we have 3yr old I'm not a quitter but I'm going through alot of life changing events in my life and indont have a support system here just online I would call someone but theirs no one I can call so I came here I'm 6weeks out and today I steped the scale I lost a total of 40 lbs I am very happy about that

Congrats on your weight loss! Try to stay focus on you and your son.... Im not married so i cant comment on your relationship. But Im not married by choice. I just dont have time for the drama.

hi phillygirl, I dont know the answer to your problem but you are in my thoughts. You shouldnt have to put up with so much negativity from the person who is supposed to be your support. Name calling is part of emotional abuse & to say horrible things about you sexually is just disgusting. Ive been in a very abusive relationship and now am single with 4 children. All I really want to say is take care of you and your child foremost & wishing you much luv xx

So because you're married to him, he can treat you with less respect than he would a perfect stranger?

Congrats on the weight loss that's great!! On the other hand try to take care of yourself and your child during this time and pray a lot. Do you have any friends you can talk to or maybe a support group. I hope things get better for you.

We had a long talk and since then he been doi g ok but its only been 2 days I just keep it 100 with him and told him how I felt that I love him but just not how it was in the beginning and we both need to fix that