PJ Geeser

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

i am going to post on this one. i have a great relationship with my husband. we married when i was thin. i went from 160lbs to 296 at my heaviest. he loved me all the same. he loved me when my kidneys failed, he loved me when he saw my heart stopped, he even got post traumatic stress disorder over the last one. he supports me in all of my endevers. he wants what i want and thats to live and be healthy. you deserve oh so much more than the clown you are with. love is uncondional. love is not painful. no man is worth all the tears you are shedding. i know what you are thinking right this min. if i do this he will love me again. well you shouldnt have to do anything. i surely don't know about this vacation thingy but i do realize money already spent you might lose the deposits. ask him to sit it out and take a good friend instead. have fun tear up the dance floor and you are going to find that you are still attractive to a whole lot of men. he isn't the only one in the pond you know.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

yes we all do...it may take many months to find any help from the band...first off you are healing yet and secondly just follow the band rules eat the amt you are supposed to-not what you can. These first few months are the bandster hell as you are basically on a diet yourself until you get some help from your band.
Mine took 1 full year, 11 fills and am first getting help from my band and I am loving it now but I had a year of hell. Most bandsters will get help around the 3 to 5 month mark so hang in there...you will get thru just like the rest of us

WOW...you look like a whole new person. AMAZING!

It you cant eat even slider foods such as pudding (and I know you know you shouldnt be eating that at all or any slider)and have acid reflux...they are both signs of being too tight...talk with your dr. about this...you may be one that doesnt even need the 3 ccs that you were given....lucky you. but you do need to be able to eat real food that is good for you without any issues. Maybe ask to have a little removed and see how that goes. My dr tells me you should never puke, never have trouble eating and never ever not be able to get liquids down. Coughing, acid reflux, heartburn are all signs of being too tight.

Drinking or eating will only compound the episode imo. You'll only pack the bolus of food tighter. Wait an hour and it should pass. Then go to liquids, cold preferably. And, of course, call your doctor or nurse if they have after hours access?

Miss Pearlie has done an outstanding job in such a short amount of time. I've just had the most romantic weekend and I'm going on pure adrenaline and butterflies today since I only slept for 2 hours last night. Anyway...I can wear the prettiest clothes and it's fun coming up with new combinations to wear them, so for the first time in a very long time I treated myself to a shopping spree on Saturday morning. I came back with clothes that I think I love more than any I've ever had and I can't wait to wear them - something I haven't felt since planning for the first day of school during senior high.
And - a guy that I've known for 4 years is looking like he's going to shape up to be a great companion for me. He lives in a neighboring state, but has family (who really like me and have urged him to move back just for me for at least 3 of those years) that he visits often in Houston; he recently accepted a new job and can visit every other weekend now. Call it a hunch, but I can see him moving back to Houston within the next year - I can't see things getting anything but better from here. He is a country gentleman, he's romantic, he loves animals, he's great with kids, has high morals and ethics and he's a good person...a benefit of knowing him for so long before getting to this point. He was attracted and attractive to me before I lost weight, so the doubt about "would he want me if I was the same weight as before" isn't something I have to be concerned about. Another bonus.
It's funny...he looks a lot like an actor I had a crush on and his personality matches a character that the actor played in one of my favorite movies (Allen Payne, Jason's Lyric). What's more is that I love the way people look at us, we catch strangers staring and smiling at us and that is so different because before the weight loss, I didn't think we "matched" like he was too attractive to be with me - I know, I know, self esteem, yada yada yada...but now, I don't feel that way and in his own way he "shows me off" when we go out. I never thought I'd be arm candy. LOL
Ok...all of this might have been TMI, but I haven't been in love with anyone in more than 14 years - this is an amazing development and I want to share it with the world. :wub:

coughing is a sign of being too tight

yes we all do...it may take many months to find any help from the band...first off you are healing yet and secondly just follow the band rules eat the amt you are supposed to-not what you can. These first few months are the bandster hell as you are basically on a diet yourself until you get some help from your band.
Mine took 1 full year, 11 fills and am first getting help from my band and I am loving it now but I had a year of hell. Most bandsters will get help around the 3 to 5 month mark so hang in there...you will get thru just like the rest of us

yes we all do...it may take many months to find any help from the band...first off you are healing yet and secondly just follow the band rules eat the amt you are supposed to-not what you can. These first few months are the bandster hell as you are basically on a diet yourself until you get some help from your band.
Mine took 1 full year, 11 fills and am first getting help from my band and I am loving it now but I had a year of hell. Most bandsters will get help around the 3 to 5 month mark so hang in there...you will get thru just like the rest of us

yes we all do...it may take many months to find any help from the band...first off you are healing yet and secondly just follow the band rules eat the amt you are supposed to-not what you can. These first few months are the bandster hell as you are basically on a diet yourself until you get some help from your band.
Mine took 1 full year, 11 fills and am first getting help from my band and I am loving it now but I had a year of hell. Most bandsters will get help around the 3 to 5 month mark so hang in there...you will get thru just like the rest of us

anyone with a weight problem (and i had over 100 pounds more than you on me when i started and a starting BMI of 62)... we all (hated) what we looked like, what we became and hated how we felt about ourselves..so enough with the i digust me or i hate myself because you dont...your child loves/needs you..you need YOU.. to begin to get well/healthy, you must like/love/care about yourself enough to follow what the dr advises you to do....i am sorry about the BF but it sounds like good riddance...you dont need that sh**it..he will get what is coming to him...
what you need is to dig down deep inside yourself, and make yourself well..
believe it or not, you are not alone

omgosh...how is that possible to lose that much in that short of time????
Please share your daily routine...Congrats on that...WOW!!!!

yes..dont worry-you just had surgery. Its not going to fall off. I just hit my year mark and on my 11th fill just now... I am FINALLY getting some feeling of restriction that many talk about. It may take a few months but also know it may take much longer for the band to start helping you like you feel it should. My loss has been very slow but feel now with a little help from my band...it should go a little faster...at least I hope so. At any rate...I am at a better place than I was a year ago and despite slow loss..it is a good way to do it. I am happy for each lb that leaves my body. Be patient and it will happen as long as you do what you are suppose to do..just keep plugging away at it

Congratulations!
It sounds like you have a great, realistic doctor. Very cool!

So sorry about that. My first time was kind of tough too because of the scar tissue that forms which they said was common but they eventually found it. I will say with all the probing in and out with that needle- I did feel it too but bit my lip hard as I wanted them to find it. They will find it and the next time will go much more smoothly for sure. the first time is a bugger alot of times. You have done fantastic already- keep going and you are well on your way.

So sorry about that. My first time was kind of tough too because of the scar tissue that forms which they said was common but they eventually found it. I will say with all the probing in and out with that needle- I did feel it too but bit my lip hard as I wanted them to find it. They will find it and the next time will go much more smoothly for sure. the first time is a bugger alot of times. You have done fantastic already- keep going and you are well on your way.

its nice to come to a place were (someone) has and is walking in your shoes...its why i continue to come here