ShoeLover

I'm pretty much experiencing the same thing. A few girlfriends are on super strict diet and one goes to the gym twice a day. She sat quietly while another coworker that has not seen me in a month, started complimenting me on how smaller I looked. When she was asked: can you believe how great she looks? She got up and said: I see her every day, so she looks the same to me and walked away.
I was a little surprised but said nothing. She came back and asked me if I brought my lunch with me, stupid question, to which I replied yes. She then screamed: great see you at lunch sexy!! and gave me a big, awkward, hug!!
She confessed to our other friend what she did. She tried to bring it up a few times. I shut her out every time. But yes surgery did change the dynamic of my friendship with her.

I haven't lost any friends yet, but I do see some jealousy and competition. Now a lot of my friends are on fad diets and exercising in an attempt to "keep up" or maintain their status as smaller than me. Maybe I should be flattered that I motivated them to make some changes, but it really makes me feel awkward because of what I think their motives are.

I haven't lost any friends yet, but I do see some jealousy and competition. Now a lot of my friends are on fad diets and exercising in an attempt to "keep up" or maintain their status as smaller than me. Maybe I should be flattered that I motivated them to make some changes, but it really makes me feel awkward because of what I think their motives are.

I haven't lost any friends yet, but I do see some jealousy and competition. Now a lot of my friends are on fad diets and exercising in an attempt to "keep up" or maintain their status as smaller than me. Maybe I should be flattered that I motivated them to make some changes, but it really makes me feel awkward because of what I think their motives are.

That whole attitude is just ridiculous. It's like saying that taking birth control pills is the "easy way out" -- people should just rely on the rhythm method! God forbid you take advantage of advances in modern medicine when you could stick to old-fashioned, more difficult ways of preventing unwanting pregnancies! Women who take the pill are lazy! They should take their cervical temperature, carefully graph their potentially fertile days, and practice appropriate abstinence on those days just like our grandmothers did! Who cares if birth control pills are statistically more successful? They're too easy!
Why do some people get so riled up about other people actually using modern medicine? Isn't what's important that we ALL get healthy with the help and guidance of medical professionals, whether that is with surgery and diet and exercise, with drugs and diet and exercise, or diet and exercise alone? Why do some people feel it appropriate to denigrate other people's decisions about what is medically best for them.
And we all know that there is nothing easy about the surgery. Surgery is statistically more successful but I would never call it the easy way out.

I can honestly say that day was the first time I thought about my weight being a serious issue. I kept thinking about all those helpless people trapped in the towers, and that if I had been there it would have been a tremendous struggle for me to get out even if I could reach the stairs, because I could barely climb down 8 flights of stairs, much less 80 or more. That day started me on my journey that led me where I am today.
Prayers to all those who lost their lives and to their families.

I can honestly say that day was the first time I thought about my weight being a serious issue. I kept thinking about all those helpless people trapped in the towers, and that if I had been there it would have been a tremendous struggle for me to get out even if I could reach the stairs, because I could barely climb down 8 flights of stairs, much less 80 or more. That day started me on my journey that led me where I am today.
Prayers to all those who lost their lives and to their families.

I confess that I do compare my weight loss to others' on this site and get pissed off almost daily.
I confess that I bought a 4 pack of Moscato Rose this past weekend and drank them all in 2 days. (I'm still proud of myself though, because I used to buy the big bottles and have 3-4 glasses every day, before I had the surgery.)
I confess that I just cannot get motivated enough to exercise like I should.
I confess that I always look at myself when I pass a window at work because I can't believe how small I'm getting.
I confess that I still eat fast food a lot, I don't like to cook for only myself.

Why does anyone you're dating have to know that you are sleeved? I wouldn't divulge that information to a suitor until we become serious.

Why does anyone you're dating have to know that you are sleeved? I wouldn't divulge that information to a suitor until we become serious.

On 03/09, which was about my 6 month mark, I weighed in at 214.6.. putting me 87.8 lbs down.
I have been training for a half marathon that I am SUPPOSED to be doing in January, but there are some things going on that are very likely going to prevent this. I was running 5 times a week, 40-60 minutes every morning. I would run as far as I could in 20 or 30 minutes and then find my way back, LOL. Also started training for the MS150. The left side of my left leg from my knee down has been numb for 2 months and when it started I cut down to 3 days a week running and last week my foot went numb causing me to trip over my toes. Ironically, I had two MRIs last week that are primarily testing to rule out MS, but the more likely culprit is idiopathic peripheral neuropathy.. These are in NO WAY connected to my sleeve. Just a really bad hand that I have been dealt at the moment. When I know what's up I will have to reassess. Honestly, I am just REALLY glad that this happened near the end of the loss phase and that I have a sleeve of steel that still has a pretty low capacity.

I am 6 months out and I started close to where you were. I'm trying to figure out what size I will be in six months because I'm going to the Caribbean for vacation. Your post is inspiring. Can I ask you, what is your excercise regimen? How much had you lost at your six month mark?

Not that I would encourage aquiring debt, but one option is to finance the cost of the surgery so you can have it sooner. I know for me, there was no way I was gonna wait longer than I had to. We didnt have the money, but my mother in law loaned it to me....so I do have to pay it back, but without interest of course.
I went to Garcia and had a great experience, he is typically $5,000 which includes 3 nights in the Marriot. Unless he is running a special like in August for 4,700. In the end, it is up to who you feel more comfortable with.....I honestly can say, even if I didnt go to a "less expensive" surgeon....I really dont think the amount of $ we pay has anything to do with the way we are cared for or the surgery itself.
Funny you should say your family feels safer going across the Tx. border. I live in Tx. also and I felt safer going across from Cali. The Tx. border seems to have more activity going on right now....but thats just me.

I believe Jennifer Hudson had some type of surgical intervention as well, the way her body is shaped, it doesn't look like she's done a lot of exercise to build muscle, and she lost the weight extremely fast. I also wouldn't believe everything that the celebs or the media says, these people's careers are about selling the public a fantasy - and there's not really that many actors who gain/lose weight for specific roles.

LOL - I guess he was full of it.....LMAO

Wow... That lady deserved to get cussed out! That was so rude!

ShoeLover
There are stupid, ignorant people all over the world. Unbelievable - unreal that she would make such a comment.
she also is supposedly representing her business/airline
my apologies for her behavior
your doing great on your weight loss
congrats
good luck
stay well

You just made me laugh, I'm sure unintentionally, with "the little heffa" ! I am stealing that term!
Congrats on 76lbs lost!!

I'm not proud of this, and if the women on this forum hate me for it or are offended, I'm truly sorry. But this was one of my rock bottom moments and it made me realize that I had to do something, anything, about my weight because I didn't like the person I was becoming. And I initially ruled out weight loss surgery because I thought it was too extreme.
Here's my story: I was taking my seat on an airplane and I was sitting next to this woman--not obese but very dumpy--and when I sat down, she gave me a dirty look and made that "scooting over" movement, clearly showing me that she didn't want to sit next to a fat person.
I looked at her and said, "What? What's your problem?" And she replied, "Perhaps you should have bought an extra seat."
Without batting an eyelash, I said, "And you smell like blood. Who's more offended?" She gave me that shocked, pearl-clutching face and wouldn't even look at me for the rest of the flight.
And at the time I actually felt good about saying that to her. Then I went to the airplane restroom. I was washing my hands and realized how inappropriate I was to this woman. I looked at the person staring back at me in the mirror and whispered, "Gustavo Alexander Rena, this is NOT who you are."
That was the very moment I decided to make an appointment with the surgeon.

I confess that I do compare my weight loss to others' on this site and get pissed off almost daily.
I confess that I bought a 4 pack of Moscato Rose this past weekend and drank them all in 2 days. (I'm still proud of myself though, because I used to buy the big bottles and have 3-4 glasses every day, before I had the surgery.)
I confess that I just cannot get motivated enough to exercise like I should.
I confess that I always look at myself when I pass a window at work because I can't believe how small I'm getting.
I confess that I still eat fast food a lot, I don't like to cook for only myself.

I confess that I do compare my weight loss to others' on this site and get pissed off almost daily.
I confess that I bought a 4 pack of Moscato Rose this past weekend and drank them all in 2 days. (I'm still proud of myself though, because I used to buy the big bottles and have 3-4 glasses every day, before I had the surgery.)
I confess that I just cannot get motivated enough to exercise like I should.
I confess that I always look at myself when I pass a window at work because I can't believe how small I'm getting.
I confess that I still eat fast food a lot, I don't like to cook for only myself.

I confess that I do compare my weight loss to others' on this site and get pissed off almost daily.
I confess that I bought a 4 pack of Moscato Rose this past weekend and drank them all in 2 days. (I'm still proud of myself though, because I used to buy the big bottles and have 3-4 glasses every day, before I had the surgery.)
I confess that I just cannot get motivated enough to exercise like I should.
I confess that I always look at myself when I pass a window at work because I can't believe how small I'm getting.
I confess that I still eat fast food a lot, I don't like to cook for only myself.

I confess...
*My eyes are still bigger than my stomach so many times I end up with a plate full of food I can't eat.
*Stalls scare the crap out of me. I feel like a failure and my thinking gets skewed and I binge...well as much as my sleeve will let me.
*Im mad they came out with all the "good" food after I got sleeved. pizza on garlic bread? !?! That's freakin genius! Lol
*I fall in and out of love with exercise.
*I downplay my weight loss to my friends who are overweight or who I know are jealous.
*I hate when people ask me about health/nutrition and I know theyre not serious. Why waste my time? And don't "act" serious about weight because the fat girl is getting ready to pass you up.
This feels good. May be back lol.

Absolutely correct. If she hasn't ever been morbidly obese, she has no idea what it's like. Personally, I've always made it a strict policy NOT to give advice on things I know nothing about. I find that most of the time in this situation that a friend is just looking for a shoulder to lean on, not unsolicited advice. I can still support them even if I don't agree with them. It's not my place to push my opinion on them, unless they specifically ask for my opinion, and my friends know that I'm a shoot from the hip kinda girl, though I'm never unkind as so many have been to me simply because I'm obese.

Frza, I would love to know what your findings are if you get enough responses.