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wow that doesnt sound so fun! I have seen some on here post about having hernia repairs while in surgery to be banded but I havent seen anyone post anything about getting GERD from the band. Then again, Im a newbie to all this so just because I havent heard of it, doesnt mean it cant or hasnt happened. I just hope it doesnt because I believe I may already have GERD and hoping I dont have to have anything else done during surgery other then the band....

Welcome! I'm not banded yet myself but will be very soon. This website is full of information and hundreds (if not more) different view points with pros and cons and tons of expeirence. I have learned a lot on here in preparing me for my adventure. Some of it is intimidating and scary while some is refreshing and uplifiting. I have seen a lot of support on here from members and they are very resourcesful. Again welcome and good luck on your approval, I hope for you and your family you are approved!! :smile2:

So I have time to think. This is a blessing yet a curse! I know I need time to think and wrap my head around the fact that in about 5 days I will be banded and on my way in post op and preparing myself for it. However, I am now wishing after reading everyone stories and them all having somewhere in them "but everyone is different" that I had a crystal ball so I know what to expect of myself. Will I be one that is in pain at level 8-10 for the next week after? Will I be one of the banded that regrets my decision, even if for a short time? Will I be able to be one of the banded that can walk out of the hospital same day? Be one that walking will solve most of my discomfort and in days I'll be full of yay's? In what will seem like no time be posting my weight loss on the forum? There is no way for me to know. I have always said "Human nature is to fear the unknown. With change comes unknown outcomes, therefore it is only natural for us to fear change." I need to heed my own advice...I know this is a change. I know this change is one that results from my inner most vulnerable state. I know my fear is from the change and the fear of the unknown. Unknown recovery, unknown results, and unknown how I will react mentally & emotionally to either. So I guess what I'm asking is, anyone else wish they had a crystal ball?

I am scheduled to be banded the 30th of this month. Im still nervous and thinking, "has it really come to this." The end of every episode I have with myself it results to "yes its time." I feel like because Im in my late 20's that I should just be able to excersise and eat right and watch the weight come off. In my past it took a very long time but it did and I kept tryin threw the plateaus but I knew in my heart that my metabolism was fighting me. It was easy for me to lose the drive and motivation when my body was letting me down. After making my decision I sat down and wrote everything in my head on paper of why I want this surgery. What I see when I look in the mirror, the hardships my weight has put on me physically (from getting dressed, my heigene, my marriage, my activities with my daughters, etc) to mentally (no self esteem, uncomfortable in my own skin, lack of self respect, no confidence) and anytime I wonder "what am i thinking" I re-read the painful thoughts I wrote out. I hope you make the decision thats best for you and live with no regrets as much as I hope to do the same. I truely believe after the recovery period, i will be happy with the surgery. Im such a wuss tho so reading the recovery stories scares me =/

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Oh Lord only knows how many times we'd be divorced if I didnt have thick skin. My husband really doesnt know tack and his filter from his brain to mouth wasnt ever fully developed from time of birth

Aw hope his nerves calm a bit at least so you can relax. It's interesting how much of a "we" process it is for things like this and our loved ones. Hope he behaves for ya

I discussed with my husband the changes that will occur once I'm banded and other people reacting to my weight loss was brought up. I told hubby I was afraid of family & friends thinking I should stop losing weight 50 lbs in because they are so used to seeing me 85 lbs over weight that 50 lbs less is a lot to them. I told him if he feels I should stop then to discuss it with me but to understand that losing 50 lbs doesnt put me even in the top of the healthy BMI for my height and age. I totally agree with you that being called anorexic. Any comment that is stating you are unhealthy (be it too skinny or too fat) is uncalled for. How can people say they care about someone when they are so obviously verbally assaulting them by saying such things. I understand they care but becareful of the accusations you make.

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This is hilarious because the other day my husband said something and I told my bestie I think my husband needs a mouth filter because his brain ok's him to say things that could result in me putting ice cubes on his side of the bed *evil giggle*.... My husband, brother in law, and myself were joking around about me talking to a guy friend of mine and my brother in law pops off with a sarcastic "Well you know she is about to get the Lapband done and is planning on losing all that weight"...My husband comes back with, "Doesnt mean she will cheat on me, it means she will be my artifical trophy wife"....My response "ARTIFICAL???? So I want be a real skinny healthy wife...no I'll be a fake? How the heck do you figure" Oh my ice trays are in the freezer full and about to be used!!!! lol But hey at least he knows I wont cheat on him hahaha

As it is right now more people know then I would like about me getting this done. I have a job and a part time job and at both places is at least 1 person who has had it done, with great results and little to no complciations, yet I still heard negative feed back. Thankfully in both places are a few people who are greatly supporting me as well and that really helps. My immediate family knows and a few other family members that had to be told because the surgery & recovery time interfered with other family plans that were extremely important and I couldnt play the "sorry I work" card. I wouldnt have told the in-laws (all but one arent totally pro idea) but I have one that lives with us and has a big mouth so...they all know. Really quick I had to get thick skin because I wasnt just hearing the negative feed back cuz of surgery but also because I'm going to Mexico. So I just tell them the facts, results of my research, and end it with "Its my body, my mind, my soul, my decision. Thank you for worrying however I have done my homework and I have made up my mind and feel confident I am doing the right thing for me and my family". After that they can scoff all they want or support me...thats their decision. For the most part though I have noticed, I have more support then negativity I just need to tone out the negative ones and I'm fine =)

I go for my testing on Friday (29th) and banded on Saturday (30th). Oh I hope Im one of the lucky ones that has an easy recovery, out same day, and home laughing about all my nerves a few days post-op....oh please please please, be me! hahaha

How exciting! Please keep us posted. And your daughter sounds like a sweetie <3

I will be headed down to Tiajuana on early Friday morning to be banded on the 30th. I was referred by a co-worker that went to same surgeon I'm going to (Kuri) about 5 months ago. She has since gone back for a fill and I will be doing the same. Its about a 7 hr drive from where I live. I understand the scare, I'd be lieing if I didnt say I'm 100% not scared but honestly I'm not scared of the Mexico part or the doctor himself. I have heard nothing but good about him and his staff. I'm more scared because that I'll be one of the ones with lots of pain and not one to jump up and be ready to go for a jog haha. I dont think you are nuts. I have told family & a few friends where my surgery is at but for the most part its on a need to know basis because I'm fine and I dont need anyone un-nerving me this close and with my mind set. Good Luck!

While Im not a nurse I do dispatch for an ambulance company =P and before that I was a 911 Central dispatcher for neighboring county sheriff's department. Public Service is the name of the game, where shift work is part of life, overtime is abundant, working holidays is usually a must, social lives are a bit absent at times, and family are always getting told "im sorry I wish I could but I gotta go into work tonight". I work graves for the most part and 12 hr shifts are long time to sit stationary. When you are unable to get breaks to leave property you are stuck with *drum roll please* delivery! I think they have it as a requirement that if its delivery it cant be healthy =) So expensive too! I was on the fluffy side coming into this career but I did tend to expand the fluffiness to a heff-ish state and now...full on heffer status =( I'm busy but never active....does jumping for the phone burn as many calories as a jumping jack? Just curious lol

Aw you poor thing to get your lil band friend and to have to move and then have the dr bail, sounds like it was for the best if in the end you got a dr you seem to feel a bond with. I hope all is good and you find your sweet spot. Im not banded yet so I dont know much but I agree with the previous post that asked if doc looked to make sure placement is correct as well. Hate for them to take it out if in the end all you need as a few more fills and your sweet spot is nailed...that sweet spot sounds pretty amazing and I pray you find yours soon so you can spell your joy over these forums with "yay me's"

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Hello! I'm being banded on the 30th, 8 days. Im so excited, scared, terrified, overjoyed, and all that other stuff. I'm a mother of two girlies and I'm 28 yrs old. I was pregnant 3 years in a row from the time I turned 19 with only 2 months between pregnancies to recover. Frist pregnancy I was 19 so of course I figured my body would just bounce back (and from what I had heard with a nice set of boobs which 6 years after the last child...these ladies are not looking happy). Two months after my daughter was born I found out I was expecting another child. And then two months after the loss of my son I found we were expecting our 3rd and last child. So...needless to say I lost track of myself somewhere before I even knew who I was as an adult female. I am married but thanks to my physical baggage we seem to hit some rough times...because you are right about needing to love yourself. With love is respect and I dont respect this body. I realized about 3 weeks ago when I had a wild hair to step on the scale before thinking about my days off coming up and if the gym was something I wanted to tackle again after gaining back the weight I had previously lost....I was snapping at anyone who looked at me that day about nonsense, I wasnt laughing with my daughters or spending time with my husband (I work full time and lately it can be from 48-80 hrs a week so family time should mean a lot to me)....I got on the scale and saw I gained all the weight I spent 6 months working off back....I felt like all that work was for nothing, all those days in the gym for nothing. I looked in the bathroom mirror and realized I dont know who was staring back at me. Then it hit me hard...I dont have low self esteem, have No self esteem. I wanted to mentally hear "The Eye of The Tiger" song and go run and put on my gym clothing and run out the door straight to the gym and find myself just like I did time and time before (never lost more then 20 lbs before but i always saw hope)...not this time....nope no motivation. I wanted to cry to my husband and say "Help Me"...but there was nothing he could do. I was becoming the angry fat girl who hated herself and I didnt like my outside and my inside was rotting out. I went to the living room and called my co-worker who had the lapband done who referred me to her surgeon. My journey begins. I know the emotional termoil you are feeling. I know the loneliness you are feeling. I also understand how excited you are right now and how hopeful you must be. I'm glad you are taking control of your own life, and hopefully if you arent already you will soon be singing the Eye of the Tiger song

Im scheduled to be banded the 30th. I have a couple times thought about my age, 28, and how long I have been over weight, how long I have put into losing weight, and if I think this is a NEED and not a want. Am an all or nothing type. If I diet, then I diet fully and keep myself honest, if I dont diet then I dont make excuses and just explain im not in the zone to diet. I havent done any fad diets. I tried WW and then on my own. I have a gym membership and I pull my records to see my track record. I answer only to myself while dieting...its seriously a zone thing. Now my breaking point was I did lose 25 lbs, quit smoking for a year, put on 35 lbs (making me the largest I'd been after 3 pregnancies in my life), started smoking because I was depressed, lost 20 lbs, and while smoking I have put it back on. I'm a week out of surgery and Im done...I cant find the motivation to without help. I cant keep doing this the rest of my life. I need to be happy for me, my kids, my marriage, my career, and again for me. So no more smoking, no more yo-yo'ing around...no more excuses. I get the tool, and together (me and my tool) we get happy & healthy. One of the things I've done...I wrote a 3 paged typed journal that is every thought I have in my head about my weight. What I see when I look in the mirror, the difficulties my weight gives me daily (shortness of breath, cant shave my legs easily, cant paint my toenails without an unusual amount of effort, etc) and what I think of myself and how that effects people around me. I then saved it put it away. Two days letter I got it out and read it to myself, out loud, and cried...a lot. I cant say if you should get this done but I can say after I sat with myself and put my head on paper, weighted myself, gave myself a come to Jesus talk, and looked back on my efforts, and I made a call to schedule the purchase of what I hope will be my friend...Lapband.

Too funny! I am getting banded on the 30th and I foresee myself doing what you did with your bacony cheeseburger only with chocolate about once a month LMBO. Thanks for sharing!

Yay! How exciting!

I TOTALLY understand! I have a cold right now...stuffy nose, pressure in me head, watery eyes, and cough...no fever. I contemplated same thing, if I should confess. Luckily I'm 8 days out But I do work the next 6 outta 7 of em on 12 hr graveyard shifts...so rest is not much of an option considering I also have 2 small children! But I'm praying and trying to do my best to rest up and kick this thing. I'm doing what you are...doing my best to kick the cooty booty and seeing where I'm at day before... I suggest not hiding it if it were even possible. Its just to risky. Recovery sounds like it can be rough so why make it a gaurantee painful recovery or turn from cold to worse cuz of infection. Hope you feel better!