kadoane8

I am a new lapbander and I have read numerous posts where people are sharing their personal feelings and concerns about the lap-band procedure and I've seen the most heartless responses. How can people who share in the same weight struggle be so judgmental and cruel? I myself have received some rude responses for my posts. Don't get me wrong, I know that people will be people, you have the good the bad and the down right ugly who build themselves up by putting others down. But, honestly, I thought this site would be a little more sensitive to those with weight issues. Weight issues stem from eating disorders in many cases, and these disorders aren't going to go away over night. Sometimes people make mistakes and turn to sites like this for a little encouragement. I'm sorry, but I have had my successes and I have also failed at times. And because I know I am prone to fail, I can show a little understanding to someone in their time of need. If you have responded harshly to someone who may have been crying out for help or encouragement...shame on you. If not, thank you for your kind words. You never know how your words can hurt or help someone.

I have had some epic belches. It happens like if I bend over or lean over. It feels so good! Nothing comes up with it, but I feel less bloated after. The first time I did it my husband just stared at me in awe. I am three weeks post op.

So...your band has become non-functional, and you're doing WHAT? Eating whatever you want?
Ummm. I'm thinking that the Lap band is probably not gonna jump out of your stomach and snatch that burger out of your hand before you shove it into your mouth.
It doesn't usually work that way.
Yes, you DO need to see your Doctor and find out what the problem is. Perhaps it was someone new that gave you a fill, and accidentally removed some Fluid. It could be one of several things.
But the more important issue here is..... What are YOU going to do until this is sorted out? You need to eat as though the Band is working at full capacity. The rules do NOT change just because your band is not functioning as it should. If you have had your band for around a year, then you should know how to eat by now, and you shouldn't have to "test" the band in any way.
"I swear I feel like I have no band at all. Has anyone ever had this? I left a message for my Doc today after a big il breakfast."
You really didn't HAVE to have that "Big il breakfast". You could have had a small, band-sized breakfast, the kind you SHOULD be having every day.
"I was not hungry today while I ate but I tested the band all day and the food won every time."
I wouldn't see it so much as the food winning, but as YOU LOSING. And why did you feel the need to "test" the band?
You know, you really need to learn how to live WITHOUT the Lap Band. There is a very good possibility that your Lap band might be removed from you at some point. SOME surgeons are beginning to see the Lap Band as a temporary set of "training" wheels over a period of 3-5 years, during which the Patient should do everything they can to develop new eating habits, and a new relationship with food. This is because of increasing incidence of erosion, slippage, and other problems associated with the Band. And if it happens to you, you need to be ready.
SEE your Doctor, and find out what the problem is, and get it fixed. But in the meantime, STICK TO THE RULES.
S.

Spartan,
There is simply no excuse for how harsh, rude, or condescending you are being. Please pick on someone else who is not going through something life changing. It is hard to see someone being so cruel to someone else for no reason. I am sure there are other forums you can go to and put people down and make them feel like crap, just please stop doing it to someone here.

I was being quite facetious.
Here's a link so you can look up the word.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/facetious
I don't usually come back to threads I comment on. I simply write what I have to say, and then move on. But, in THIS case....I really had to come back and see if this was for real. Someone who actually did not KNOW what kind of surgery they had....and then scarfed a Big Mac shortly after whatever-surgery-it-was-that-they-had. Sounds too much like a joke.
Apparently not.
First, let me correct you on something.
You said:
"There was NO reason for the 'Geez' and 'You said it, you ARE a moron"
I did NOT say "you said it, you ARE a moron". I simply said "Uh.....Ok. YOU said it." YOU added the rest.
Try re-reading what I actually wrote. There is some serious truth in there, whether you choose to believe or not.
And yes, you did say "you don't have to tell me I messed up." But I did anyway. Because you DID "mess up", and simply telling people that you already knew that does not make that fact go away. And, it's little different than eating a bite of cake or something. You mouthed a complete BIG MAC. "Fast", as you put it. That's not something you just "do". You have to go and BUY it. It takes a little time to consume. You did have some time to THINK about this. But...it's your body, your life.
You said:
"The last time I checked these were 'support' forums not 'big bitch' forums!"
People say that a lot here when someone says something they don't like to hear.. This is NOT "Lap Band Support.com", It's not "LapBandHandholding.com", it's not LapBandWhinerPacification.com"....it's not a LOT of things.
It IS LapBandTalk.
It is a place to exchange INFORMATION. Support might be considered a part of that, but "support" means different things to different people.
If YOU think that "support" means simply giving you a pat on your little head and telling you everything is ok, then you are wrong. Real support means telling you how it IS, rather than telling you what you WANT TO HEAR. In your case, though, it would appear that listening might be an issue. Like listening to your doctor when he explains what kind of surgery you are going to have.
You said:
"Honey, you were pretty much the opposite of UNrude... you were RUDE."
Cupcake, I'm not all that sure that "Unrude" is an actual word. You might be a Moron (YOUR words), but at least you are creative.
Rude? Hardly. Blunt, yes. Correct in what I am saying to you? Absolutely.
S.

...Please don't tell me your THAT dense.
Honey, you were pretty much the opposite of UNrude... you were RUDE.
There was NO reason for the 'Geez' and 'You said it, you ARE a moron'
If you did read the whole thing I pretty much said "You DONT have to tell me I messed up"
The last time I checked these were 'support' forums not 'big bitch' forums!

I got cocktail forks and demitasse spoons-it was all I could find at Ross, but they totally help! And, no plastic involved.

I got cocktail forks and demitasse spoons-it was all I could find at Ross, but they totally help! And, no plastic involved.

I think I will totally throat punch someone if they say that I took the easy way out. I used to think that before I had surgery about people too. Boy do I know different now! Hang in there.