I don't feel like a fraud. I did what was right for me to be successful. My husband knows, and now, only because I experienced a slip while travelling for work, my boss knows...and that's it.
I work hard to lose the weight and I will work hard to maintain it I'm sure.
When I travel I get asked if I have an implant. If I have an overweight person that is going to scan me, then I tell them yes, I have a lapband. That usually strikes up a conversation. It takes longer to get through security, not because I'm a risk, but I'm helping them and enjoying sharing.
We do what works for us. I don't feel I should be obliged to give everyone all the details, nor would I feel betrayed if someone lost a bunch of weight only to find out later they where banded. I might think darn, why the heck didn't you mention it to me, I could have used a push, but wa ll know that our battle with our weight is a very personal and very emotional one. There's simply no "right" answer to this...it's truly what you are amost comfortanble with.