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ok I cant believe I am jumping to this thread to tell my story in hopes that you can relate or find hope or commonality in my story. I had my first Surgery as My Marriage was coming to an end it was an attempt to save it but was a joke, nothing was going to save it. I got banded and got miserable throwing up all the time lost 30 pounds and divorced healed a little emotionally. Started dating, Still heavy not as heavy thought like you it was easier to date fatter. Anyway, flash forward 5 f**king years of no luck no love dating. uckkkkk to the nth degree. but I knew I wanted love. And kept trying. I eventually said ok if not love than an education. So I went back to school and got a degree lol still no luck no love dating. But I wasn't as focused on it. But still dying inside wanting to be in love or at least like, and a partner to go through things with. Well despite my pathetic attempt with the lap band I gained it all back. Finally after a trip to emergency room I decided to have it out and got sleeved. Finally real weight loss. Still dating no luck no love dating. I kept trying because like I said I wanted love. I did everything people said "learned to really love myself" I wasn't even close had to really figure that **** out. Weight or no Weight. Got it mostly figured out. Kinda, Being obese is a mechanism to not really deal Food was my drug, OK so Finally still dating now thinner a little more success. And then it happened met him On Zoosk. But the best part was we went to a restaurant on our first date and as we are looking at the menu, he starts to say, oh I really dont eat much not sure if you would understand but I had this thing done to my stomach. LOL I just looked at him in disbelief. Not to mention I was digging him anyway. Well there it was we split our first of many Entrees "steak tips" laughed about Protein shakes and all that went with the first year. He was a year and a little out I was nearly two years out. Ok so Moral of the story don't give up but don't focus on it. And while you are waiting get **** done. Getting my degree was amazing. I used to pray for God to send me a Man a good man, Or at times any man. When I stopped focusing on that and my pray changed to Get me to graduation and let me be thinner or at peace with my weight. So year after 7 long years I did it. I am in love with a man who has a gastric sleeve and teenage boys who play sports and video games like mine. Sorry to tell you the sappy story. Best of Luck Dawn Marie

I am almost 3 months post RNY (Tuesday will be the official 3 month day). Today I am feeling really good about where I am. I am down 41.8 lbs since surgery (83.4 since starting). In addition I have a few great NSVs: Lost over 25" total (including 5" off my waist and 4.5" off my hips) My arthritis pain in my knees is virtually gone I am walking 2 miles a day with ease Almost all my clothes are too big. A bunch I've had to pull to donate because they simply aren't wearable, and the rest are getting close. When we are out of social isolation I'm going to need to do some shopping before going back to the office. In addition, I had my 3 month group appointment last week and was released to drink caffeinated coffee again (just need to ensure I don't add a lot of high calorie items). SO Excited. I hope everyone else is doing well in their journey and staying positive during this trying time! Lori

most people lose 15-25 lbs the first month. Yes some lose more and some lose less, but the majority seem to lose somewhere in that range. So you're absolutely normal! I lost 16 lbs the first month, if that makes you feel any better. And I ended up losing 100% of my excess weight, so...

Mmmmm, girlfriend you KNOW good food! All of those sound delish and I would enjoy!! Most often, I prefer a vinaigrette with crumbled bleu, Roquefort or Feta. For the past few years I’ve worked with Ken’s Steakhouse Lite Northern Italian with Basil & Romano. It’s very adaptable in a nice light way. Only 45 calories per 2 tbls., 1 Carb, 0 Sugar.

I no longer use the app for this site. I simply open internet browser for my iPhone, so safari. There are two ways to update your weight in this site on safari. 1) scroll down all the way to almost the bottom and it will show how many pounds we’ve lost together. You can update it there. 2) Go to the top right and choose under the menu where it shows notifications... choose my surgery. That will take you to your surgery info and you will see a drop down. Choose my progress. You can update your weight there. The app for BP on iOS is not user friendly. It’s very hard to use. Use safari. It’s much easier for us iPhone users.

It's a hard habit to break. If I don't pay attention, I'll eat too fast and make myself sick. I ended up buying smaller utensils (think appetizer spoons and forks) to help me take smaller bites, and for a little while, I counted chews. Putting your fork or spoon down in between bites helps to slow you down a little too. You just gotta be careful so you don't overeat and make yourself ill.

Hello, and congrats on getting your VSG! When I got my sleeve done back in 2018, I had a hard time getting all my fluids in as well, but it does get a lot easier over time. Remember, your stomach is still healing. I do agree with lisafrommassachusetts though. Track all liquids, including protein shakes and broth. You may be getting in more fluids than you realize!

So at my highest weight I was 509. I had become a complete recluse at that point. Other than going to my job I always had an excuse to not go to any of my families gatherings, my kids school stuff, anything. I understand your hesitation especially in social situations where everyone is looking their best. Personally going out into these situations was like shining a spotlight on everything I didn't like about myself, and so I avoided it all. Post surgery I still find myself thinking like that sometimes. It's a struggle, to balance those negative voices in your head. I can tell you I regret everything I missed out on. At the same time, it probably wouldn't have been good on my mental health to try and muscle through it all. It's a journey for a reason, only you can decide what your ready for. What I learned about the process is that my true friends were patient and were happy to wait for me to be ready to take the next steps.

This is so hard. I'm almost 3 years out. I've lost 150 pounds. Yet, there are some days, I pull my clothes out of the closet, look at them and go - that can't be mine, it's too small. I consistently go to the wrong size racks in stores. My head says I'm still 300 pounds. When I see photos - then vs. now type things, I see it. But, when I look in the mirror, I still see the fat girl. FWIW, I'm an avid athlete now and work out almost daily. I'm ranked in the top 25 of my sport for my age group in the US. I work with a personal trainer and I can deadlift 235 pounds and squat 225. Yet, I still see myself as a size 26 and not a size 6. The head is the last thing to get on board.

Its hard to tell a difference sometimes when you see yourself so often, usually others who havent seen you in a bit notice right away. But photos really really help. They often catch the subtle transitions we miss. Thats why the VETs often recommended taking them at the start of your journey. And sometimes body dysmorphia comes into play where people don't have an accurate mental/realistic view of themselves at all.