Leaderboard

You are seriously over thinking this. Tell him you are having surgery. His reaction is going to tell you if he is the man you should be marrying or not. Married people keep secrets from the rest of the world all the time. If he can't keep your secret he isn't worth marrying.

For those of you about to have your surgery....take measurements! I had surgery on 5/5 and have lost 47 pounds. I recently hit a stall when I started working out. I know I'm probably gaining muscle and losing size but because I didn't take beginning measurements I have nothing to compare it to. Just thought I'd share [emoji4]

The surgeon will decide what surgery Is best for you I got vsg because I don't have acid issues it does however give you bad acid reflux mine only lasted the first week now I feel normal. Sent from my A1601 using BariatricPal mobile app

Thank you! Did you go to the hospital later that day for preop meeting? Did you start shakes the same day? I have a list of questions and am getting excited! I had a checkup with another doc yesterday and she told me that she knows our doc from her residency program and he is known for being very technically good in surgery. That was nice to hear! Meanwhile I'm home sick with a cold. Better now than on 7/31 I guess!

Pre-op class was good. They give you a few packets and go through a lot of information. We discussed each stage of food, vitamins, medicines, what to do and not do, weighed in, confirmed dates, and a send off with the shakes.

@sophie66 you've lost 225 lbs!! holy moly . be proud! buy an appropriate bathing suit from a link posted above - they look nice. - it is hard to put yourself out there in the public - but you can do it!!! better to have loose skin than all that excess weight - anybody you think is staring or something - screw them!! they might not even be staring at you - it's just that you might be self-conscious enjoy the water and life!! keep up the good job -kathy

Re: the secret - my husband, my two teenage daughters and two good friends know about my surgery. That's it. I'm 11 months out, lost 98 pounds and headed to that 100 pound mark soon. I hope to be over 100 pounds lost by my 1 year appointment. When did I tell my husband - We've been married for almost 20 years now. He and I both love to eat and drink and guess what, our lives haven't changed. He has a beer or a glass of wine or a drink and I had water or iced tea or selzer in the first few months. I have a glass of wine probably 3-4 times a week now -- if I stopped that would I probably have gotten over the 100 pound mark - you bet. But I told him as soon as I decided it was right for me. FWIW - you have been keeping a major secret from him for six months -- if he withheld a medical condition from you that he was seeking treatment for over six months how would you feel? Would you feel as if you weren't trusted? Betrayed? Feel as if you didn't count in helping to deal with things? If you are not willing to share everything with him - warts and all - then he's not the person you want to marry. Or if you aren't ready to share all of yourself with someone, maybe you need to re-think whether it is the right time in your life to marry. (I"m on my second marriage - I was too young and too stupid and didn't understand so many things the first time -- neither my ex or I because we were just too young). You love him. You would never want him to keep from you that he's been treating for high blood pressure for the last six months - so be prepared for him to be shocked when you tell him you are having surgery in a few weeks. You are ready for this and have had time to come to terms with what it means. He has not. You are springing it on him as a surprise so give him time and space to deal with that. My husband came to the first surgeon visit with me and was by my side and at support groups with me throughout. He hasn't told a soul. (BTW - my mother and sister don't know I had the surgery. And they never will, either, for a whole lot of reasons that aren't relevant to this conversation.) You need to bring him up to speed as soon as possible and stop thinking about what you won't be able to do (which you will - we dine out often and very well, thank you) but what you will be able to do - zip line? Parasail? Sports? Hike? I don't know what he likes but I'm sure there is some activity he'd love for you to be part of that you can't be right now as a result of your weight. Sit down and talk to him soon.

Gastric Bypass Very excited about the future as I had my surgery this past Wednesday the 24th of May. I was duped into believing I would be back to work next week and after 4 days that's not gonna happen. I haven't any issues as of yet, liquids and broth all going down fine and the pop cycles are special. I look forward to a better me as I love playing with the grands. HW: 338 on February 27th SW: 289 on May 23rd GW: 190 or anywhere that I can play with the babies in the park

You're still really early out! I couldn't do eggs for six months, red meat was even longer... and I STILL can't do much bread unless it's toast. I don't include it in my diet usually anyway, no need to. Rice is another thing I still can't do. Carrots are iffy unless they are cooked.

Dr. Illan has a nutritionist that saw me briefly in the hospital and gave me a bag of goodies (mostly clear liquids), and a printout of the post op meal plan. The plan was very easy to understand, and had a page for each week (up to 8 or 9 weeks post). There is a list of approved foods for the week, as well as a sample daily plan, including target food weights. I was concerned pre-op by the 1/4 cup, 1/2 cup, etc. This plan does it much better: 2oz cottage cheese, etc. I found it easy to follow, as much as I wanted to follow, or make it my own (sticking to the approved foods list, of course). I kept that paper in my purse for the first 2 months, reviewing it several times a week.