My feelings, and dealing with them

I have only told my family, my husband(of course) and my two best friends about my surgery. I don't want to tell my in laws because they know someone who has had a bad experience with lapband. I don't want them to know until I feel comfortable telling them. My husbands sister is the one I worry about the most though. I have always felt she was uncomfortable around me because I am overweight. She isn't super skinny, but she is on the thinner side of healthy. But I am worried that she will think I was too lazy and let myself get this bad on my own. I'm only 23!!! most of the bad choices I made were when I was young and inexperienced!!! I didn't understand what I was doing to myself! I have tried to lose the weight, but it always comes back and then some. I can't do it alone, I NEED help on this. I need a tool to help me reach a healthy weight!

Anyway, I guess all this was to say that I don't feel comfortable telling anyone yet, and I'm maybe a little ashamed. Has anyone else felt this way??? :thumbup:

i knowhow you feel. i have only told mytwo best friends and my husband. i am a lot older than you and still dont want people to know. i have been working toward my surgery for 4 months now and will probably be scheduled for a june date. i just dont want eveyone to know????????

Yea, my thoughts are the same. I have only told the 2 women friends who are traveling to TJ with me and my husband. I feel this is about me, and there is very little they can do but just let me get through these first few months on my own until I learn the ropes of the band. I am sure at some point I might have to share, but not now.

I don't think you need to feel obligated to tell her. After all, if you had to have some other really personal procedure, you wouldn't feel obligated to tell her that either. Your job is to get yourself healthy in body and mind, and if she won't be helpful, then don't share.