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Afraid of success...

Terry Poperszky

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I attended support group last night, and then read CG's post this morning on want power has me thinking...

 

There is want, and then there is WANT. The problem is that we want it all, and society had told us, that we not only CAN have it, we DESERVE it. Ever seen a fad diet advertised "East want you want, and still loose weight"? The band for all it's power, doesn't replace our wants, at the most it mutes some of them.

 

I have had a rough couple of days, I hit a new low weight and immediately my head hunger took over and I tried to eat everything in sight. Well, I don't have to worry about that new low weight now. :angry: No, I didn't really gain, just excess fluid from jumping my sodium intake. But the point is there is a part of me that glories in my success wants to continue, and there is a part of me that is terrified of it and wants to go back to the old lifestyle.

 

Right now, I want to succeed, but the fear is that the greater the success the more terrible will be the tragedy of my eventual failure. Yes, I know this is not a productive thought process, but as we all know the band only works on your stomach, not your head.



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t , i agree with your post on all accounts.

there is yeah i want to lose weight (that was me not long ago as i dipped my hand back into the bag of chips) and then there is the WANT to where i actually did something about it.

YOU have that. you are a want power success god and i am proud of you...thanks for mentioning me although not sure what you read bless your heart.

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t , i agree with your post on all accounts.

there is yeah i want to lose weight (that was me not long ago as i dipped my hand back into the bag of chips) and then there is the WANT to where i actually did something about it.

YOU have that. you are a want power success god and i am proud of you...thanks for mentioning me although not sure what you read bless your heart.

It was your "I can't" post, Thanks for your confidence.

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"Right now, I want to succeed, but the fear is that the greater the success the more terrible will be the tragedy of my eventual failure. Yes, I know this is not a productive thought process, but as we all know the band only works on your stomach, not your head."

Every diet I have ever been on, I was extremely successful, some of them for 6 months or more!!! Only to fail, have everything revert back to as it was before....if not worse. not to mention what it did for my self esteem and self confidence.

Now, with the band, as good as my progress was, I was scared as all heck tha eventually the bubble was going to burst, as before so many times, and I would be as depressed as can be...surgery being my last resort.

But slowly and surley my confidence rose, realizing that this is different. That this is real!

I put it to the test...we were on a cruise, 9 nights, surrounded by all the food and drink one can ever want any time of day....I decided to let it hang out there and see what the band would do...not even think about it, just be as natural as can be....

I did exercise every morning, had a case of water deliverd to our stateroom, and brought protein shots with me to have one per day first thing in the morning...other than that I was just a guy on vacation out to enjoy himself.....and get his moneys worth.

Bottom line...I did not gain a single pound....my little experiment showed the band is the same no matter where I am or what may be put before me....

I now now know this is for real! This is different indeed......I told my Dr. this once and he said "You Had Surgery..what did you expect?" (DUH)

Asisde from some medical issue that may arise, (which aslo scares me and I analyze every post) this is not going to change.....(knock on wood)

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T Pops...I could have written your exact post a couple of years ago. I just knew I was eventually gonna get right back to my old habits, thinking this was only a diet, I'd return to eating too much, etc, etc. But I was wrong! At least for me, for now, I no longer have that same fear. It took me much longer than a lot of folks to reach this point.....but I'm here! Now, I am at a wonderful spot with my band. But more importantly, even with my head. Congrats to you, my friend, and keep on rolling!

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T Pops...I could have written your exact post a couple of years ago. I just knew I was eventually gonna get right back to my old habits, thinking this was only a diet, I'd return to eating too much, etc, etc. But I was wrong! At least for me, for now, I no longer have that same fear. It took me much longer than a lot of folks to reach this point.....but I'm here! Now, I am at a wonderful spot with my band. But more importantly, even with my head. Congrats to you, my friend, and keep on rolling!

I think what you wrote makes sense. all the (past) failures are close and we remember...so what makes us think we can succeed this time...how I see it........just keep going I guess.....everytime I see someone say how do I survive bandster hell or the liquid pre or post op, I just wanna say by keep on going

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I think what you wrote makes sense. all the (past) failures are close and we remember...so what makes us think we can succeed this time...how I see it........just keep going I guess.....everytime I see someone say how do I survive bandster hell or the liquid pre or post op, I just wanna say by keep on going

On my left arm I have the scripture John 6:66-69 tattooed as a reminder when being a Christian is really hard, in the end it is the only game in town so I might as well keep moving forward. I think that I am coming to a similar mindset with the band. I have made my decision, and one day I might fail, but today is not that day.

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