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I don't want to look like the Chick-fil-A cow riding a motorcycle

My husband asked me yesterday if I would like to ride his bike with him on 12-15-10 to give out toys for Toys for tots. I felt really honored :blushing:that he wanted me to ride with him to give out the toys for the children. Every since he asked me I have started to become really paranoid about doing it. I really have not lost the weight I would have wanted to loose, but I have lost a good bite. I don't want to look like the Chick-fil-a cow on the back of a motorcycle:ohmy:. He asked was I okay with my weight lost if so he wanted me to ride with him. My husband has never been the type of man who was embarrassed of me being a larger size woman, but I know he always wanted me to be smaller. Now I have started to become very self-conscious about the way I will look riding with him. I have never had much of an appetite lately but today I've been extremely hungry. I know a lot of what am experiencing is my nerves, because I have never done anything like this before. For most people they would not understand what the big deal is to ride on a motorcycle with your husband. For an over weight wife it's a very big deal because I have never really ridden on the back of a motorcycle, and to ride in an event like toys for tots. I really don't want to agree to do this with my husband and back out at the last moment, and he may never ask me to ride with him again. I just need a little help and support with this one. :smile2:

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sandradee0124

LAP-BAND Patients

OK -- my opinion. Do you want to ride with him? If you do, (sorry Nike) JUST DO IT. Enjoy the time together and what you guys are doing. Celebrate your successes and don't focus on what you THINK you will look like, focus on how awesome it is that he asked you, and you've come SO FAR.

Its probably stress eating -- you've talked yourself into feeling bad and it affects willpower.

You look fabulous! Seriously, congratulations on how much you have accomplished! Enjoy!!!

marw

LAP-BAND Patients

Ditto to sandradee's comment. Shonette, my husband rides and he absolutely loves it when I ride with him. I've refused to ride this past year because of my weight - for one thing I did not have anything that fit (my leather coat, my summer riding coat - none of it) and didn't feel safe without the protection. But mostly it was just the weight - truly, I get your feelings. But if you've lost enough to feel comfortable at all to ride with him - DO IT! Don't wait until you're at your perfect size to do it, enjoy the time with him now - HE will love it. So, that's my opinion too . ..good luck!

mezzo

LAP-BAND Patients

Ditto to the other responses. Life is waaaaay too short!!Please don't postpone another moment in your life because you are concerned about what you might look like to someone else. Be proud of what you have done, what you are doing and the fact that you have a man who wants you with him on the bike. What a happy moment that will be..and make sure you take pictures!!! Good luck!

Alikitty

LAP-BAND Patients

Ditto with everyone else. I am barely starting this process and I am very self conscious, but realize that you are beautiful and that is all that matters. I think it awsome that your husband wants you to ride and you should do it because this will show yourself what a strong beautiful women you are. You are not ashamed because you have made the choice to change and it does not come easy but enjoy the todays because we will not have them again. Hope you do it, it would be a great experience and you r doing it for a good cause. Hugs to you....

janetsjourneytoslim

LAP-BAND Patients

I DO UNDERSTAND how you feel, cause with one of my first really big Real Estate Commissions, I bought my husband a Harley for Christmas!!!!! I wanted him to use it and have a good time, but he never really enjoyed it like I wanted him to because I was not riding with him! I could always vision my but hanging over on both sides of the seat!!!!!LOL It was really a challenge for me and I NEVER DID RIDE with him. He wound up selling the bike for less than I paid for it. I am sad because before I married him he was in the service, had a bike and loved it, and I wanted to share in this love with him, but would not. So now, if he gets another one, I WILL DO IT!!! So sometimes we have to realize, as I did, to take the ME out of the situation and put the WE into it! Go, DO IT and have fun, it is a great cause (cause you LOVE him and HE loves you) and it will help children, WHAT MORE????

shonette

LAP-BAND Patients

I really do appreciate all of the wonderful encouraging words everyone had to share with me. I do believe this is one of the greatest sites to be apart of. It is so wonderful to be apart of a compassionate group of people who share the same pains, hurts, and life experiences as I have. Again, thank you my lap band family for always being honest and seeing the positive when I am not able to see it for myself.

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