So my hunni is blessed to be naturally thin...less than 5% body fat on him...lucky man he is! But anyway...ever since I told him I was getting this surgery...he has been drinking protein shakes and lifting weights...going to the gym like crazy...and everything! He says he wants a lot more definition...(for what? to accompany the 6 pack he already has?) Whats up with that?? Is he trying to compete with me? The other day we had an argument about me getting the surgery...He tells me I am already beautiful..and that I dont need to change a thing, then he says he thought I was a confident woman..and he may not even want to be with someone who feels as though they need to alter themselves...but the fact that I weight 287lbs means nothing to him!! What is the deal?? We are both 21..and he gets to run around like a regular man his age...but for me..he wants me to stay fat? hmmmmm Can someone please tell me what the hell is this man thinking!!! :thumbup::cursing::cursing:

This just came to mind - may or may not apply.

When I was 21 I had a boyfriend who was super insecure. I was too immature to notice or understand it at the time. He was tall and good looking in all the girls wanted him so I thought he's not insecure he just wants to be with me - my ego. What happened was:

I used to be a professional ballet dancer and I got an offer to join a company and travel all over the world and he was terribly intimidated by this and talked me out of it and it's one of the worst things I could have done, acquiesce to some guy I'm not even married to's insecurities. I felt like I was lucky to be with him - my insecurity. It could've changed my life. And he was long gone a couple years later anyway. I resent it even now, so just as an old lady telling a young lady, do what YOU know is right for you! Men will ALWAYS be around, maybe even better ones.