Since losing weight I can obviously feel my bones and see some of them a lot more now...but OH MY GOD, my coccyx...guys! It hurts SO MUCH when I am sitting down even for short periods of time and I can just feel it there sticking out!

Anyone else have this issue? What helped? My butt needs relief 😂

Welcome to the bony butt club. LOL! I remember someone saying the pain will go when we develop calluses on these now exposed bones. Well it took a few years for my callus to grow but I now can sit for a couple of hours before the pain begins. I had issues with all my joints: wrists, elbows, shoulders, ankles, knees, hips. I’m a side sleeper & I still have to turn over every couple of hours otherwise my shoulders hurt. I have to ensure I’m not lying with my knees or ankles against each other otherwise bone on bone pain.

The old donut cushion may be your best bet to reduce the pain when sitting.

@Arabesque Oh god a few years!! It is so annoying and painful 😂 I am also a side sleeper and I feel your pain! I literally cannot sleep unless I have a pillow between my knees & ankles so they don't touch otherwise it hurts too much!

Donut cushion it is!!

I think mine took so long is because I have no butt left. Like no padding at all (despite doing hip flex’s, squats, etc. for years 🤷🏻‍♀️). I can’t say I miss standing up after a short time and the shooting pain would be so awful I would be all bent over like an old woman of 110 trying to ease the pain.

it's been a while, but i think my butt started hurting around month 3-4 and it was no longer an issue by 1.5-ish years post op

what i understand NOW, its a result of a couple factors...

tldr; its your posture; try sitting up straighter.

• when we were larger our front heavy stomachs naturally make our lower back arch (== bad posture)

• also when we were obese, our hip flexors were working overtime to support our larger frame, so they are TIGHT. after we lose the weight, this tightness still remains, but with nothing to actually hold up anymore, so we feel it more and componsate by rounding our back (== bad posture)

• fast forward to being smaller in such a small amount of time our bodies didn't have the opportunity to adjust as fast as our weight loss, and basically we have the posture bone structure/infrastructre of a much bigger person....we end up being really slouchy.

• the pain you are feeling is you sitting on your tail bone/coccyx from being slouchy. and you shouldn't be sitting on your tailbone...you should be sitting on your sit (sitz) bones.

• soooooo...try sitting up straighter. point your pelvis downward, not forward (so your weight is on your stiz not coccyx) stack your shoulders over your hips. keep both feet flat on the floor, with knees slightly higher than hips (use a stool if necessary) its not easy, it takes effort and will probably hurt your lower back more than your tailbone in the short term (if so, use a lumbar pillow until you build the strength). but its just for a little while until it becomes muscle memory.

• to help this along, stretch out your hip flexors regulary, and do some exercises to strengthen your lower back.

good luck!

Edited November 21, 2025Nov 21 by ms.sss

I think you just kinda get used to it

YES! So I’m five and half months Post Op and I went back to figure skating last week after a 27 year hiatus. I fell on my butt and my tailbone has been sore since! I’ve been quoting Uncle Rico from Napoleon Dynamite for the last week ‘Grandma took a little spill at the sand dunes……broke her coccyx’ 😆

On 11/21/2025 at 9:51 AM, ms.sss said:

it's been a while, but i think my butt started hurting around month 3-4 and it was no longer an issue by 1.5-ish years post op

what i understand NOW, its a result of a couple factors...

tldr; its your posture; try sitting up straighter.

• when we were larger our front heavy stomachs naturally make our lower back arch (== bad posture)

• also when we were obese, our hip flexors were working overtime to support our larger frame, so they are TIGHT. after we lose the weight, this tightness still remains, but with nothing to actually hold up anymore, so we feel it more and componsate by rounding our back (== bad posture)

• fast forward to being smaller in such a small amount of time our bodies didn't have the opportunity to adjust as fast as our weight loss, and basically we have the posture bone structure/infrastructre of a much bigger person....we end up being really slouchy.

• the pain you are feeling is you sitting on your tail bone/coccyx from being slouchy. and you shouldn't be sitting on your tailbone...you should be sitting on your sit (sitz) bones.

• soooooo...try sitting up straighter. point your pelvis downward, not forward (so your weight is on your stiz not coccyx) stack your shoulders over your hips. keep both feet flat on the floor, with knees slightly higher than hips (use a stool if necessary) its not easy, it takes effort and will probably hurt your lower back more than your tailbone in the short term (if so, use a lumbar pillow until you build the strength). but its just for a little while until it becomes muscle memory.

• to help this along, stretch out your hip flexors regulary, and do some exercises to strengthen your lower back.

good luck!

THIS!!! You have to rewire your brain how to sit properly and OMG it was a life changer for me!!! Improved the tailbone pain greatly