I needed to talk…

[Vanessa Correal 11]

I just wanted to share this.
It has been really hard for me in the past few days, I’m sad and depressed. Today I went to the gym, I slept in. And right now I’m sitting alone at the movies theater. I bought a little kids box of popcorn and I put butter on it. I took a small iced tea (which I used to drink every meal but I haven’t drank it since my surgery) and a little bag of candies. I have lost 60 lbs since January 29th. I have been really good in my diet since my surgery. But today I feel like this is what I need. To treat me with something because I feel like I’m drowning and I can’t save myself. I feel lonely, but going to the movies always helped me before surgery. I’m alone in the theater room so it’s even better. Please don’t be mean. I just wanted to talk.

[BlueParis 80]

You're not alone Vanessa. I'm sorry you feel this way at the moment, but this feeling will pass. You've lost 60 pounds, that's an amazing feat you've achieved! I hope you enjoyed your film. Take care.

[ChunkCat 707]

Hi Vanessa!

Is there something particular that has made you sad, or is this the weight loss blues (which are totally valid BTW)? I find empty theaters so soothing. I just wish they'd turn the movie down a little. I keep meaning to try going to see one with earplugs in, I hear that helps sensitive ears.

60 lbs that quick is amazing! My weight loss has been slower, but we all have our different paces... Have you struggled with depression before surgery? Sometimes surgery and the weight loss journey can trigger it. You are not alone. Thank you for posting and letting us know what you need. I will just say that if you were on medication for depression before surgery, you might want to touch base with your provider. Our surgeries can sometimes change the way we absorb our medications. I had to change mine around because I wasn't absorbing them properly and was slowly going through withdrawals, which was NOT fun! Thankfully all is well now, I knew to watch for that issue and we caught it quickly!

[BlueParis 80]

How is today @Vanessa Correal? How are you feeling ?

[Vanessa Correal 11]

On 5/12/2024 at 7:15 AM, BlueParis said:

You're not alone Vanessa. I'm sorry you feel this way at the moment, but this feeling will pass. You've lost 60 pounds, that's an amazing feat you've achieved! I hope you enjoyed your film. Take care.

Yes it’s a lot of lost weight! I really liked the movie, and it helped me. Thank you for the answer !

[Vanessa Correal 11]

On 5/12/2024 at 8:52 AM, ChunkCat said:

Hi Vanessa!

Is there something particular that has made you sad, or is this the weight loss blues (which are totally valid BTW)? I find empty theaters so soothing. I just wish they'd turn the movie down a little. I keep meaning to try going to see one with earplugs in, I hear that helps sensitive ears.

60 lbs that quick is amazing! My weight loss has been slower, but we all have our different paces... Have you struggled with depression before surgery? Sometimes surgery and the weight loss journey can trigger it. You are not alone. Thank you for posting and letting us know what you need. I will just say that if you were on medication for depression before surgery, you might want to touch base with your provider. Our surgeries can sometimes change the way we absorb our medications. I had to change mine around because I wasn't absorbing them properly and was slowly going through withdrawals, which was NOT fun! Thankfully all is well now, I knew to watch for that issue and we caught it quickly!

I dont know what it is exactly. I work a lot and I study. I’m a nurse. I got into a fight with my mom and the guy I like isn’t interested in getting into a serious relationship. It’s a lot to deal with. I feel just lonely because I go through all of these new moments by myself, no one truly understands what this surgery has changed in my life. My body and the relationship I have with food is constantly transforming with time. I was using a weight loss drug that included an antidepressant, so I think it could be related. But I’ve always been depressed in my life, it’s just that I feel lonely going through all of these new changes. Losing weight isn’t easy, but people never really understand how much effort you have to put in, even if you have a tool like the surgery. I try to follow my diet as much as I can, but sometime let myself have some meals/snacks that I like. I’m stressed because I don’t know if I’m eating too much. My mind never shuts up, and it’s so exhausting.

im just writing my thoughts, thank you for you answer

[BlueParis 80]

What have you got planned for today? Can you do something nice and just for yourself? Soak your feet in a home made foot bath? Go for a walk and take a picture of a nice tree? Use chat GPT to wrike a haiku about yourself? Strangley I always find sorting through my sock drawer and getting rid of the oldest/worst looking pair quite therapeutic.

Take care.

[BlueParis 80]

1 minute ago, Vanessa Correal said:

im just writing my thoughts, thank you for you answer

Keep writing the thoughts! It helps. Here is a poem I like by Rilke - I try to remeber in the tough times that "no feeling is final".

God speaks to each of us as he makes us,
then walks with us silently out of the night.

These are the words we dimly hear:

You, sent out beyond your recall,
go to the limits of your longing.
Embody me.

Flare up like a flame
and make big shadows I can move in.

Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.
Don’t let yourself lose me.

Nearby is the country they call life.
You will know it by its seriousness.

Give me your hand.

[ShoppGirl 3,422]

If that medication is the one I am thinking of that includes Wellbutrin and one other drug it may be your culprit. I don’t have experience with the weight loss drug but I do know Wellbutrin by itself can be a very bad one to go off of too fast. I realize you weren’t prescribed it for depression but you say you have always been depressed so if it was actually treating your depression and your no longer taking it or your body is not absorbing it now it’s possible that your depression has worsened due to the dose of an antidepressant decreasing too quickly.

I am not a doctor and not certain that’s how it works with the other drug involved but i do know I have been cautioned about needing to wean off of Wellbutrin slowly and not to ever stop it cold Turkey. Like others have mentioned it could also be post surgery blues plus you are going through a lot of changes between having to cope with things without food and the situations you are dealing with in life but if you don’t feel better I would reach out to the doctor who prescribed you the weight loss drug and/or your surgeon and see if that makes sense to them.

Keep posting here and try journaling to get your feelings out. Perhaps consider talking to a therapist as well if you continue to feel this way. They will instantly expand your support network and they can help you work on some new coping strategies that don’t involve food.

[ms.sss 14,781]

17 hours ago, Vanessa Correal said:

im just writing my thoughts, thank you for you answer

yep, sometimes we just wanna speak and have someone listen.

we are listening ❤️

so was the movie you saw any good? recommend, or no? im really looking forward to Furiosa to come out (i want Anna Taylor-Joy to be part of my friend group lol). 😂

[BlueParis 80]

Any plans for today @Vanessa Correal?