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So I've lost 64lbs with WLS. I lost 20lb on my own so 84lbs all together. However, I dont see it!

Everyone else sees the transformation and I still see the 313lb me! I dont get it.

Yes, my clothes are big on me. Yes, my energy is better but the mirror says the same to me. Anyone else have this issue?

Should I seek counseling?

I keep loosing weight, following the diet the best I can but feel very confused.

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So I've lost 64lbs with WLS. I lost 20lb on my own so 84lbs all together. However, I dont see it!
Everyone else sees the transformation and I still see the 313lb me! I dont get it.
Yes, my clothes are big on me. Yes, my energy is better but the mirror says the same to me. Anyone else have this issue?
Should I seek counseling?
I keep loosing weight, following the diet the best I can but feel very confused.
A lot of it for us who've been very overweight is mental. I have exactly the same issue. What helps me is taking photos and doing side by side comparisons using an app like picstitch or something. That really does help me to see what others see. The mirror lies. Lol

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I've lost almost 75kgs and I still see myself as I did when I was 190kgs, I still go straight to the fatty fashion section of stores when I need to buy new clothes even though I look like I'm wearing a tent because my clothes are way too big

it's not until I do a side by side comparison that I see the difference

I never knew how much of a mental game this would be, I never thought of myself as a morbidly obese person when I was (obvious denial) but now I can't get that out of my head

I get really uncomfortable with compliments too

Im also considering going to counselling

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2 hours ago, Hrsnjs said:

A lot of it for us who've been very overweight is mental. I have exactly the same issue. What helps me is taking photos and doing side by side comparisons using an app like picstitch or something. That really does help me to see what others see. The mirror lies. Lol

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I did do that earlier before posting this topic I still dont see it... 😞

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I've lost almost 75kgs and I still see myself as I did when I was 190kgs, I still go straight to the fatty fashion section of stores when I need to buy new clothes even though I look like I'm wearing a tent because my clothes are way too big
it's not until I do a side by side comparison that I see the difference
I never knew how much of a mental game this would be, I never thought of myself as a morbidly obese person when I was (obvious denial) but now I can't get that out of my head
I get really uncomfortable with compliments too
Im also considering going to counselling

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I can definitely tell for you! You're looking great!

I really do think the counseling will help I'm going to call fo an appointment Monday ;-) I'll let you know.

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I can definitely tell for you! You're looking great!

I really do think the counseling will help I'm going to call fo an appointment Monday default_wink.gif&key=afdaf0f9ce3bd962701506872380b0b55011f3a1c9a5d30b0638a350abe99adf I'll let you know.

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I can totally tell with you. You look great. Counseling is never a bad idea. I'll be thinking of you!! [emoji6]

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31 minutes ago, DetDet said:

I did do that earlier before posting this topic I still dont see it... 😞

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I wish you could see the amazing progress you have made...we definitely can!!!

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@DetDet yes honey get some counseling because you have really lost a lot of weight and look great...we are rooting for you because you need to see what others are seeing, you deserve that!!

I wish you all the best and you have a lot of support here.

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Thank you. I booked an appointment so hope all goes well.

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It's very normal to have body dysmorphia. You are losing weight quickly and it's really hard for our brains to adapt and keep up. But counseling is never a bad idea IMHO. Good for you for doing it!!!

Also, I totally believe in the side-by-side comparison that others suggested!!!

You look fabulous!! I can see how much you've lost, as can everyone else. You will be able to see it soon. It just takes a little bit of time. Part of your issue is you see yourself nekkid--and we are all our own worst critics! And your jeans are too big! Now go shop for some cheap clothes in your size at Goodwill!!!! My new wardrobe is almost all Goodwill $1-$3 clothes, or hand-me-downs from my sissies, or Old Navy super sales of 50% offs!

Congrats girlie!!!

Here is the side-by-side I had to study to see my losses. I still find it hard to look at myself and still see myself as much heavier than other people say I am. It's completely illogical--but it is real. Body dysmorphia...you bi*ch. :D2017-2018WLS_MONTHLYCOMP.thumb.jpg.bd44a405f83eb515678833b31ad32782.jpg

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FluffyChix - how did you format your photos with the text at the bottom? I'd love to do that? Thanks!

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7 minutes ago, notmyname said:

FluffyChix - how did you format your photos with the text at the bottom? I'd love to do that? Thanks!

I do InDesign, so came up with a format and just add to it each month.

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Just now, FluffyChix said:

I do InDesign, so came up with a format and just add to it each month.

Thanks!

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