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Hi, females. I am 11 weeks post-op. My sex drive is nonexistent. I have none. It is starting to annoy my bf. Also, when I do the deed, I am in sooooo much pain because I am as dry as a bone. Anyone else experience this? In my 5 years of being sexually active, I have never had pain. Thanks!!

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5 weeks post op here. I would not say that my sex drive is nonexistent but I do feel like mine has certainly gone done. Tbh, I've always had a much higher sex drive than most and now it has gone to almost being normal since surgery. I think it has to do with all the hormonal changes and just being focused on other things. How can I think about sex when I'm trying to keep track of how much I'm eating, what I'm eating, staying hydrated, taking my Vitamins, etc.
The dryness is definitely hormonal. Lube has always been my best friend. Not sure about you but my surgeon made me stop my birth control for the month after my surgery. This has definitely messed with my hormones also.
You should give your OBGYN a visit and explain the situation to her.

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10 hours ago, jultrim18 said:

Hi, females. I am 11 weeks post-op. My sex drive is nonexistent. I have none. It is starting to annoy my bf. Also, when I do the deed, I am in sooooo much pain because I am as dry as a bone. Anyone else experience this? In my 5 years of being sexually active, I have never had pain. Thanks!!

Fat stores estrogen, as you lose fat, your system gets flooded with estrogen, unfortunately your sex drive is controlled by your Testosterone levels. But, the good news is, that once you flush out a good amount of fat, and your body has a chance to balance out again, your sex drive should come back with a vengeance!

As far as the dryness... get yourself some lube. Water based stuff doesn't hang around long, but it's condom friendly. Oil based stuff works amazing, but isn't condom friendly. Silicone lubes are more expensive typically but are both condom friendly AND has good staying power. And no need to go to an adult store for lube, all pharmacies carry lube and personal massagers now.

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Matt's right! Get some lube and even consider trying some of that warming stuff they sell at the drugstore and don't skimp on the foreplay!!! (the warming stuff is LEGIT) You'll get in the mood and be more comfortable during the official act. Get your boyfriend involved with getting you ready and have fun with it. You can do this!!!

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It's a good thing when sex feels good, is fun and beats washing down walls all hollow.LOLR (laughing out loud remembering)😝💑

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Matt's right! Get some lube and even consider trying some of that warming stuff they sell at the drugstore and don't skimp on the foreplay!!! (the warming stuff is LEGIT) You'll get in the mood and be more comfortable during the official act. Get your boyfriend involved with getting you ready and have fun with it. You can do this!!!
Oh gosh no. That stuff feels like you stuffed a chilli up your lady parts!

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On 11/6/2018 at 7:29 PM, ummyasmin said:

Oh gosh no. That stuff feels like you stuffed a chilli up your lady parts!

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Truth!

But yeah, I had a very high sex drive before surgery--now I honestly care less. I do hope it balances out soon!

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Maybe innate sense of taking care,of yourself and your healing over being someone else's Pleasure Palace. It will either smooth out or not, if not , did you still want to swing from chandeleirs, vibrate all over the place, scream at the top of your lungs YES YES YES. No sense giving yourself a ❤attack, darling!
Clean up old nasty joke for more mixed company.
Young Bull,***Lets run down that hill and love us up a Cow.
Old Bull*** Slow down Son!.Walk down the hill and You can love the whole dang herd!
So Relax, Prioritize, and go for the Ultimate Gold. Marathoners get Olympic Medals also!😝👏

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