So my boss knows that I was going out on medical leave to have Bariatric surgery. She told me she was sending a gift for me to the house. I just received a box of gourmet cookies!

I know I am a little overly emotional as I just had surgery Monday and have not slept well, but this truly hurt my feelings!

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Although I don't know anything about your boss, that was a shitty thing to do anyway you look at it (save the and give them back to her with a thank you card) is she possibly a little heavy and maybe feeling a little.. Jealous?

Munky

hehe I was just going to ask the opposite. Is she naturally skinny? Only reason I was going to ask is all the naturally skinny people I know eat everything and anything, just in moderation. My sister in law is super thin, and she lives on candy (literally). I don't think I've ever seen her eat anything that doesn't have sugar in it. Sugar high all the time lol. So if she is, perhaps, she is truly clueless.

Although I don't know anything about your boss, that was a shitty thing to do anyway you look at it (save the and give them back to her with a thank you card) is she possibly a little heavy and maybe feeling a little.. Jealous?

Munky

hehe I was just going to ask the opposite. Is she naturally skinny? Only reason I was going to ask is all the naturally skinny people I know eat everything and anything, just in moderation. My sister in law is super thin, and she lives on candy (literally). I don't think I've ever seen her eat anything that doesn't have sugar in it. Sugar high all the time lol. So if she is, perhaps, she is truly clueless.

I'm just struggling giving her that benefit of doubt of being clueless.. Yet she's a boss.. I just feel like it was a very snarky thing to do.. I use to watch "My 600# Life" and seen a few husband's or family members act like that..

Munky

I'm 4 days post op and my roommate brought home my favorite Mexican food ever and he brought me a meal. All I could say was thanks, remind him I'm on a clear liquid diet, and house until the smell went away. He knew better. We'd had a long talk about the different phases and where I was keeping my food. Oh well, at least my husband and kids enjoyed it.

HW 427 SW 358

sleeved 10/12/16

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday.

I think we are so focused on food that we think everyone else is also. If she knew you were having wls then yes she wasn't being sensitive. Or she was being twisted--which I would hope isn't true.

But my family would have loved it if someone sent me Cookies after surgery.

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Edited October 16, 20169 yr by Ragdollorchid

Not nice at all, stay away from your boss she's evil.

I'm also thinking it was an administrative assistant who was told you were having surgery (your boss probably didn't tell what kind, because it's really not the admin's business), and therefore the Cookies were sent. Too bad your boys didn't specify what to send you- maybr flowers instead of cookies.

But yeah- WTH are you supposed to do with cookies? In my case I would give them to my 9 year old. He's got the fastest metabolism!

Congrats on your surgery!

I'm 4 days post op and my roommate brought home my favorite Mexican food ever and he brought me a meal. All I could say was thanks, remind him I'm on a clear liquid diet, and house until the smell went away. He knew better. We'd had a long talk about the different phases and where I was keeping my food. Oh well, at least my husband and kids enjoyed it.

HW 427 SW 358

sleeved 10/12/16

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday.

that's soooo uncool.... testing you perhaps?! I would like to think not but why would someone do that especially when they know you been through surgery and talked to them about the diet phases.. that's odd...it's not like he bought dinner for everyone and forgot hmmmn suspicious

That actually made my jaw drop! Makes me wonder if this kind of insensitivity carries into other aspects of her working relationship with all employees. Perhaps once you've had the surgery you'll gain a ton of confidence (and be so dang hot!) you can quit and find a supportive workplace. If not, I'd be finding ways to let her know what an unkind and low thing that was to do to you. I may be jumping to conclusions here; maybe she's just totally brainless - but seems unlikely that anyone could be just that stupid!

Let it go - don't let it get in the way of your recovery - stay positive. You're going to do great!

That's a really shitty thing to have done and I understand your upset and confusion. I'd be fixated on this and it would f-up my feelings and attitude for a little while. Make sure to get extra hugs from your kids and make some mean spirited jokes about her. That's what would try to do to get over it. Lol!

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Edited October 16, 20169 yr by LittleLizzieLilliput

Meh. It's the thought that counts. Let it go. Getting a gift that was a bit thoughtless is nothing in the grand scheme of things. Really.

Thoughtful to send a gift. Thoughtless in the gift. If it makes you feel better, my boss was calling me in the hospital asking me to send her information. I had to explain to her that I didn't bring my laptop to the hospital with me. (She is a very nice and caring person) but clearly just not thinking at that moment.

I would hit her back gently. Such as when you go back to work tell her....."oh by the way, thanks for the Cookies. Nothing like staring at a box of cookies after weight loss surgery. Good thing I wasn't having a hand amputated and you could send me a new pair of gloves."

Edited October 17, 20169 yr by migalo

It could have been a joke just trying to make you laugh. I'd probably laugh and assume it was supposed to be humorous but the hormones after probably have their own opinion. The week after my son was born nobody had better even breath loudly around me.

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@@NikkiRT Sounds like ignorance. Hey! What is the RT for?

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@@NikkiRT Sounds like ignorance. Hey! What is the RT for?

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Lol.. odd question.. why do you ask?

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