So I just started to date this amazing guy but this is so hard when going out to dinner with him. I stay in my protons sizes but like the other night I ate eggplant parm.1/4 and then took a slip of a shot and then had 1/4 of coffee. This is so hard. What do I do? I am also having a hard time with drinking and eating at the same time now. Ugh I was doing so great then he came in the picture,

maybe, for now, find dates that do not involve eating? anything else you two have in common?

If you feel that there is a potential future with this guy then I would tell him about the surgery and your eating situation. Also as Christinamo said maybe try to do some things that don't involve food.

I am in a divorce process and will have to start dating at some point myself. I have this same worry about going out with someone to a restaurant

@@Lisa_85 If he doesn't already know about your WLS - I would tell him about it. You'll be more comfortable and able to be more yourself than trying to hide it. I think starting off a relationship with keeping something so important about yourself is a bad idea. I'm sure he'll understand - or he should.

When I eat out I usually order any coffee or drinks before the food comes and then just cut myself off once I start eating, by setting the cup/glass out of reach. I'm allowed to drink right up until the time I start eating on my plan (I can't fathom why anyone should have to stop drinking before eating once they are more than a few weeks out from surgery). So that has always worked for me.

@@Lisa_85 - I agree with the others response and like Jamie mentioned ^ you can always move the drinks off the table once you start eating. I order water to keep from explaining and I sip it until the food arrives.

Yes he is very understanding He does know about my surgery and is amazing with it all. 89 pounds in Four Months Friday he just wanted to make me something to eat an I said Oh what about Eggplant not even thinking. When I do go out I make sure its always Healthy!!! I do only order Water when I am out but this was just a first of us having dinner at his place. Next time game on with me bringing my own stuff over. lol