"Don't do that!"

[Angelsoul219 6]

I'm in the lab waiting to get my preliminary blood tests drawn. I started talking with a 26 year old girl. We started talking about the gastric sleeve surgery. I told her I would be left with about 20% of my stomach. She said with such force " Don't do that, I'll pray for you". I can't help but say that she made me doubt myself for a short time. Has anyone else gone through this from friends, strangers or family? Help!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I can understand having doubts, but please don't take medical advice from some random person you have never met or from well-meaning but ill informed friends and family.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Why in the world would you allow a random teeny bopper to have control over your feelings for even a moment?

Unless she was wearing a stethoscope and you were writing her a check for your medical treatment, her words are meaningless.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@Angelsoul219

If you're about to put your hand in a fire and someone shouts, "Don't do that!," paying attention would be a good thing. On the subject of surgery, you'll run into ignorance, suspicion, bias, judgment and more. This is your decision to make. You'll make the right choice when you're armed with all the info, are absolutely clear about your role in the weight-loss process, have reasonable expectations, et al.

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

From some uninformed random? I wouldn't pay it any mind.

[dlappjr 467]

Are you serious about losing weight? Have you struggled with your weight for many years, maybe your whole life? Are you seriously considering gastric sleeve surgery? Do you know it's a tool that helps people lose weight, along with a proper diet and exercise? If you answered yes to more than 1 of these questions, DO DO THAT! Do exactly that. Have the surgery and follow the program laid out for you by the medical staff at your chosen weightless center. DO IT! And Succeed.

There, from the mouth a random stranger. Seriously. There are many tools out there that can help you lose weight. I doubt her prayers she offered you will be as effective as this surgery.

Edited November 20, 2015 by dlappjr

[Babbs 14,680]

Let me take a wild guess...she was either overweight or obese.

For some weird reason I've yet to figure out, the people who struggle with their weight seem to be the least supportive of the surgeries.

And if she's not, she's just being intrusive and ignorant. Pay no mind.

[dlappjr 467]

Let me take a wild guess...she was either overweight or obese.

For some weird reason I've yet to figure out, the people who struggle with their weight seem to be the least supportive of the surgeries.

And if she's not, she's just being intrusive and ignorant. Pay no mind.

I have two friends who are both morbidly obese, like I was. Both of them say "I don't believe in that surgery. You might lose some weight, but I have seen people put it all back on. The surgery doesn't work." Funny thing though, I haven't seen much of those two since my surgery. I saw them once about 3 weeks out when I was losing weight, feeling great and full of energy and excitement about starting my journey. Since then, crickets….

[Angelsoul219 6]

Thank you all so much!!! I feel so much better. I see why this forum is here. I'm new to this in every way, except my weight. I am completely miserable and yearn for this surgery. I want my life back. Who I was so long ago. I love you ladies already!!

[Miss Mac 6,261]

Giving away your power over your own healthcare to random strangers who do not know your struggle??? Don't do that. Hugs from Chicago.

[perforce 243]

You might lose some weight, but I have seen people put it all back on.

No no, they're right to be knee jerk completely against the idea, because everyone knows before surgery this has never happened to any of us.