I'm scheduled for my sleeve surgery Sept. 9. It will include gall bladder removal.

Complication.....daughter is in hospital with bed restriction, she is 25 weeks pregnant and has a ruptured amniotic sac on Baby A, she is expecting twins. She has been in the hospital three weeks already and as long as she doesn't go into labor she could be there 60 more days before they will induce. (Oct. 11).

I live three hours to hospital. She needs my support. Is it feasible to think that after one week recoup post surgery i will be able to drive that far (will I have the energy?)

I don't have to leap tall buildings with a single bound but i do need to be available to support my daughter. If these babies decide to make an early appearance. I know the babies will be in the hospital for awhile. We had a family meeting and everyone wants me to go ahead but that little voice that everyone tells you to listen to is yelling at me to cancel. Will i be able to focus on food prep?

It would be nice if I could do something for myself ONCE. but life is messy sometimes.

I just don't know what the right answer is.

Also wondering if I will have to go thorough with all the stuff to re-quailfy with my insurance company if i should cancel.

There is a good chance that one or both of these babies will be born with big complications. Will I be able to pay enough attention to myself and still help my daughter?

Looking for a crystal ball I guess : > (

I agree with everyone I will say go for it the babies will be taken care by the hospital and they won't be much that u and ur daughter will be able to do but at least when they get home u will feel much better healthier to help ur daughter. And yes ask ur daughter and see what she thinks I know this surgery takes a while to get them done so don't lose the chance of already been set to start ur new life... Trust me u will want to be healthier and lighter to handle twins

Best of luck!!

I would personally cancel life does throw curve balls but it's not often they are that big. I would want to be there for my daughter and grandkids and wouldn't mind waiting an extra 6 months for such a situation like that.

Edited August 14, 201511 yr by MsTwist

I answered earlier but it sounds like you can't see it. I said to ask your daughter what she thinks. Ultimately I would go ahead.

What I didn't say, was that I was sleeved on 8/8 and went to work for a few hours on 8/13 (yesterday). Today I went in for about 7 hours. I may continue to leave early for a few days early next week.

So, back to work in less than a week. This isn't a surgery that is going to put you on bedrest for six months.

I also say do it. You have other family (you said you had a meeting) let them know you r doing the surgury, If sis goes into labor one of you needs to get me there. You won't be able to lift (or anything that resembles a cruch) till inside tummy heals. But by the time babies come home you'll be on the road to recovery and looking for something to keep you busy. Good luck in you decision.pkease let us know how everything works out

Had a long talk with daughter yesterday and we have decided to roll the dice and have the surgery as planned on Sept. 9.

I'm going to spend the next couple of weeks getting my ducks in a row here at home.

Two things on my agenda.....

1. What is the best little blender (those bullet kind) to buy? I've been pricing them and the prices are all over the place.

2. Whats your favorite source of liquid Protein. I'm sure the stuff my dr.s office sells is super expensive.

Had a long talk with daughter yesterday and we have decided to roll the dice and have the surgery as planned on Sept. 9.

I'm going to spend the next couple of weeks getting my ducks in a row here at home.

Two things on my agenda.....

1. What is the best little blender (those bullet kind) to buy? I've been pricing them and the prices are all over the place.

2. Whats your favorite source of liquid Protein. I'm sure the stuff my dr.s office sells is super expensive.

Congrats on the Grandbabies!

1. I already had a Magic Bullet, and it was great for pureeing Soups and such. You really only need it for the week or two that requires purees.

2. Premier Protein ready-to-drink are highly recommended. I personally like the big tubs of Syntrax Nectars. They have a huge variety of flavors and 23g protein for only 100 calories and 0 carbs. My favorite is the Cappuccino flavor and the Fuzzy Navel.

Edited August 15, 201511 yr by liannatx

What a considerate mom you are. I would have struggled with this as well. I also agree with Miss Mac. You sound like the person who is always putting others in front of yourself. You deserve this. I am glad you decided to go on with the surgery. After all, it is best to do it now before the babies are here. By the time they are here, you will be well recovered and able to enjoy them. Your family is so very lucky to have you. ((hugs))

I'm glad you're going ahead with the surgery. It doesn't surprise me to see the hesitation with you and others saying to cancel. We are so used to not taking care of ourselves and worrying about everyone else, it's hard to get out of that mode. Those babies and your daughter will have the best care possible, and you will be up and at em before you know it to help out and hold those sweet babies! Good luck with your upcoming surgery and the impending births of grandbabies!

I bought a couple of blenders before surgery and really haven't used them much. I didn't have a purée phase, though. I do use my blender bottles, though. You might want to consider a small blender or immersion blender.

For my clear phase I used a lot of the ProtiDiet liquid concentrates that my surgeon's office sold. To me that tasted better and were easier to get down than the Isopure.

My favorite Protein shakes are Premier, Syntrax nectar, and GNC Lean 25 but tastes vary so you will need to experiment and find what works for you.

My surgeon allowed a couple of the ProtiDiet Soups during my clear and full liquid phases which really helped because the sweet shakes were tiring for me.

Best of luck with your surgery. I am glad you decided to go through with it while your daughter is under a doctors care. I don't think either of you will regret it when it comes time to change all those diapers!

I am not a fan of powder protein however not getting enough is a challenge so.....unjury is unflavored I mix a package with my protein drink (ya gotta really shake it) slim fast high protein.. it's like a milk shake. 40 grams of protein

I would do it. It will give you the extra energy emotionally and physically to take care of her and you. I was back to work after 10 days and I'm 52. I'll be praying for all of you! Those little babies are lucky to have such a wonderful grandma!

I already owned one of those hand held immersion blenders, which I hardly used. I hated pureed foods so I stayed on the full liquid phase a little longer.

Premier Protein (chocolate flavor) shakes are my favorite.

I think you made the right decision to go ahead with your surgery. I was pretty much recovered after 5 days.

Hi Pink Girl,

First of all congrats on the new babies! I will keep them and your family in my prayers . I had my sleeve, with gall bladder removal and a surprise hiatal hernia repair on August 10, just 5 days ago. I did not have any complications (so far) have followed my surgeons orders very closely and have tried to really walk a lot. I feel pretty good today but I can honestly tell you I think it would be a bad idea for you to go. Not only will it be physically and emotionally exhausting but you will be in pain still as well as have wounds that are still healing. My suggestion would be to either use technology and be there via face time or Skype or talk to your surgeon about the possibility of scheduling for a later date. I hate that you have waited so long and now have such a difficult choice to make. Blessings!

Amy

I would still go through with it if it were me. I was back at work in two weeks (though I could have at one). My energy was a little low, but nothing I couldn't handle. By the three week mark, I had more energy than ever!

There will ALWAYS be "something." Always. When is life ever perfect and predictable? I trust you'll be able to take care of YOU and your needs and still be there for your daughter. Babies in the NICU will not be able to be held much the first week to few weeks (depending), so just being there for support is the main thing. And that can absolutely be done after surgery.

As for meal prep - remember, most of the first few weeks is getting in Water and Protein shakes! They are sold everywhere and ready to go.

Edited August 15, 201511 yr by FitFunFamily

Thank you all for your insightful responses. As i read these i can feel myself relaxing about all of this.

I assumed I would be drinking my meals a lot longer. Good info. Thanks