I got a letter in the mail from the psychologist saying they were denying my surgery because I have to learn to love myself more in the body I'm in. Wtf kind of crap is that. I loved myself just fine before I became incapacitated. When I could walk well and get around I was fine. When I could work and not feel like a drain on the family I was wonderful. I am sometimes self conscious but I usually get around that with humor. I need to get this weight of asap. It's not a vanity issue its my life.my bp is sky high someone's even with my meds. I . Have just crossed over into full blown diabetes. I know what I need to do. I've lost 7 lbs in a month. I'm filling out my fitness pal every day and 90% keeping it below 1200 cal. I'm committed to this. I'm even down to 2 cups of coffee a day( down from never having an empty cup.) Good Lord all I want to do is get better. How someone who has met me once can make decisions like that is beyond me. I thought it would be the insurance company giving me a hard time... this is my drs psychologist. I am furious

Congrats on making so many positive changes. BOO to the psychologist. Stay the course. Jump threw the hoops. You WILL get there. I thought psych eval was to ferret out eating disorders...

If this Psych is the only option you have, start going to therapy with that person. It really is unfair to judge someone from one psych visit but it happens all of the time. My advice is to just start going to that person for therapy. It would be a way to work out any issues that you do have (we all have issues) and hopefully after a few sessions, get a green light for surgery.

The problem with that is his office is 50 miles away and to be honest, I can't afford 50.00 every time I walk into his office, then the NUT office and then the dr. And he makes all his patients buy bariatric vitamins and advantage. I love my doctor but this is gonna make me crazy. Also if I don't get out done by Jan 31st as planned then I have a butt load of co pays. So irate

I've had a rough 4 years. Between deaths of people extremely close to me, losing the job and house I loved because of the recession and a major move to a place I knew no-one I could be doing worse

Edited September 29, 201411 yr by kyrickchick64

I'd talk to your surgeon. Maybe he can send you to someone else for a second eval.

Your Dr. "Makes" you buy particular products? Sounds like a conflict of interest on his part. Vitamins are vitamins. You may have to take several different pills or chewables to get the same nutrition available in a single bariatric product, but my instructions were that the delivery system doesn't matter. Getting all the vitamins does on the proper schedule. I was advised by my coordinator to get my vitamins at Walmart and given a list of the mg's and when\how often to take what. I've been compliant (it does take a bit of work to keep the schedule) and my blood work is perfect.

As far as they psych goes, I'm sorry you've had a difficult time. Maybe try to get a second opinion?

The problem with that is his office is 50 miles away and to be honest, I can't afford 50.00 every time I walk into his office, then the NUT office and then the dr. And he makes all his patients buy bariatric vitamins and advantage. I love my doctor but this is gonna make me crazy. Also if I don't get out done by Jan 31st as planned then I have a butt load of co pays. So irate

You should go to a different psyc. He can't force you to use his. I know it's expensive, but call around and see what the going rate is...this sounds like life or death to you. You can work on "loving yourself " when you are off of BP and diabetes medication. The power these people have makes me so mad.

Oh, and it's nice to like your surgeon, but his purpose is just to do the surgery and let you go on with your life. I would also consider finding a new one.

its good youv already put into the practice your new lifestyle. keep it up. I know what your going thru on the psych part. of course I had to see the staff affiliated with my surgeon as well, when I got to my app with their psych fortunatly she was very nice an easy to talk to. of course going thru their questions I was honest, an I told her I see this other one full time have been for yrs an I really like her to. she says they do these evaluations to see if we honestly realize what we are going to go thru the difficulties emotionally an mentally that this will cause an they have to make sure we are stable in those areas. and of course i told her I had been thinking about this off an on for over 10 yrs, an it got to the point 2 of my specialists referred me to have this done. I didnt have a problem with her but I had to get my regular psych dr to release me ...so she faxed the release papers to her an my dr agreed to everything except she made a notation at the bottom saying that at our last visit which was 2 months earlier that I "seemed" upset or on edge or uneasy. well the staff called me an told me she knew if she submitted this release to my Ins with the rest of all my paperwork that they would deny me..so I told her DO NOT send that in yet I will call an get into talk with her an see WHY she wrote that lil note. so I called that day got an app that next wk and went in and talked to her.. I convinced her I was better an that I am looking forward to this life changing step an that I am very excited. she then told me she would be happy to release me..sure enough she did . They just have to touch all bases...an yes eating disorders are a question as well. but It has been some what of a struggle mentally an emotionally the first month. it was brutal. some ppl do great some ppl struggle. I struggled some. as far as the vitamins an etc to buy from him, if its costly I would talk to him an tell him what your prepared to do, I didnt have to do that. I get mine at whole foods or a natural living. But if I was you , I know its hard to get into psychs youll need a referral, call the office an have them refer you to another one, if they dont have another one they use, or if you dont have one you personally see regularly, go to yur primary an have them refer you to one. there might be one closer. if your stuck with the one you already seen I would make another app with them asap an get in there an have along talk an ask why they or he or she said what they did. thats just me. but I would jump on this quickly it takes time to get thru this process. wish you the best..hang in there..it will happen..

I am so glad my Psych is also a very successful bariatric patient. She knows all the issues first hand.

rough year.... sorry to hear, but congrats on all the positive lifestyle changes.

Your Dr. "Makes" you buy particular products? Sounds like a conflict of interest on his part. Vitamins are vitamins. You may have to take several different pills or chewables to get the same nutrition available in a single bariatric product, but my instructions were that the delivery system doesn't matter. Getting all the vitamins does on the proper schedule. I was advised by my coordinator to get my vitamins at Walmart and given a list of the mg's and whenhow often to take what. I've been compliant (it does take a bit of work to keep the schedule) and my blood work is perfect.

As far as they psych goes, I'm sorry you've had a difficult time. Maybe try to get a second opinion?

The Vitamin and Bariatric Advantage purchase is for the 2 weeks before the surgery to shrink my liver fat. I get that. I was going to a grief counselor so I made an appt with her top see if she could help me. I had an interview this morning for a part time job. I'll call the doctor office tomorrow to see what else I can do. I really want to have my surgery at Baptist so that doctor is my only choice.

I would call the psych and ask why they wrote that and what action steps you need to take. Play nice find another doc while playing nice and get another eval. Be saccharine during that eval. Submit.

Sounds like that dr needs to put the license back in the Cracker Jack box they found it in clearly incompetent move on and ask for another dr so much for so called helping us right jeez what a whackadoo

Haters gonna hate. But really the psych should have told you he felt you needed more sessions with him before approval, rather than straight denying you. Lots of people at my surgeon didn't get approved after their first interview with the psych. They don't get denied. The psych just tells them to make another appointment because there are issues that need to be worked. Seems really shitty, IMHO.