Had my surgery in April 2013 and my life is unrecognisable from then until now. My mind is unrecognisable never mind my body, lol. I am happy and nothing in life is a problem...

Luckily for me that's what keeps me smiling when an acquaintance repeatedly tells mutual friends she is just waiting for me to "pile the weight back on".

Hell will be freezing over before I give her the satisfaction of seeing me gain a pound. But what a sad life she must have if taking pleasure in waiting for someone to fail is the highlight of her life.

The old me would have fretted about whether she might have a point. The new me says "feck her". And if she ever says it to my face, that's the gist of what I will say to her. Not very sophisticated - but I think it would be very effective in shutting her up once and for all!

Indigo1991,

All that is just jealousy. Do they really think we are taking this big step in our lives just to fail? Keep doing exactly what you are doing and let them keep talking.

Hi letsgetshrunk,

Gastric Bypass is hard, the: decision, pre-op stuff, surgery and recovery not to mention managing living with a medical condition for life. We will always be a "Bariatric Patient." That's a lot to deal with. My basket is full and I don't need mental games with other people. Not now!

You are right about it all being a lot to deal with. I also told very few people because I didn't need the supervision and observation people feel inclined to provide. However, I don't think of it like managing a medical condition at all. I think of it as a gift, and I'm simply managing my weight, like all normal thin people.

Haters are confused fans! Always remember that. Sometimes what helps me is to practice comebacks when people say something mean or rude so I have them in arsenal when the time comes (but I'm Scorpio that way- always plotting the revenge). In the meantime find new friends and new people to hang out with until that person realizes she is really secretly truly, a jealous fan and can admit at least to herself with being hateful or spreading gossip.

I too have gotten comments from people who are actually surprised that I haven't gained the weight back. But actually those rude people may just be helping me by keeping me on my toes, weight wise. I belong to a long time WLS support FB group and it seems like the majority of them have gained back some weight. The good fight to be the best you, will always be a part of our daily life, if we live the way we should we will be fine. What's that ole saying, "Misery loves company" that woman that is waiting for you to regain some weight, just must me one of those miserable people...

I totally say Feck you! to all negativity, including when its coming at me from my own darn head! LOL and if I ever catch myself mumbling one little whiny insecure thing again ohhh no you DONT! Feck that! blocking that voice out for good hehee :-)

Seriously though, some peoples nasty dumb-bum comments can get under you skin, but as hurtful as they can be, it almost makes me want to sympathize and wonder what awful pathetic misery that person must have gone through and come back out with such an ugly outlook on life that they just spew their toxins all over the place.

Feck you dear, please dont contaminate my inner peace and outer loveliness with your germy toxins, I do wish you a speedy recovery :-D

It is very hurtful when so-called friends and family make comments like " You took the easy way out" or " I want to lose my weight the right way" . Until you have gone through bariatric surgery you cannot judge what is easy or not. Also, for the record, I tried to lose weight the "right way" and was successful and I also regained and lost numerous times. My lap band is the tool keeping me on my healthy path.I have to make a conscious effort each day to stay on track.

I just try to avoid the negative people as much as I can. Women especially should be more compassionate to one another and not so judgmental. I work very hard to lose weight and I have to work out even harder to keep the pounds coming off. When people act like surgery is a magical solution to weight loss it drives me crazy!

Wherever there are haters, I feel a special responsibilty to prove them wrong!

I admit that "feck 'em" has become a nearly daily mantra for me. It's so refreshing.

I admit that "feck 'em" has become a nearly daily mantra for me. It's so refreshing.

Yes!! :-)