OK Yes I'm 45 years old and I was afraid to tell certain family members. But more importantly did not want to tell my mom because she just was diagnosed with diabetes and high blood pressure. She worries about everyone but herself. So today I bit the bullet and told her. She took it well but really had no choice because it's done.

Big step, congratulations!

I'm 56 and will never tell my mother ever as long as I live. she is 80 and as mean as they come! She would never get it!

I chose not to tell anyone either...I did not want any opinions or comments like " you took the easy way out"... No, I took control of my life with the new technologies that are available to me...I have had a band since 2005 and just converted to a sleeve last week...although feeling a bit battered at this moment, losing weight was the best thing I ever did for ME!

I didnt tell my mother either and never will. The only people that know are my immediate family and 1 close friend. Its nobodys business but mine.

Telling my mom was very hard but I had to. At first it was hard some negative talk and then sabotage and now it's better our relationship had to change for me to be healthier. Now We talk about books and music and even TV and that I'm happy. Not an easy thing to do. I would have kept it quiet but it would have been difficult to explain why I'm not cooking for everyone during the holidays this year. empower your choices if you don't tell mom there is good reason.