Need a little advice, support, or wake up call….

My date is July 7th.. i have been reading on this forum for several months for hours at a time.. trying to be informed..

My choice has been to tell 2 people so far..

Suddenly i have had a close relative, who i have not told... talking to me about the dangers of WLS.. and how I can do this .. She has not asked me outright if I am having it….

So now i have been looking at the complication board for hours WOW.. needless to say , a part of me is saying, what the heck am i thinking, i could die or have lifelong problems….

I think i am so concerned over what everyone will think or say.. that I am freaking myself out about something that I feel will be a great tool…

but on the other hand has possibilities of severe complications….

Am I the only one with these second thoughts?

I look at it this way...staying obese has a long list of risks associated with it whereas WLS has a much, much shorter list of risks associated with it. You've got to decide for yourself where you are comfortable with the risks. For me, I'm more comfortable with the surgery than I am with staying obese. Best of luck to you.

I agree with the above statement what us more important to you what others say or think or your tight to be healthy and prolong your life. If you do MIT have the surgery you are facing a lifetime of illness and a shorter life or you can decide to become healthy. Good luck my friend. But you deserve to be healthy and do not owe anyone an explanation .

No, you are not crazy. If you are, then I am also. My date is July 28th, I'm in the middle of a divorce and am basically a single parent to a developmentally disabled daughter who is the light of my life. I think about all of the possible complications, read about the experiences of people who have had tremendous challenges after surgery and it scares me to think that I may be putting my life at risk.

Then I remember that my life is already at risk- with hypertension, pre diabetes and all of the lesser problems that come with obesity. The writing's on the wall, do something effective or the chance of severe, life threatening illness is pretty high.

I have a good surgeon, with a great team in place. The odds of a serious complication are pretty low- that's why I've seen every "ologist" in the world and been tested extensively. Is it a guarantee of safety-well, no-but I feel that it is a step I'm ready and willing to take to try and regain my health and improve my life.

You're not crazy, this is a big deal and if you weren't apprehensive then you weren't well infomed. I wish you peace in your decision and know that you are far from alone in these feelings. Only you know if this is the right choice for you.

You are not crazy. I think most everyone who has undergone WLS has had second, third, and probably fourth thoughts lol. For me the dangers of surgery versus the dangers of being obese, with Diabetes Type II, and possibly now hypertension....I think the odds are pretty good for the surgery winning out over staying obese. It is a choice each individual has to make for themselves. You need to make the decision that feels right to you

For me I could not lose all of it on my own my highest weight was 480 I got town to 430 on my own . Could not get past 430. Every time I did I shot back up to 430 .

I got tired of going up and down with my weight .i use to weigh 220 . I was hit head on in 91 and shot up to 484 fast . So getting in the gym was very hard to do . I chose the lap band first mainly cause insurance , and it went good .

I lost 100 pounds on it but it was slipping and well the removed it in 3 months of putting it in .

They put it back in cause I was scared of the by pass but I did not lose any weight after they stuck it back and it was slipping agin .

So I went in to see dr suh and we revised it to the sleeve I am just 3 weeks out I had surg on may 30 I have lost close to 30 pounds so far .

I seem to be constipated but I don't eat much

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I had bad heart burn a week after surg and I had to end up mixing the Pepcid with nexium twice a day and it seems to work . Other then that I am not hungry .

I just start cardio at the gym a week ago .

But I am excited I was scared but I was getting to the point where I was walking worse everything was getting harder to do .

And I just got tired I can do it on my own and keep it off . I think this is a great tool to get you down so you can maintain and feel better it takes work .. The surg is not a walk in the park but it was worth it for me . I am trying to get to 220 back where I was and hope I will keep it off with the new life style I am moving into .