I Am sitting next to my mom on the beach and dying to tell her about my surgery BUT I know she would tell all Her sisters and my entire family will know by the end of the day!!! I don't mind telling people after my surgery and once I start loosing but I am nervous something will get in the way and I won't be able to get it done

If you are a grown a--woman, then do the latter. I would only share it with her if you don't have anyone to support you and if you knew that you could trust her to keep it private. Good luck with your decision.

I chose to tell only a selected few prior to surgery , I am 13wks out and I have still kept it to myself. I discuss it with other sleevers or bypass patients... it just seems to be entirely too many questions, answers and explaining

I Am sitting next to my mom on the beach and dying to tell her about my surgery BUT I know she would tell all Her sisters and my entire family will know by the end of the day!!! I don't mind telling people after my surgery and once I start loosing but I am nervous something will get in the way and I won't be able to get it done

I agree tell her when it's done. If I were to tell my mom she would tell all and I'm 57 yrs old!

All my family lives in different states than I, my kids are here. I will tell them when my surgery date comes up. Which I'm doing the 6 month wait.

Good luck, I understand.

Thanks everyone!!! You really helped! It's hard for me to keep a secret especially from my mom and sister but I know it's best!! ...my husband knows and a few select friends and that's it!

I was going to keep it to just my hubby and kids. They would not tell anyone. But I got to thinking about "what ifs" and told my mom and sister. My sister is keeping it to herself but my mom has told her sisters, my brother's girlfriend etc. When I asked her she said well they're just family! So only tell people if you are willing for it to get out!!!

I told my parents and my boys so that if something were to go wrong they would know what the deal was. I didn't want to tell my Mom, as she is a retired nurse and not very supportive of weight loss surgery in general, but she was very supportive and researched the procedure and is comfortable with me having the surgery. After I got over the hurdle of telling my Mom, it was easy to tell a few friends and they are excited for me.

I figured if my friends knew, then possibly they would be supportive through the rest of the process as well. Knowing that I will not be sharing with birthday cakes and that our cookouts will be a little different on my end will be a big help. They won't hound me to "just try a bite" if they know it could make me sick.

As far as people knowing that I had surgery to help me lose weight, well I thought long and hard about it and decided that I really didn't care what anyone thought. I have to take care of myself the best I can and this is decision was made after years of losing 30 lbs and gaining 40 every time I turned around. I refused to wait until I had diabetes or high blood pressure to have the surgery. Everyone has their own path and this one is mine.

Well, I'm one of those who has told no one except my husband and my best friend. I'm working on the theory tat once it's out, it's hard to put the toothpaste back into the tube.....