I am inordinately annoyed by people who lie about their surgery. It's one thing to keep details to yourself and tell the truth while sidestepping the *whole* truth. But to outright lie? That's just silly.

And annoying.

I don't like it. Either keep it entirely private or tell the truth. Don't be a liar.

~Cheri

I realize this is not my typical wordy post. I'm annoyed, cut me some slack. Also, this is not directed at anyone in particular here at the forums. It's something I've noticed amongst my set of real life WLS patients.

I've chosen to not tell the people I'm not close too. No ones asked yet and quite frankly, I don't want to be the poster child for the surgery. Not yet anyways.

Besides, no one else needs to know my medical history, I find that private.

Everyone has feelings and ideas about this surgery and how they wish to relate it to the outside world. All are valid, they are yours and you have a right to them.

My personal feeling about this surgery is that I am extremely proud of myself for coming out fighting. I was suffering extreme weight gain, the after effects of prostate cancer treatment. Steroids, lupron,( a testosterone killer), radiation, chemo, all took a toll on me. I was told I would never lose the weight gain and would die in a couple years, that was 2009. My urologist didn't like the surgery saying it was too hard on the body but signed off on it. My other doctors were on board.

I knew I was dying, I felt like a heart attack or stroke would get me before the cancer would. I couldn't breath, I had no energy, aches and pains by the multitude.

It was a fierce act. I was fully aware of the possible consequences. I prayed about it. I felt God's smile on me about it. I don't understand everything but I know I am loved by Him.

I feel really good about what I did. It is a very personal thing but my dramatic change invites many questions. Truth is easy to remember, it is always the same. I chose not to hide it from anyone who asks. If you chose to, more power to you, you have my respect.

I've told no one except immediate family and boss. No one has asked or commented so I guess I should be happy no one cares about me

I've told no one except immediate family and boss. No one has asked or commented so I guess I should be happy no one cares about me

I care about you.

*Runs in with fire extinguisher!*

*brings marshmallows and weenies*

*comes in for the free food*

Haaaa!

Once a piggy always a piggy

Seriously. Am I the only one still annoyed (after all these years) by the "if you're not being nicey- nicey super supportive, telling me everything I do is perfect and awesome and okay then you're not supportive at all and shouldn't say anything" B.S.? Or the "golly gee, I guess you're just a totally NON special person for getting annoyed with people that say and do things you don't agree with" crap?

Suck it.

I've got two pals online pimping pharmaceuticals as the magic cure that helped them lose weight when the truth is that they sliced out 85% of their stomach and eat 500 calories a day and no carbs.

That's lying. I don't care how private you are. That's lying. Don't be a liar. And don't be a liar to sell pills to people on the internet that still believe there's a magic pill cure for obesity.

And I'll roll out that OTHER standby forum slogan:

"If you don't like what I say you can just be the bigger person and not respond."

Cause it's totally unsupportive to tell me you disagree with me, don'tcha know? Plus, it's mean. We only like unicorns and sparkles 'round here. No reality or realistic emotions allowed.

~Cheri

You've inspired me. I'm going to start telling people that my operation was a sex change.

Seriously. Am I the only one still annoyed (after all these years) by the "if you're not being nicey- nicey super supportive, telling me everything I do is perfect and awesome and okay then you're not supportive at all and shouldn't say anything" B.S.? Or the "golly gee, I guess you're just a totally NON special person for getting annoyed with people that say and do things you don't agree with" crap? Suck it. I've got two pals online pimping pharmaceuticals as the magic cure that helped them lose weight when the truth is that they sliced out 85% of their stomach and eat 500 calories a day and no carbs. That's lying. I don't care how private you are. That's lying. Don't be a liar. And don't be a liar to sell pills to people on the internet that still believe there's a magic pill cure for obesity. And I'll roll out that OTHER standby forum slogan: "If you don't like what I say you can just be the bigger person and not respond." Cause it's totally unsupportive to tell me you disagree with me, don'tcha know? Plus, it's mean. We only like unicorns and sparkles 'round here. No reality or realistic emotions allowed. ~Cheri

I really warn to know about these people's real lives. Is that how they cope in the real world? One disagreement with me and you're gone! If you disagree with me you must be a mean person!

I really hate when people confuse a difference of opinion with personal love and loyalty. I could love you to pieces and still entirely disagree with you. But! not in a forum apparently.

I particularly hate it at work because I get paid for my brain (thankfully not my body or we'd be bankrupt:p). Anyway I digress I get paid for my brain, not to be friends and agree with everyone. And when people equate support and loyalty with yes-man ship, I get very frustrated.

As to your pill selling friends, karma will bite them in the azz sooner or later. Those types of deeds don't go unpunished.

I really warn to know about these people's real lives. Is that how they cope in the real world? One disagreement with me and you're gone! If you disagree with me you must be a mean person!

I really hate when people confuse a difference of opinion with personal love and loyalty. I could love you to pieces and still entirely disagree with you. But! not in a forum apparently.

I particularly hate it at work because I get paid for my brain (thankfully not my body or we'd be bankrupt:p). Anyway I digress I get paid for my brain, not to be friends and agree with everyone. And when people equate support and loyalty with yes-man ship, I get very frustrated.

As to your pill selling friends, karma will bite them in the azz sooner or later. Those types of deeds don't go unpunished.

We all know that I actually enjoy courteous dialogue, even when I disagree completely with people sharing their opinions. I get annoyed when I'm told "don't be annoyed." That's silly. Maybe it's not what would annoy someone else. Maybe they disagree with my stance. Maybe they're just better people than me. But don't discount my feelings or opinions simply because yours differ.

Makes me prickly and I show it in my responses!

~Cheri

We all know that I actually enjoy courteous dialogue, even when I disagree completely with people sharing their opinions. I get annoyed when I'm told "don't be annoyed." That's silly. Maybe it's not what would annoy someone else. Maybe they disagree with my stance. Maybe they're just better people than me. But don't discount my feelings or opinions simply because yours differ.

Makes me prickly and I show it in my responses!

~Cheri

I feel ya!

I love <insert eye roll> being told to simmer down, be patient, not to comment again, etc. by total strangers on the Internet simply because THEY don't like what I have to say.

I'd like people to like me, but if they don't, so be it. A stranger's opinion of me matters about as much as a caterpillar pooping in a bush three miles away; can't see it, can't smell it, don't care about it.

Them telling me what to do, how to feel or how I may or may not react is just about as effective as brushing your teeth while eating a pack of Oreos.

Ok so most of u do t know me I'm new here and in the pre op stage I have told only my closer friends and my side of the family. Been w my dr since sept but took my weight in aug and I'm down 25 lbs. I am not telling anyone at work but my manager who talks about EVERYONE. Said to a co worker that I must be having WLS! Honestly that pissed me off. Who is she to talk about me and my weight. I told her I was having female surgery instead of the sleeve because I want to make sure I go thru with it. I do have a substantial hiatal hernia so I'm not lying about surgery.

But people r starting to notice and are complimenting me. I am proud of myself that I decided to do WLS. Honestly I know it will be hard but living as a fat person is also very hard... I'm ready for a new hard challenge.