Surgery scared have 2 small children. What is something happens and I leave my two boys motherless? Am I being selfish.

You are 100% not being selfish, just the opposite. I have four children and when that thought comes to mind I say to myself, am I living now? How much longer will I live in this condition? Isn't the small risk worth the rest of their lives having a happy! Healthy mom who can enjoy life? I just ask GOD that my journey doesn't end but rather the rest of my life, living, begin.

Thank you so much that really helps.

it's absolutely normal to feel scared. I had the same feeling I have two young boys, one still in diapers. But you need to remember we are doing this to be healthier and be around longer for yourself, kids, family, etc. I stopped being scared once I woke up from the anesthesia. Have a good support system at the hospital. I had my wife and parents with me.

Trust all the research you did on the procedure and the surgeons.

Where are you going my day is also Oct 17

Princeton Baptist in b'ham Alabama dr John Matthews. How about you

Your going to do amazing !!! Go into this positive and your kids are going to be so blessed to have a healthy mom after this God Bless

Dear you are being selfish if you don't have the surgery. The wall of weight that you have built will only get bigger harder to carry as time goes on. You may have good health now but I can tell you in 2 5 10 years it won't be. It will slowly eat at you with a joint pain here, a type II borderline there, problems breathing and no energy. I have 3 boys one has autism. I got he light last year that I cannot die right now. I am 49 not really old but not so young. In the last 4 1/2 months I have lost 90 lbs and got back to a place I thought I could never return. If you need this tool, run don't walk towards it. If you feel that you can lose the weight the regular way I have your back. But if you feel that you have gone down that road and it hasn't worked, come to the sleeved side. In the long run when you are playing with your kids and have all the energy and health in the world you will thank god that he put you on this road to a better quality of life. Remember you could get hit by a bus tomorrow so using your children as an excuse will get you know where and all alone behind your wall. Come out to the daylight, we will be waiting for you with a great sunscreen!

Thank you to all who have replied. Really really has helped to see things in a different light

Glad to see others feel this way also. I have 3 little boys and this is also my biggest fear with the surgery. But then it hits me when i see others said, how much living am I doing without the surgery? I want to be able to do all the things with my kids that I can't do with them know because of my weight. I see their disappointment when I can't do things with them like run outside and ride bikes with them. I want/need better for them and myself. We can do this!!

Glad to see others feel this way also. I have 3 little boys and this is also my biggest fear with the surgery. But then it hits me when i see others said' date=' how much living am I doing without the surgery? I want to be able to do all the things with my kids that I can't do with them know because of my weight. I see their disappointment when I can't do things with them like run outside and ride bikes with them. I want/need better for them and myself. We can do this!![/quote']

I am certainly not living my life. I don't want to be room mom, chaperone field trips, go to major league sporting events with my husband.....you get the idea. I want to look and feel great and hang out with my kids instead of hiding in the house.

It is so normal to be scared! I was terrified I was making the wrong decision. But I needed to be a healthier Mom to my little boy. It just wasn't fair to him anymore. I could not do it on my own...I had been trying (and failing) my entire adult life. So, I took the leap. I feel so blessed everyday. Your children will thank you. I will keep you in my prayers.

I was terrified of surgery. I was angry I couldn't get my eating under control and lose the weight on my own. I finally just put myself in the hands of the surgeon...God. I woke up and had some pressure and was weak. The first week was difficult but it wasn't as horrible as I thought it would be.everyday was better. Now fast forward 8 months later and I am 125 lbs lighter than the highest weight and look and feel wonderful. It was so worth it...only regret I have is waiting so long! The anticipation was far scarier than the actual process...I am the mother of two boys...good luck u will be great

thanks for sharing. It calms me down a bit. please keep in touch!

My surgery is the 21 of October I am scared and nervous at the same time I have a husband and two small children of my own I know I am making the right choice for me and my family to be around longer but still scared anyone felling the same way?