Has anyone run into the problem of not being able to hang out with people you used to hang out with since surgery? I have noticed that some people (large and small) that I used to go to lunch or dinner with, seem to not want to go anymore. I need the social interaction but I am not getting it. I am speculating that they feel weird that I can't eat like I used too or maybe they feel weird because they are eating more than me? I am not sure but it makes me feel lonely. Even though I can't eat a whole lot, I still yearn to have the social interaction. Any suggestions or stories anyone would like to share with me?

I found that a few folks I knew were being overly cautious about what I "couldn't have" Once I was on solid foods, I could always find something on a menu, and always let that be what I put out there. Maybe they are just trying to be helpful. Have you tried initiating the invites to lunch? How far out are you?

I am sorry you are going through that. Do you have family that you can go out with for a nice meal? Sometimes people are just weird about the surgery and that's on them not you. I found out who my real friends were with my surgery and learned to cut a few loose. I think all of us go through this at some level. Give them a little time that might be all you need. Time will tell but I hope they come around. In the mean time are you going to a support group you might meet some new friends there who totally understand your new life.

Shortly after I had my sleeve, I went to lunch with a good friend. She told me she felt uncomfortable eating in front of me. I asked why... you never had a problem eating in front of me before. She explained it was because she was eating more than I was and didn't want me to be uncomfortable. I simply stated that this was my choice and she had nothing to fear.

I think she was fearful that I would change and no longer want to be friends. I don't pick my friends based on their looks or food consumption. I choose people who are kind, considerate, friendly, and because we have something in common (amoung other attributes). I told her this and said you are my friend.

Maybe your friends are nervous/jealous of the changes you are going through. Call them up and talk about your fears. Tell them why they are your friend and set a time to get together.

We are here to support you.Good luck on your journey.

I am almost 8 weeks out from surgery. I am up to about 800 calories a day. I can eat pretty much anything of course watching fat, sugar etc. I am just restricted of course from the surgery. I usually can find something to eat off the menu.

How about inviting your friends to join you in a non food related activity. I have found catching up for coffee or going shopping with friends fun activities post sleeve. I haven't told anyone so it helps me in not having to answer a million questions about why I am not eating. Good luck!

It will or should pass as the newness wears off.

What about inviting them out for a coffee or a movie where there is no meal involved?

It sucks that people are treating you differently, I hope you social life goes back to normal once people get used to the idea.