Hi all,

I've been feeling down lately. I'm in my 4th week, and I've been doing pretty well until now. I don't know why suddenly it's kicking in, but I've been almost mourning my old stomach. I miss being able to eat whatever, and eat what my family is eating. I miss being able to drink in between bites if I wanted to. I'm finding myself crying and just...sad. Anyone else experience this?

While I miss being able to eat/drink as much as my head wants to, I also recognize that there's no going back...so why waste energy on depression/sadness/crying?! Life's too short to dwell on things we can't change.

I'm not trying to. Obviously I don't like it and wish I didn't feel this way!

you can still eat what you want just not as much and you can drink when you eat you just won't feel as full as long.

I know; sorry if what I wrote made it sound otherwise - surely didn't mean it that way! For me, every day is a new step in the process...and every temptation brings a choice - victory or defeat. I focus on being positive and making good choices because, I know, this is what I need to do for me.

Remind yourself of all of the reasons you did this - perhaps, make a list and hang it somewhere you'll see it frequently! Writing tends to be healing for me, so I appreciate being able to blog and utilize social media/groups to vent my frustrations, read about others' journeys, etc.

I'm 8 months out, and I still sometimes get a little sad when I see everyone consuming way more than they should. But when I put on my size 12 jeans, I'm totally over it. The further out you get, the less you'll miss it or feel sad. Someone once posted "nothing tastes as good as thin feels". Hang in there. Things will improve day by day.

I think once I get to the stage where I can have more options in the diet it will get easier. It's just really hard right now for some reason...

you can still eat what you want just not as much and you can drink when you eat you just won't feel as full as long.

I think we all go through some sort of depression.. Lord knows I did. Sometimes still find myself feeling kinda sad when I see my family at holiday celebrations, but like someone else posted when I fit into my cute clothes and like what I see in the mirror my frown turns into a smile. Chin up , it will get better one day at a time.

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Thanks everyone!

Take it one day at a time and it will get better. you will be able to eat with your family soon enough. This will soon be a memory. ;P

I feel the same. I just started my fifth week and I'm also feeling down. I didn't realize how much I used food for enjoyment out of life. Now I just need to change my focus. I hope you feel better soon. Our hormones are probably adjusting too but don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

4 weeks? I'd say you are right on track! Trust me most of us went through a depressive state right around then! Hormones going crazy from weight loss, a changing body and mourning our comfort and friend food. I knew going into this that the depression was a real part of it at this stage so I was able to ride it out knowing it was coming and "normal"

Be nice to yourself and know it will pass

Starting third week, lost 9 + 19 preop, still so sad and regretful. Can't reply to well wishers yet. I want to cheat every minute I'm awake and can't imagine this will work for me. Not a positive reply, but want you to know you're not alone! So confused about fluids and protein...who knows if I am getting enough?!? Hang in there!

Starting third week' date=' lost 9 + 19 preop, still so sad and regretful. Can't reply to well wishers yet. I want to cheat every minute I'm awake and can't imagine this will work for me. Not a positive reply, but want you to know you're not alone! So confused about fluids and Protein...who knows if I am getting enough?!? Hang in there![/quote']

Girl what are you confused about? Are you measuring? At this point you should be measuring every ounce you take in of fluids to make sure you get enough (64oz a day)

And 60 grams of protein.

And give yourself time and patience. Your weight loss is on par to a lot if us.

I think that I may have had a day or two when I felt resentful of everyone else being able to eat when I couldn't but not really depressed. When I went to one of my pre-op counseling sessions, the leader there said that it is prefectly normal to mourn the food you are missing, it can make you feel depressed, it's like missing a part of your family. Let's face it, food is a huge part of daily life, and to most of us that are over-weight it fills in for a lot of other stuff. It's hard to let go of habits that are so ingrained, like eating when your stressed or angry. It makes you have to deal with the original emotions in stead of comforting ourselves with food. So I can understand the depression and feeling left-out while everyone is stuffing their faces. When I go out with my family now, I get my food, cut it in really small little pieces,(it lasts longer this way), and I talk, a lot more than I used to. Chin up, it does get better!

Sorry you are feeling sad. I hope it will pass soon and you will feel like you have been given such a wonderful gift -- a chance for a life you always wished you had had. At least that's the way I feel.

Here's my post-surgery story: before the surgery my biggest fear was that I wouldn't be able to go out with my friends and eat baskets of chips and salsa and drink beer. So last week for my birthday a group of friends got together at my favorite Mexican restaurant (yes, I picked the place). I thought i would be really depressed and feel left out. You know what I discovered -- I actually enjoyed my friends more when I wasn't distracted by gorging on chips/salsa/beer.

And guacamole actually tastes pretty good when eaten with a fork rather than a greasy, salty tortilla chip!

Have you had that experience where some food you thought was your favorite just doesn't taste as good since your surgery? That's what happened to me -- I much preferred the simple chicken enchilada, to my former favorite, meat-filled chili relleno. Who knew!?!