On Monday I have my first date since my sleeve 8 weeks ago. In fact it's my first date in almost 33 years, lol. Husband and I spilt 3 years ago and I haven't been confident enough to date - until now. Thank u sleeve.

But am absolutely terrified!!! Any words of encouragement????

Have fun, be yourself, smile often and use protection. (That last part was a joke..... maybe... ).

Omg, hadnt even factored S.E.X in - just crippled going through door of bar. But thanks for making me laugh :-))))

Well I have been married for several years and don't see myself going out on a first date with a new guy ever again. However, with this new weight loss...i feel like a new person. So I set up a "date" with my hubby. We haven't gone "out" in years. I felt nervous and excited. It was so fun. You are at a great place with the new you. So don't you settle for anything but the best. Be confident- that is the trait that men seem to admire the most. Love your self and be your self and it will be all good.

first date since sleeve 8 weeks ago

Indigo1991

I definitely agree about having protection!!!!

buy a large dog!!!

being a little nervous, perfectly understandable

kindof like being a little nervous pre-WLS

but..........the surgery is over

and you have been successful by losing 34 lbs

WooHoo!!

i am sure you will will be just as successful on your first of many dates

As OP said, smile, be yourself and have fun

knock 'em dead!!!!

kathy

Just enjoy yourself! Life's best surprises come without expectations! Laugh, flirt, and revel in the new you!

How exciting! Is this someone that knows you've been sleeved? What are you going to wear? Where/what are you guys gonna go/ do?

Thank you all for the encouragement and advice. This is a whole new world but I am going to be me :-))))

LI Gemini NY, he doesn't know I've been sleeved, not sure that will be a conversation for a first date - but who knows! We are going to a lively bar in the city which, even on a Monday, should have some atmosphere.

The clothes thing is a big question. It's a fairly casual bar, but I still want to look good. My body has changed hugely, even after a 34 lbs loss, and I am down 4-5 clothes sizes - but I still have the girls.... was fitted for a new bra and I am looking va-voom lol! But not sure what to wear, so will be spending a large part of the day doing a private fashion show to myself. Not that I have a lot of clothes to choose from :-)

Good for you on the weight loss and the first date. I can't wait until my time comes to be sleeved. Just be yourself. I don't know if you wear makeup but if you do, then go light to make it look all naturale. Wear something sexy but not too revealing. You want his imagination to wonder what's under the clothes. Be flirtatious by smiling, licking your lips, teasing him when you suck the straw that you're drinking from, etc. You will be fine. Don't stress too much about it. Just have a good time. Just keep the conversation going by asking him questions about himself. Most men I know love to talk about themselves to the tenth degree.

Thank you all for the encouragement and advice. This is a whole new world but I am going to be me :-))))

LI Gemini NY' date=' he doesn't know I've been sleeved, not sure that will be a conversation for a first date - but who knows! We are going to a lively bar in the city which, even on a Monday, should have some atmosphere.

The clothes thing is a big question. It's a fairly casual bar, but I still want to look good. My body has changed hugely, even after a 34 lbs loss, and I am down 4-5 clothes sizes - but I still have the girls.... was fitted for a new bra and I am looking va-voom lol! But not sure what to wear, so will be spending a large part of the day doing a private fashion show to myself. Not that I have a lot of clothes to choose from :-)[/quote']

My new go to causal outfit. A nice pair of jeans, curvy straight or jeggings like in a dark wash. A tank top with embellishments and a blazer that matches the tank top. Or you can do a plain tank like a ribbed tank under the blazer and go with a long chunky necklace. And a nice pair of heels. Loafers would work too but heels lengthen the legs and gives me that sexy walk lol

I would skip the sleeve talk, DON'T drink from a straw and since its a bar idk how or what you're gonna drink. If you drink Water all night you'd seem a lil stiff but if you drink the devil's juice then lord child lol