Until today, 1 person (my girlfriend) knew about me having surgery...today I had my final "weigh-in" and I completed all the other requirements so my time is nearing. I broke the news to my mom, well she kinda pulled it out of me but....she said she was worried about me because I've been going to a lot of medical appointments lately and the fact that I'm not saying anything to her that I'm sick or whatever is making her worry. I felt horrible that someone with stage 4 bone cancer and a weird crazy funky eye problem that's causing blindness is worried about me so I told her.

Me: "aw mommy I'm not sick, Umm i, well uhh. Ok! You can't tell anyone ok?

Mommy: um ok

Me: I'm having weight loss surgery and I had to go to a lot of specialist to make sure I'm safe for surgery...and for my insurance to pay for it.

Mommy: weight loss surgery? You mean Lapband? Please don't say gastric bypass because I don't like the idea of that.

Me: no no I'm getting the gastric sleeve.

Mommy: what does that mean.

Me: long drawn out explanation....

Mommy: are you sure that's what you want? You've been losing weight...

Me: explaining why I need this

Mommy: ok, where are are you getting it done?

Me: Winthrop

Mommy: she smiles (winthrop is like heaven to my mom, this is where all her doctors are, where she gets her treatments etc. this place can do no wrong.) ok! Well if you're sure about it, go for it. Anything you want me to do to help out?

Me: Sobbing, no, just don't eat delicious crap in front of me.

-----later in the eve....told my sister

She didn't know what the sleeve was either! But she said it was a great idea!!!! My sister, always been skinny....said its a good idea! ANDDDD asked what kind of stuff to get at the grocery for me. She also said she'll take off from work the day of and after surgery to help out.

I am so happy that they didn't judge me and thought I was lazy and taking the easy way out. I'm still kinda in disbelief that it happened this way!

Today was my birthday an I couldn't have asked for a better day.

That sounds like a perfect birthday

That is awesome, always great to have that extra support

Glad to hear that you have supportive people in your life!

Awe, (((Gemini))).....Happy Birthday!

That is so wonderful! You have probably been stressing out for long and now you have two wonderful supporters....You are gonna do fantastic!

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Thank you :-)

Awe <<<tear>>>

So happy to hear that & for u its always good to have that support! Kudos to them for not judging!

Njoy ur bday!

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That is so wonderful! You have probably been stressing out for long and now you have two wonderful supporters....You are gonna do fantastic!

Stressing is an understatement, I was seriously like mentally screwing myself with all types of crazy thoughts, like what if I don't tell them and I die during surgery, there will be so many unanswered questions and no closure....

Or

What if I tell them and they were against it, I would do it anyway but I couldn't imagine being around them being negative about this for months on end, that would drive me nuts. Then god forbid I have complications...I'll never hear the end of it!!

It turns out they're on my side and I honestly don't know why I thought they wouldn't be, fear I guess. Today reminds me of why I got "family" tattooed on my inner wrist.

Happy Birthday - isn't it nice when your closest family members come thru for you

That is so great you have them in your corner now. It is so important to have positive people and support. You have obviously been doing well doing this on your own but it is great to have them in your corner. Happy Birthday!

Until today, 1 person (my girlfriend) knew about me having surgery...today I had my final "weigh-in" and I completed all the other requirements so my time is nearing. I broke the news to my mom, well she kinda pulled it out of me but....she said she was worried about me because I've been going to a lot of medical appointments lately and the fact that I'm not saying anything to her that I'm sick or whatever is making her worry. I felt horrible that someone with stage 4 bone cancer and a weird crazy funky eye problem that's causing blindness is worried about me so I told her. <br />

<br />

Me: "aw mommy I'm not sick, Umm i, well uhh. Ok! You can't tell anyone ok? <br />

<br />

Mommy: um ok<br />

<br />

Me: I'm having weight loss surgery and I had to go to a lot of specialist to make sure I'm safe for surgery...and for my insurance to pay for it.<br />

<br />

Mommy: weight loss surgery? You mean Lapband? Please don't say gastric bypass because I don't like the idea of that.<br />

<br />

Me: no no I'm getting the gastric sleeve.<br />

<br />

Mommy: what does that mean.<br />

<br />

Me: long drawn out explanation....<br />

<br />

Mommy: are you sure that's what you want? You've been losing weight...<br />

<br />

Me: explaining why I need this<br />

<br />

Mommy: ok, where are are you getting it done?<br />

<br />

Me: Winthrop <br />

<br />

Mommy: she smiles (winthrop is like heaven to my mom, this is where all her doctors are, where she gets her treatments etc. this place can do no wrong.) ok! Well if you're sure about it, go for it. Anything you want me to do to help out?<br />

<br />

Me: Sobbing, no, just don't eat delicious crap in front of me.<br />

<br />

-----later in the eve....told my sister<br />

<br />

She didn't know what the sleeve was either! But she said it was a great idea!!!! My sister, always been skinny....said its a good idea! ANDDDD asked what kind of stuff to get at the grocery for me. She also said she'll take off from work the day of and after surgery to help out.<br />

<br />

I am so happy that they didn't judge me and thought I was lazy and taking the easy way out. I'm still kinda in disbelief that it happened this way! <br />

<br />

Today was my birthday an I couldn't have asked for a better day.

This is wonderful news. It is so helpful when your circle is supportive. I love how in the moment your Mom put you first and did not even think about her own illnesses. Such a blessing.

Thanks guys, I really feel like I have a new lease on life now. B-)