Hey sleevers I have a situation with a co worker who started the process of getting sleeved the same time I did. We said we wouldn't tell anyone we were having it done. I got approved right away and Friday she tells me she was denied I said I was sorry to hear that and maybe she could appeal. She said its not fair I got approved and she didnt. I tried to understand her hurt and anger but told her well I have a bmi of 40 and a co morbidity and she has a bmi of 35 and no co morbidity. Well a little while ago someone just told me she is telling everyone I'm having the surgery. My instincts are telling me to ****** this b**** bald and rip her face off! Before I do that I want to handle this diplomatically. What should I do??? Or say????

I really think it is important to be open and unashamed about having bariatric surgery. You are doing this for your health and peace of mind. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm sure your like most of us who have tried everything to get the weight off on their own. We are unlucky we live in a day and age where food is everywhere, so easy to obtain, and so easy to use as a crutch. We are however lucky to live in an age where there are options such as this to turn to. You dont have to blab your business to everyone, but if they ask tell them, she won't have anything to talk about anymore.

A mature adult would be over the moon happy that you were approved for surgery. Your approval has absolutely nothing to do with her denial and any reasonable person would realize that. My response to her would be a very simple: "Your reaction and behavior in this matter has been very disappointing."

I'm sorry she betrayed your trust. You had the right to keep this private, but cat is out of the bag now, so do all you can to put your positive spin on the surgery and build excitement from your coworkers for it. I know when we had people from my office go for bariatric surgery, the entire office was excited for the person as we all saw it as such a positive step.

Thanks you everyone for the suggestion and support. I will let you know how it goes when I talk to her. If no one hears from me it means it didn't go well and I did have to ****** the b**** bald and rip her face off and need to be bailed out! LOL JK

If she is telling your personal business to co workers that's violating your HIPPA rights and you can sue her

If she is telling your personal business to co workers that's violating your HIPPA rights and you can sue her

Hippa only applies to medical professionals who are treating you.. it does not apply to office gossip. If you tell someone a secret, it's not covered under HIPPA.

Hippa only applies to medical professionals who are treating you.. it does not apply to office gossip. If you tell someone a secret' date=' it's not covered under HIPPA.[/quote']

I'm sorry. Yes you are right. I work at a hospital.

Thanks again every one. I truly appreciate every ones input and concern. Please understand I have no intention of causing anyone bodily harm. I also dont feel anyone was telling me to cause her any harm. I apologize for the joke. I just need to vent it out

Another of those times that a "sarcasm" font would be helpful...

Pray for her and keep it moving

I'm new to the site not sure I'm doing this right

K it posted.., yah lol.. I had surgery Friday the 24th. I'm having trouble with this horrible taste in my mouth. Any suggestions?

I had a similar situation. I decided to have lap band surgery and I only told one person. By the end of the week, multiple people I worked with were asking me about it. Luckily everyone was supportive. The friend I told initially, it turns out she did not believe in weightloss surgery and thought it was unneccessary. I can say we no longer speak now.