Hi all. I'm new here to the forum. I'm just graduated the Tufts "Can Change" program and am finally finding out my surgery date on the 7th. I'm so excited! I was wondering how many of you kept your surgery a secret? So far I've told my family, my very best friend and my boyfriend. I was just wondering how others handled their situation.

Thanks in advance!

I told my Husband, and my mother and sister. My mother is having it done too, so her husband knows, so soon all my town and the next town will know. My sister cares for my grandma so she knows, and she will tell all the aunts and uncles. And my husband blurted it out to my inlaws in the grocerie store. So its really a question of who doesnt know by now.

only family no tht I'm having this done is my husband and the Dr and the people In my support group thts all no about mines thts all who need to no and u guys

I've only told a few family members. I'm not ashamed but its just very personal. When people ask me how I've lost so much I tell them I stopped drinking soda and that I cut my portion size way down. It's not a lie because that's what I've done I just don't feel everyone needs to know my medical history!

some people can be so judgmental and have the nervous

I think everyone has to do what is right for them. I have told a few people but not many. Inside I want to tell people but then I chicken out.

I pretty much have to tell some people at work. Just my department though. I work in healthcare and can't work with lifting restrictions. My surgeon does 8 weeks of lifting restrictions, so I will be out 8 weeks. I don't want to lie, but 8 weeks will lead to questions. I already told my director because she is double checking the rules for restrictions for me. I am hoping we can work around it. But if it is a liability for the company, then they won't let me work.

As for others in my life, of course my husband knows. I have told my sister and a couple friends. My immediate family and Close friends I plan to tell, but that's it. If extended family ask I won't lie.

I am really happy about my decision and excited for my jounrney. I don't want to feel like it is something to be ashamed of. But I also don't want to have to defend myself for skeptics over and over. My body, my decision. And I know this is the right decision to finally be happy and healthy. :-)

The only 2 people that know are my sons

I haven't told anyone else so I thought I would have to go through this alone but thanks to this site I wont :-) my surgery is this Tuesday 25th

For those who told absolutely no one, just wondering--did you not have anyone with you at the hospital? How did you get home from the hospital? (don't you have to have someone there for them to release you?).

Although I have not had my surgery I don't plan on telling a soul. I will ask either my ex boyfirend or my aunt to pick me up. I plan on telling them that I had to have surgery to remove another cyst (happened last year). When I ge to the point of the liquid diet I will just tell everyone I am fasting to cleanse my system. As far as expaling small meals in the future when I eat out. I just plan on telling people that I ate something healthy at home before I came so i would not over eat...so ill just order a small appatizer...problem solved.

I should have kept a secret because those I've confided in told many people. Sucks.

I have told my parents, sisters and brothers and best friends. I have oy told 3 people I work with and dont want them to know.

I don't plan on telling anyone outside of my mom, except my immediate supervisor and HR when I do my FMLA paperwork. I told my best friend/co-worker that I had my consultation. She's chomping at the bit to tell EVERYONE she knows that knows me. I told her I would kill her... it's my personal business. She had the audacity to tell me that I don't have the right to keep my business a secret. Made her a deal, she can tell my business, when I can discuss her procedure that no one knows about but me. After all, you don't have the right to keep your business a secret. Problem solved

As of right now only my husband, my mom and best friend know. I haven't decided how I'm going to handle questions from others nor decided how to handle my inlaws. I know they will be so against it. And the majority of my friends are health/fitness fanatics and personal trainers so I know they won't understand.

As of right now only my husband' date=' my mom and best friend know. I haven't decided how I'm going to handle questions from others nor decided how to handle my inlaws. I know they will be so against it. And the majority of my friends are health/fitness fanatics and personal trainers so I know they won't understand.[/quote']

Well I'm just explaining that I took care of medical issues and started Atkins, which if you bread up on you will see the bariatric diet is comparable.

Initially I planned to tell only my husband and kids and a couple close friends. As it has gotten closer and has become real, I have been telling more people. Everyone is supportive and excited for me. My husband went on a diet with me -the rat bastard lost 50 pounds to my paltry 15 - and has been supportive.

So I would say play it by ear ad do what is comfortable for you. It has become much easier to talk about the more I do so. And I have found support in the oddest places. Good luck!