I am having surgery on December 10th. And although I am looking forward to it I am getting more and more afraid of how I will look afterwards. I am about 5 foot 4 and I am ashamed to say that I weight almost 260 which is the highest I have ever been in my life. Just think last year I weighed 160 but after I had a baby and the weight won't come off. I lost weight before on the modified fast and I looked fine- thats when i got down to the 160 which was about 75 lbs in 6 months.Other than my chest went from a 46ddd to 36dd I didn't have saggy skin. I am just scared of how I will look after the fact. Is this stupid?

Oh, I'm with you... I just bought a bunch of creams and I'm planning on working out once I'm cleared. Loose skin freaks me out. To be honest, I'm afraid my husband won't be attracted to me if I have it. He hasn't been negative or anything... but, I'm still worried.

I agree with you about the skin. I think my husband would be grossed out by it which would make my insecurities increase. I am hoping that it doesn't get that bad so as of right now I am putting myself on a pre surgery plan. I already mentioned that I was starting to tighten but I have been lazy. I need to get serious. I don't want to see the skin either so I need to do what gotta do.

Lol, some people post while at the hospital!

Iplan on being a YouTube video loser. I want to be able to see my progress so I guess I understand why people post at the hospital

Has anyone looked at YouTube videos to see the progress of some of the people who had the surgery. Some of them look really good while others unfortunately have the dreaded skin.

Iplan on being a YouTube video loser. I want to be able to see my progress so I guess I understand why people post at the hospital

You know, I love watching those videos! They inspire so much. If you do become one, I'd like to follow you on there. I am too shy to do the videos but I will probably post before and after pictures and then put them on youtube. The only thing is that I look so different when I am thin and when I am heavy that nobody ever believes my pictures. lol

Come on! If i can do it you can too! I hate taking pictures but i think it will be a tool to remember where i started. Its not like i will wear a thong or anything. Ugggghhh i just pictured how that would look. I am not trying to scare anyone lol.

This is a small concern for me as well. I asked my wife what would be worse, fat, or loose skin. She didn't even hesitate... loose skin. I'm not going to focus on that right now though. My surgery is likely to be in early January. I figure that while I'm recovering, I'll look more closely, but excercise and perhaps some creams or lotions, or even Vitamins will help mitigate the issue. If all else fails, there's always surgery, but that wouldn't be my desired way to go.

My advice: take it one step at a time. Put the first thing first. When that's over, focus on the next step.

Be well...

My husband told me the SAME thing and he is a big guy. He likes my curves and even likes my size (I'm the first big girl he ever dated). I'm tall (almost 5'11") so I worry what that sagging skin would look like on someone my height. I've seen a few videos on YouTube but all the women were shorter than me.

Has anyone looked at YouTube videos to see the progress of some of the people who had the surgery. Some of them look really good while others unfortunately have the dreaded skin.

I have and you're right, some people look like they were never over weight and others make me feel so sad for them because of how sad they are with their skin. This is a major concern of mine too. Not enough to stop me from pursuing surgery but enough to give me pause.

I know that plastic surgery would be out of the question for me. It's so expensive and I couldn't afford to take the time off work.

The doc office was telling ppl at the meeting that insurance company's don't cover the removing of skin as a cosmetic procedure however if it us medically needed they will. She said to the group if their is anything bumps boils etc go to see the main doc in let them Note everything every-time it happens b/c than it is Likely it will be covered. She told us see has never seen a case where it didn't get covered. Especially b/c of the fact that we are having the type of procedure we are.

I asked my wife what would be worse, fat, or loose skin. She didn't even hesitate... loose skin. I'm not going to focus on that right now though.

I'm sure that her answer was contextual. Did you say something like, "honey, which do you think looks worse on me, extra fat, or loose skin?". She gave you a quick honest answer.

But what if you had asked "honey, would you rather I risk developing heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, cancer, etc., or have some loose skin?"

Obviously, your wife would want you to live a long healthy life with her, extra skin be damned. The health benefits of your weight loss are INFINITELY more important, long lasting and satisfying than the small cosmetic drawback of excess skin (which can be improved with exercise, good skin maintenance and if necessary, cosmetic surgery).

Your attitude about not focusing on that right now is spot on!

Keep your eye on the "prize" and don't worry about possible negative outcomes that are related (such as the skin thing). You KNOW you will lose the weight, be more healthy, more fit and increase your longevity as well as your day-to-day quality of life. You MAY (or may not) develop some excess skin along the way.

If you do, you can deal with it once you've reached your weight loss goal. It will be "Phase Two" of your transformation!