So, I've been reading about everyone and wanting to lose weight and be there for their spouses/kids/grandkids. Now I want to hear from the single ladies (men). How have you been now that you've lost (losing) weight? Do you have dating worthy confidence now? Have you been on dates? Have you discussed the surgery? How have you handled going out to dinner? I want all the juicy details.

Personally, the depression looms as I turn 35 in a couple days and I'm alone (no kids). I haven't been on a date in maybe 5 years. This is so embarrasing. I look forward to having the confidence to go back online.

Good for you....

My first first date ever was a success! We talked for over an hour and a half and it never got awkward. I am reasonably sure he'll want to see me again.

That's awesome. Was it dinner? Did you tell him about the surgery? I know people say to order an appetizer and no one will notice how little you are eating, but if we can only eat a couple of spoonfuls of Soup or something, surely they will notice.

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It was coffee, so no food involved. I had decaf tea. If he wants to do food, I'm going to request a taqueria, where I can get a quesadilla and the staff doesn't look at you funny if you can't finish it.

I have another date on Thursday with a different guy. There's a place here that does a little happy hour, so I'm figuring on a glass of wine and chicken wings or something. If the wine gets to my head, I have a friend 2 blocks from the place and I can hang out with her.

Go on girl, do your thang!!!

Thats for the shout out to the single ladies!! Im 32 single and no kids... I actually used to date a lot at 300+ but the guys were not of my liking ill say....i decided to stop the whole dating thing until my transformation is complete. I am one month post op and 30lbs down. I want to wait until im about 60-80lbs down to get back out there. Im excited to hopefully find a good one

I'm "waking up" this thread from a yr ago.. Whatever happened with the dating website?

Erika, your timing is amazing. Thursday will be one year out from surgery and 128 pounds down and was JUST thinking about this. As in yesterday. I had forgotten all about this thread. I think it's still a great idea and I would love to be involved some how. I know there is a facebook group for WLS that talks about sex and body image and stuff but it's not a dating site. I'm going to do some research and see if anything has come about in the past year. Wow, the difference a year makes.

I want to hear how dating has been going for people. I have not been out on a date but I do have a couple of profiles out there now.

Yay!! Well first of, congrats on ur weight loss, that's amazing!!!

My surgery is this Thursday... But would love to know what dating tools are available

October/ November 2012 was a dating whirlwind for me. All online. I had a chemistry.com subscription, okcupid, even had an ad on Craigslist. Met a guy on Craigslist late November, we've been dating ever since. I told him about the surgery in January by which time he'd already guessed. I don't think I have body image issues- pretty happy with my nekkid self (apart from a few specific positions). Going out to eat was weird for the first few times, but I warned him up front that I don't eat a lot.

I can't wait to start dating again. I really miss male attention. I also miss sex. I'll confess a secret little joke I have with myself. Ok, I HATE exercise. More than anything in the entire world and it's been this way my whole life even before I was morbidly obese. However I know it is now an essential part of my weight loss and body transformation. So I tell myself I am training for the holympics. ho + olympics = holympics. (crass I know but it makes me workout )

I am almost 14 months post op and haven't been on a date . I have had more attention I use to but not from the type of guys I want to date. I am terrified of dating because I still can only eat about 5 bites with out feeling sick. I also am terrified of being naked around a guy! My stomach is so bad and saggy and I know tmi but I swear the top of my nether regions is still really fat! I am 28 and single and haven't had anyone seriously interested in me since high school. I have given up. I just don't think it's going to happen for me! Guess it's just me and my romance novels for a while

I'm a week post-op (RnY) & kind of have the opposite worries. As a big curvy girl I had no lack of suitors & many of them were not happy about my choice to have surgery lol. BUT most of those guys were only interested in hooking up; NOT in having a relationship

But for me, it was about being healthy & being able to be active & enjoy life again.

But now I worry if I'll get the same amount of attention as a smaller woman? I'm hoping so. And hoping that I'll attract men that would be happy to have me as a partner also outside of the bedroom.

Folks, I will remind my husband (fiddleman) about his website idea...I think it's a great idea too, an would make a good project.

Ladies.

60 year old married man here.

Some observations:

The majority of women in America are overweight. American men date and marry.

You are ahead of the curve, you are losing weight in a very tanagable way.

Ok I know it is fiction, but, I am reminded of an episode of Always Sunny in Philadelphia.. Mac is dating a Pre- op trans- sexual. His friends say " dude she has a penis"

Mac says " yes, but she is getting rid of it eventually"

You are getting rid of the lbs. We men are not that sensitive.

Remember the scene in Eat, Pray , love. Where she tells the Sweedish girl that just gained15pounds.

" if you are in bed With a guy he is thinking 1 thing. " OMG! I won the lottery"

I have seen 3 friends ( that I thought would never date-- all in their 60's-- 70s) just meet someone. 2 online, 1 at a neighborhood party. They are soooooo Happy, and I an soooooo happy for them.

You are young and taking control of your lives. You are in the best possible place!

Go for it.

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/topic/96637-december-2013-sleevers-come-in/

Here's a thread for December sleevers.