Im really grumpy and miss food. My husband came home today from picking up the step kids bragging about eating in n out burgers. Im so frustrated and partly jealous. Has anyone else gone threw this?

I month out.

Im really grumpy and miss food. My husband came home today from picking up the step kids bragging about eating in n out burgers. Im so frustrated and partly jealous. Has anyone else gone threw this?

I month out.

That is not very nice! I guess this would be one reason for me to be glad I'm single!

_{I am so sorry that he is not being more supportive! It does take some time for them to come around. My hubby has got a lot better. I had to get on him because I am a private person and I didnt tell any one about my surgery...well if we were eating with people at their houses, or out at a resturant and I would gat up to go to the bathroom he would start talking about how I am probably throwing up in the bathroom! OMG I had a few times that he said this and the people looked at me like I had an eating disorder! Talk about being pissed off! I had to sit him down and tell him that this was not acceptable. He has gotten a lot better, but they are men after all.....they dont take change well, and they dont get a hint...you have to tell them straight forward!}

_{As for eating In N Out...that stuff is sooo good it hurts to think about! The good news is that you will be able to have that eventually....just not a double double, animal style with animal style fries, and the soda! Now that I am a year out I will occationally have a single cheeseburger from there, and I will finish about 2/3rds of it, I just throw the rest of it away.....got my craving over with and that is that. good luck to you!}

Funny, I had an In N Out Burgers moment today...was passing by and thought how delicious one would be...I even tried to rationalize how I could have one with out the dressing to save calories. Luckily, it was all in my head and I wasn't actually hungry. I also thought about how one cheeseburger would exceed my total calories for one day. These moments do happen, but you have to remind yourself of what your goals are and let your weight loss motivate you to keep going. Besides, a big greasy burger this early in the game would probably make us sick.

I was talking about in & Out with my husband yesterday and saying.... that is one place I have no current solution for. We will not be going there for a long time together, since I am 19 days post op. There are so many other places with sleeve friendly options. He can go there with out telling me all about it. It is for sure one of the things I will miss, but not worth staying overweight for~!

I will have it again one day... cheeseburger protein style... im sure it'll be 1/16th of what my mind will want to eat. Was not prepared for the bragging.

I'm almost one month out as well. My sister has done almost the same thing to me, but to make it worse she actually ATE MCDONALDS IN FRONT OF ME, and I was only 5 days post op. Talk about being a jerk. I almost cried, haha. I know McDonalds doesn't even compare to In N Out, but the feelings are still the same. I wanted to punch her! Haha. But, honestly, no cheeseburger is EVER going to be good enough for me to stay overweight for! And that's all I keep telling myself when I get cravings...it's just not worth it!

I will have it again one day... cheeseburger Protein style... im sure it'll be 1/16th of what my mind will want to eat. Was not prepared for the bragging.

I hope you took a moment, privately, to share your feelings with him. I'll assume the best, and think he wasn't even aware of what he said, or how it would affect you...but he really needs to be more conscious of his words...at least until you've gotten past the point of caring (quite so much) about what you can't have. I went through periods of anger related to what I will never be able to eat again (even if that "never" is strictly by my own choice), but it has gotten much better. I want so badly to be at a healthy weight....and that far outweighs any fleeting desire I might have for a particular (and unhealthy) food item! Best of luck to you!!

I know the soloution to In n Out cravings. There is one thing you can do that will make that particular craving go away forever.

At 1 month out, that's awful. I hope you told him how that made you feel. If he doesn't know it upset you he will probably do it again. At 1 month out I didn't want to eat ANYTHING. I used to eat McDonald's, Taco Bell, or In N Out every single day. For the first few months after surgery I had no desire to eat anything let along fast food. Now that I'm further along the cravings have come back. I don't deny myself anything though. I count calories so if I really really want an In N Out burger I save up enough calories for the 3 bites I'll be able to eat.

The money thing helps too. Spending $8 on a meal I am only able to eat a tiny portion of is no fun.

Sorry that happened. Just focus on the outcome. Don't trade what you want now for what you want most.

I'm 1 month out. My husband and I just too a trip to lake superior. ( 7 hour drive ) on this drive the man would stop and get milk duds, whoppers, beef jerky. At first it really bugged me but I got used to it. I just kept thinking.... " this was my decision, and I shouldn't expect him to change his ways, though it would have been nice. Hang in there when the weight starts melting away, it won't matter :-)